What is tonguelash in a "paws" abuser

 Many children's rights professionals in particular do not understand where sexual abuse comes from, due to understandable reasons. Over 90% of sexual abusers are undetected entirely. This is likely because the collective gaslighting of society is set up to only flag the worst abusers, while hiding the more "benign" abusers. This is a common argument by pro-pedophile/anti-pedophilia advocates. Why is this? There is a human facade to this claim. The "paws" abuser. The concept of tonguelash makes them very difficult to detect. They are also very endearing abusers, meaning many of their mannerisms - associated with a moderate autism spectrum disorder - elicit sympathy from others. 

These are pedophiles in the purest sense, and are passing down intergenerational trauma in the opposite directional way. Most child abuse in the United States involves same directional generational transcending trauma, meaning grandparents spanking/punishing the parents of a child, and then the child is at the bottom of the heap. I AM a "paws" pedophile, and I am permissive by nature. My understanding is that most all sexual abuse fits that profile.

What connotation can one attach to such abuse, from the outside? Graveyard shift. Best friend turned mad. Rainy, dark point. Domestic call (police reluctant, in a dismissive way). Most abuse swept underground. Most of this abuse actually does not involve sexual contact, but sexual harassment. These are very benign, annoying calls for police - "yeah, that kid with autism keeps pestering the neighborhood girls. Where's his parents. Yeah, he's like 25, but still, he's young...". 

Tonguelash refers to where this "amicable" abuse leads at the end. Usually, this involves the abuser getting in the wrong situation, at the wrong time, in a way that they are clearly responsible. An example would be a young adult man walking into the a child's room in the middle of the night - a 12-year-old girl sleeping over with his 15-year-old sister. She pushes him off, and then the abuser states "please! I can't sleep! I'm scared!". Then, the girl says "well, okay". He then rapes her through her night clothing. The parents rush in terrified, knowing exactly what those sounds meant...Then he gets a light sentence. His "law enforcement" attitude, inherent of his diagnosed ASD, got him far. The judge liked him. 2 years - in Wernersville State Hospital (the one forensic psychiatric institution here in Berks County), where he would simply be tried on mood stabilizers.

It comes out of nowhere, in a sudden way that is very shocking. The abuser is simply goofy, perhaps in a sexual way, then they turn on their victim. It is a reason I can get ANGRY at some people in the Virtuous Pedophiles community, despite still defending their existence. Not every pedophile is like me, meaning having the risk level that I do. Most are capable of this sort of abuse, but in a very remote level - think saying someone with autism, in some remote situation removed from everything, is capable of raping ducks or zoophilia (it's like speculating about what a child is capable of sexually, referring to their low risk around children). It is INSULTING for people to SPEAK OVER my intuition. Sometimes, a parent just knows that they are capable of hurting their child, and NOBODY can convince us otherwise...I simply point out that they have the same tendency as me, but have the tendency hidden in a way that it will never show, because they experience sexual shame from abusive religious parents. Most of them are not as impulsive as I was, and are more like how I am now. Do youv realize, dear VP, that I had to CHAR MYSELF IN THE REVERSE as you. I thought I was all that, so God convicted me that I was inherently evil and deserving of punishment due to my nature, and then you are pressed to find things wrong with yourself and your attitude, and then you remedy them, and then when your life improves, you feel better, like an hourglass. I center the hourglass around my parent, holding in my pedophilic disorder, keeping the extension cord from plugging into a child's butt.

My agenda? Normalize restraining pedophiles - meaning reformatory ones. There are already organization that believe in what I am talking about. The Virtuous Pedophiles organization was founded in 2012 to make aware to the public that non-offending, non-abusive pedophiles who refuse (the pedophile community is currently infiltrated by a collective religious abuser - GirlChat/BoyChat) to abuse children exist. Now VirPed made "the potholes" well-known...We tend to talk about restraining ourselves from sexually abusing children as normal as an ordinary parent talks lightly about their choice not to spank or punish a child, and their refusal to do so. Sometimes, you need to talk lightheartedly yet seriously to blow off steam. That's what VirPed is for. I am opposed to that type of talk on the Internet leaving spaces like VirPed, meaning things like talk about children's body parts, child sexualty, etc. (I never heard about child sexuality until going there - and then I internalized quite a bit here in restraining format). Yes, that's the most detail that I see at VirPed - body parts and such, in the text. Yes, liken it to a preteen boy wondering what is underneath the clothes of the opposite sex. It's a curious form of attraction, where you'd be satisfied with her just showing you (everything). Most of us have not seen the rest on the Internet.