Parent anger: Why parent anger can be completely eliminated as a form of parental entitlement

Many parents feel entitled to getting angry at their children. Parental entitlement is at the core of our entitlement problem as a country, and the most common form of parental entitlement is parent anger. Most American parents think that anger is the thing that should guide parenting. The Bible disagrees. In biblical times, most parents had zero parent anger, due to taking an undeserving attitude towards their children.

It says in Matthew 5:21-22 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said of them of old time, Thou shalt not kill; and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment: But, I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire. 

The phrase "without a cause", in context, refers to anger in the course of righteous judgment, meaning anger is only allowed under Christian law in the context of righteous judgment, and otherwise, anger is a sin. Children cannot be judged righteously, as children are sacrosanct, meaning they can do no wrong. Even if a child does do something morally wrong, it isn't relevant for righteous judgment. Therefore, since children cannot be judged, it is immoral to get angry at a child for any reason. 

How can parents kick the habit of getting angry with their children? The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. Parental entitlement is when this entitlement is imposed on a child by an adult. The way to ditch parent anger is to declare yourself a depraved and decadent sinner who is deserving of absolutely nothing from your child. Parent anger comes from a deserving place, where you feel like you deserve certain things from your child. So, the idea is to take up an undeserving attitude in parenting, and know that you are deserving of absolutely nothing just for existing in relation to children as the parent that you are. YOU, as a parent, are deserving of absolutely nothing in relation to your children, as you are a depraved and decadent sinner deserving of nothing but DEATH and PUNISHMENT for your entitled existence. I myself, as a pedophilic adult, atone for my sinful nature in relation to children. You can too.

In the Early Church, most parents were devoid of parent anger. Instead of getting angry as a parent, they were concerned about their children, meaning they worried about their children. This worry is what drove parenting then. When children cried in biblical times, mothers reassured and validated their children by cooing, before cradling the child close to their bosoms in mammary closeness. Christian parents in the Early Church never got angry with their children, and any parent that did get angry was seen as a monster and a viper. The Greek root word υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) lifts up the attachment parenting context of the Early Church, and the customary laws that guided parenting then. See Col. 3:20 and Eph. 6:1. Ancient Jewish society was an attachment parenting society, not a punitive parenting society.

Any expression of anger towards a child was judged as a provocation to anger against the child target of parent anger. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.  

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings.

Many times, it can be hard to find the right place in your mind to take an undeserving attitude. In the Early Church, the attachment parenting done by the Early Christians was high on skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance. When you engage in skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance with your child for the first time, you'll regret not using that strategy sooner. When a child was crying or upset, Christian mothers in the Early Church would hold children close to their bare bosom in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. When children cried in public, they were held in skin-on-skin closeness to the mother, with children under age 6 being worn by the mother in swaddling blankets - all mothers had to do with a young child was hold them closer to her bosom and coo. Once you engage in skin-on-skin warmth and sustenance with your child, you should be in a frame of mind to take an undeserving attitude towards your child. 

Parents in the Early Church loved their children far more deeply than most parents do today. Ancient Jewish society as a whole was a child worshipping society. The child was seen as a Godhead in the family home, and parents submitted to their children dutifully and selflessly, expecting absolutely nothing in return. For a Christian mother in the Early Church, her child was the center of her world, and so she showered that child with sustaining warmth. When a child died, most mothers were at, at least, some suicide risk, and some mothers did commit suicide to "be with" their child in Heaven. Mothers loved their children so much that getting angry with them was seen as an act of monstrosity. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!