Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the proper way of doing time-in

Many parents, if not most, have to deal with it. A crying or upset child. Most parents punish children or else ignore children when they are crying or upset, thinking that crying is an attempt at "undermining" parents. However, children always cry for a reason, and the proper response for a child is time-in. The proper form of time-in is mammary closeness to children by mothers.

Proper time-in is mammary closeness, with mammary closeness being a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Parents are the enemy of children, just as mankind is the enemy of God, and are to submit as such. This surrender to parents came with strings attached on the part of parents, with children issuing righteous demands to their parents, usually when parents weren't pulling their weight.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women, but he sure loved children, and took in orphaned children. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were hated largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Time-in in biblical times happened differently in Christian homes in the Early Church than it did today. The modern gentle parenting advice is to kneel down to your children when they are having their moments of crying or upset. The Early Christians did not kneel down to the child's level, but instead picked up children. Young children under age 6 were picked up after their mother cooed at them, with children then being placed on the bosom of mothers. When mothers were out and about in public, young children were swaddled next to the bosom of mothers, in swaddling blankets. 

Older children then rarely threw temper tantrums in crying format, though they did order their parents quite a bit. When older children had a meltdown, in public or in private, they were picked up and cradled in the arms of mothers, in mammary closeness to mothers. Children were lightweight when they were crying or upset. Most crying of older children was in reaction to the word "no", which was rarely uttered to children - children had the authority to make righteous demands, and parents the duty to obey their child except when orders were unlawful or else unworkable.

Mammary closeness is where the child has close contact with the bosom area of mothers. The modern application of this context is in the context of birth nudity, where mothers and children were in the nude next to each other, quartered in their home by the needs of their child. The idea is to pick up a child when both of you are naked, and hold the child the child next to your bosom in mammary closeness. When out and about, swaddle your young child next to your bosom. With older children, crying and upset should be dealt with by taking the child to the ladies' room, and disrobe in a stall in order to serve your child.

A form of mammary closeness is breastfeeding itself. Mothers in biblical times breastfed their children, in most cases, until the child turned age 3, when the child pushed away the nipple. However, sometimes, children remained milk-dependent until the child was 6 or even older. With milk-dependent children, every night, mothers breastfed their child to sleep, and then co-slept next to her child. Co-sleeping did not end until the onset of puberty. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!