Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical application of time-in

Many parents think that punishment is an acceptable way to deal with a crying child. The most common way that American parents deal with a crying child is time-out, many times in conjunction with a disciplinary spanking. There are better ways of dealing with a crying or upset child, especially if you are their mother. Time-in is way to deal with a crying child that involves comforting the child instead of punihing them. Skin-on-skin options, or mammary closeness, were used in biblical times to comfort and reassure a crying or upset child. 

Time-in exists in the context of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. Parents are to be submissive to their children, just as mankind is submissive to God, serving their children as their enemy. In turn, children are to rest safely and securely in the love and submission of their parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children rest safely and securely in the submission of parents. Parents are to submit to their children as their enemy, from beneath yet from above, revering and fearing children as vulnerable extensions of God. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in it original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishment of a child. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Children, in biblical times, wore absolutely no clothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise went in the nude, in order to serve their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. Children, when they cried or were upset, were reassured with skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy, usually in the form of co-snuggling, when children were at home with their mothers, with mothers and children snuggling with each other in the nude. When children were defiant or aggressive, children were restrained lightly, with mothers then curling up with them in the fetal position. All of this was done in skin-on-skin format, with mothers taking off their dress in public in order to deal with a defiant or aggressive child. With smaller children, they were picked up, meaning not restrained, before being held in the fetal position.

How do you, as a mother, apply the abovementioned context? When children are crying or upset, mothers should disrobe, perhaps to the level of underwear, but preferably to a state of full nudity. Then, invite the upset or tantrumming child to throw off the clothing. Then, snuggle with them in skin-on-skin fashion. If out and about, and the child is crying, upset, or throwing a temper tantrum, take them to the ladies' room and tuck them under your shirt. If the child is still milk-dependent, offer them to breastfeed. If you use skin-on-skin comfort with your child just once, you will wonder why you haven't used it before. Skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance gels a secure attachment between mother and child. Fathers bond with children by witnessing this process, by way of sexual attachment ("wanting in"), using masturbatory fantasy to purge the unrequited lusts.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!