Judeo-Christian family values: How to teach them to your children (without spanking or punishment)

Many parents want to teach their children Judeo-Christian family values. The majority of American parents want to teach their children Judeo-Christian values. It is a myth that Judeo-Christian family values can only be taught using punitive parenting. The fact of the matter is that attachment parenting can be used to teach any values system, including the Judeo-Christian values system.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, want, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, entitlement refers to the slightest of unattainable want. If you want anything that will lead to a temper tantrum upon hearing the word "no", don't want it, and avoid that want at all costs. Entitlement, in most all cases, comes from a deserving attitude, where you take the attitude that you deserve things in life, enough to make a demand. The idea is to flip over that attitude, and take an undeserving attitude towards everyone in life. An entitled person sets expectations for everyone and everything in their lives, and when things don't go their way, they are sorely disappointed and throw a hissy fit. Children are watching. Children learn from what they see in adults. So, curb that entitlement in relation to children. This also means avoid parental entitlement, meaning entitlement from children.

Children need a good Judeo-Christian example in their lives. However, an example alone is not going to cut it. Children need something to back up their parents' example, and it isn't punitive parenting. Punishment of any kind does not back up a non-entitled Christian example, but instead drives children far away from the faith. Attachment parenting is the only way to impart Judeo-Christian values to children. Attachment parenting gives children a safe place to absorb and internalize Judeo-Christian values. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, dutifully and selflessly submitting to children just as they would God, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in the submission of parents. Children are to rest safely and securely in the presence of parents, trusting parents in all things, following mothers around especially like goslings to a mother goose.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul here was lifting up this legal context in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child.

Children, in biblical times, wore absolutely no clothing, at all, until they became adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, otherwise going in the nude, in order to serve both their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by providing for them nourishment and sustenance, namely attachment parenting items such as breastfeeding and skin-on-skin comforting strategies. By day, children ranged next to mothers when in the home. When out and about, mothers wrapped up their young children (under age 6) to their bosom in swaddling blankets, perhaps allowing them to breastfeed. By night, mothers co-slept next to their children, in skin-on-skin format, allowing very young children to breastfeed throughout the night. Fathers also formed a secure attachment to children, by witnessing the mother-child bond. Most of the time, this secure attachment from fathers came in the form of a sexual attachment, where the father used connotational sexual attraction to imprint onto the child. Most fathers dealt with sexual self-entitlement by purging the unrequited lusts using masturbation. Actual child sexual abuse then was rare next to non-existent, but when it did happen, the offender was seen as deserving of death, even in the New Testament, where Christ abolished the death penalty. 

Attachment parenting helps win over children to the values of their parents. Punishment is clearly unnecessary to teach children good Judeo-Christian values. Attachment parenting gives children a safe place to absorb and internalize Judeo-Christian values at their own pace. When a parent raises children the attachment parenting way, children end up wanting to be like their parents. They then do the hard work necessary to follow in the footsteps of their parents. Most children will not fully master Judeo-Christian values until they are teenagers or young adults. Attachment parenting is the most time-honored and time-tested way of parenting, dating back to prehistoric times.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!