Pro-social skin-on-skin, pro-social closeness: How to deal with a ramping up child

All parents have dealt with a ramping up child from time to time, if not all the time and on an everyday basis. This is a common issue in parenting that parents have to deal with. Temper tantrums are common childhood behavior. The fact of the matter is that temper tantrums are normal behavior for a child, and does not mean a child is "bad" or "naughty". It simply means that your child is doing the best with the flawed nature that God gave them.

The Apostle Paul wrote in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest securely in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with children being Godheads for parents to serve, with children resting in the full submission of parents. Parents are the enemy of children, just as mankind is the enemy of God, with parents being subservient to them just as they are to Him, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or anyone else, with children resting while owing absolutely nothing to parents.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as any damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding a child hostage merely for things that they did wrong. Paul was lifting up this legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular belief, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child. Paul, here, was lifting up the Law in order to educate Greek and Roman parent newcomers about the Jewish parenting traditions of the Christian Church, which were attachment-based in nature.

What should a parent do if their child is ramping up and starts to throw a temper tantrum? Children need to be with their mother, since there are certain things only the mother can do. Mammary closeness is the key alternative to spanking and corporal punishment. Mammary closeness involves a mother holding their child to their bosom, preferably in skin-on-skin format. In response to tears, mothers should co-snuggle with children in skin-on-skin format in order to soothe the tears of their children.

Children, in biblical times, wore no clothing, at all, until adulthood. Women only wore clothing outside the home, otherwise going in the nude in order to serve their husbands and their children. Mothers served their children by providing nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (up until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. Children cried and threw tantrums often for their parents in biblical times, and mothers responded to the cries and shrieks by co-snuggling next to their children in skin-on-skin format, with both mother and child completely in the nude, resting in total bliss!... This context is applicable today just as it was in the days of old. 

Skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy should come in the form of mammary closeness. Mammary closeness can be done either with a low-cut top or by the mother disrobing in order to accommodate the child's body upon them. What happens is that there are nerves on both your body and the child's body that meet when the child has physical contact with the bosom area, and that leads to relaxation, with crying stopping within 1-2 minutes. Preferably, skin should be exposed and in contact with the child's skin, but when on the go, any contact with the bosom by mothers should work in soothing tears. In Ancient Israel, children went completely naked, and that was so that mothers could easily hold them in their bosom when they became upset.

Fathers should take a different approach to a ramping up child, as fathers are to nurture from afar. Fathers are to verbally reassure children by saying "I'm here to listen" and listen empathetically to a child's upset, empathizing with the child and not their own self-entitlement. Fathers can become close to their children by becoming aware of their parent attraction to their children, and re-channel it inwards using solo masturbation. Having a fantasy for your child makes it easier to relate to them in real life, and makes any sexual thoughts about your children easier to control. When this closeness is created, fathers will feel morally compelled to reassure a crying child. But, fathers should always default to the mother, and when the mother becomes present, hand the child over to the mother.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!