Parent anger: Why parents aren't to get angry with their children

Many parents feel that they have the right to get angry with their children. This is a common belief amongst American parents. Most American parents feel as if they have the right to get angry at their children, and most American parents do get angry at their children. However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible prohibits all anger towards a child.

It says in Matthew 5:21-22 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said of them of old time, Thou shalt not kill, and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment: But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire. 

Here, Christ is comparing unrighteous anger to murder. The phrase "without a cause" means, in this context, any anger at your child outside of righteous judgment. However, children were considered sacrosanct in the biblical context, meaning children could do no wrong, even if they did. Children were treated as royalty, meaning they were seen as representatives of God, meaning getting angry with a child was the same as getting angry with God. Thus, any anger at a child is perjury, and is to be avoided at all costs.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement, including parental entitlement, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement refers to wanting things from children, period. It is good not to want things in life, including from children. But, since we all want things from children as depraved and decadent adults, and so we should ask politely and appropriately for things that we want from children. Most entitlement comes from a deserving place, where the adult believes that they deserve things from children. When you feel that you deserve a certain imposed standard from children, and they don't provide what you think you deserve, you get angry, and then lash out at the child because they didn't give you what they want. You, dear parents, are depraved and decadent sinners, who are deserving of absolutely nothing in relation to children.

How do you detox from parent anger? The first thing you can do is change your beliefs about children, in terms of deservances. Most parent anger comes from the belief in parents that they are deserving of certain things from children. Declare yourself a depraved and decadent sinner in relation to children, and know that because of that self-declaration, that you are deserving of absolutely nothing from children. Once you become convicted of the fact that you are deserving of nothing in relation to children, you will stop demanding things from children, and you will focus on what THEY need, not what you need from them. 

What you first do is tell yourself that, because of your parent anger, that you are a depraved and decadent sinner, who is deserving of absolutely nothing. Once you feel correctly that you are deserving of absolutely nothing as a parent, you will demand less from children, to the point where you will not demand at all from them. Entitled demands come from a deserving belief system, and usually, in this country, that belief system is centered around children. The idea is to lose your deserving beliefs surrounding children, and believe the opposite - that you are deserving of nothing from children, and thus are to want nothing from children.

Parents are to avoid offending their child with their parent anger at all costs. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishments or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong, thereby treating them as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up this legal context in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing their children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Parent anger is something that comes from entitlement. That sort of parental entitlement is what the Bible prohibits for children. In Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Church, parents didn't get angry. Instead, parents earned the respect of their children, instead of feeling deserving of respect from children, and they did this through providing for children nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comfort. Even in modern Jewish culture, apart from the most non-practicing of Jews, parent anger is absent in parents. Judaism is the root religion of Christianity, and Christ died and Rose in order to spread those Judeo-Christian values.

The parent entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through parent anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!