Crying: Why crying in children is not bad behavior

Many parents have had to deal with it. A crying child. Most all, if not all, parents have had their child cry, sometimes seemingly out of nowhere. However, the fact of the matter is that crying was not seen as bad behavior in the Early Church.

The Bible, as understood in context, calls for a secure bond between parent and child. See Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to surrender of a specific type - surrender to the loving arms of mothers especially. Ultimately, this commandment refers to a secure bond between parent and child within the family home. In a securely attached parent-child relationship, children naturally listen after the child turns 6. The context, when used as a guidepost, tells us how to form a secure bond with your child.

Whenever children cried in the Early Church, mothers swooped in to respond to the cries of her children, meaning she cooed before diagnosing the child's needs. This is because Christian parents in the Early Church knew then more than today's parents that crying out of nowhere always was the child's way of petitioning a vulnerable need to parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever mom went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held, either in mom's loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Children in the Early Church went naked wherever they went, until the day they became an adult. Mothers also went naked within the context of the family home.

Customary law then understood children as having five basic categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - with the greatest of these needs being attachment! Most of the time, children cried due to separation anxiety, which was counted as an attachment need then. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were seemingly attached at the hip of mothers, crying whenever mom was out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mothers would "go away and never come back". 

Children, for the first 6 years of childhood, require around-the-clock care from mothers. Children cried for needs, and the mother cooed before diagnosing the need. Children then were seen as babies before turning age 6. When children turned age 6, they started to rebel not by defiance, but by insisting on doing thing on their own. Usually, they did work around the house in a way to please parents. Children wanted to be close to parents some of the time, and other times, they insisted on doing things on their own.

It is recommended that mothers stay home with their children for the first 6 years of childhood in their children. This is because going to work as a mother fulfills the child's worst fear of mothers going away and never coming back. Children usually cry for attachment needs, and that includes the loving presence of mothers. 

The depraved and entitled parents who punish their children for crying will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent!