The word "no": Why the word "no" is to be seldom used

Many parents think that children need to hear the word "no". This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most American parents say "no" to their children in virtually every interaction they have with their children. This is not what the Bible actually says about dealing with children. The Bible, when understood in context, clearly spells out when the word "no" can be used and when 

The word "no", by default, is a violation of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission as set forth for parents and children. There were a few exceptions, but for the most part, it was unlawful to say "no" to the lawfully binding orders of children. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul as lifting up the customary law that commands a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to submit to children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments and controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his writings. 

The word "no", by default, was prohibited to use on any child within the Early Christian Churches of God. Children could issue lawfully binding orders to parents, and parents, from there, were lawfully obligated to obey the orders of their children. For the most part, there was no getting out of it. Lawfully disobeying an order of a dependent child had to be justified under the Law, meaning either the orders had to be in violation of the Law, or else be completely unworkable. 

Children could take parents to court in the Early Church, where the parents would be placed before a council of 3 elders of the church, who would decide the fate of the parents. In justifying the word "no", they had to prove that the word "no" was delivered reassuringly and that all opportunities for compromise were exhausted before using the word "no". Even then, any deprivation for mere punishment purposes immediately lead to a rebuke. If the parents didn't repent and turn away from punitive parenting - even to that degree - they were excommunicated and left to fend for themselves in relation to the Romans. Children were collected by "child saviors", or non-contact pedophiles charged with bringing in the children, and taking in the children when they were without parents. Demanding sexual ransom was unlawful under the Law and considered fornication. 

The word "no" could not be backed up by punishment at all. Parents were required by law to reassure any temper tantrum coming from the word "no". Punishing the temper tantrum alone would be grounds for excommunication, no matter what kind of punishment was used or how mild the punishment was. Even a forceful rebuke from a parent was unlawful, and grounds for a counter-rebuke from a child, as punishing or harshly reprimanding a child was a provocation to anger.

Children were seen in the Early Church as the salt and light of the world, sitting high atop a mounted hill, casting high judgment upon all adult-kind. Ancient Jewish society, including the Early Church, was a child worshipping society, not a child enslaving society. Children were seen as sacrosanct, and representatives of God. Children could do no wrong in the eyes of the Law. Children made up the upper class of Ancient Jewish society, wherever their parents were in society. See also John 7:24 and Matt. 25:31-46.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!