How to teach sexual purity to a child - without punishment or shaming

Many parents still want to teach the old values of sexual purity to children. I, as a Christian dominionist, support legislating sexual purity norms and codifying them into the English common law, just like in the days of old in the Bible. Sexual purity is an important lesson for children to learn. However, there are better ways to teach it than punishing them or shaming them.

The Apostle Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 KJV:

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body: but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body and your spirit, which are God's.

The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and most literally translates to "outside of proper channels" in terms of sexual relations. Any sexual contact with another person outside of a lawfully-recognized marriage was seen as a fraudulent marriage, thus fornication. A fraudulent marriage defiled the sex offender to the core, rendering him unclean until the even. The proper channels then for a man and a woman to get a marriage license, sign the papers signifying the marriage, then sign the final marriage contract on the dotted line, which was sexual intercourse. Sexual relations were regulated, and were regulated by the lawful necessity to sign the marriage papers and get a marriage contract. It was the way to avoid spreading venerial disease, but God never repealed the commandment to remain sexual pure and abstain from all sexual relations until marriage. This commandment was generally enforced on the man, not the woman, as the woman was seen as led astray by the man under the Law.

The Greek root word denoting lust and inordinate affections in the Bible is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not merely to any sexual desire, but to sexual desire to the point of taking the first steps to approach a woman for sexual or flirtatious purposes. Masturbation was seen in biblical times as an acceptable way to spend away sexual desire when a man was single, or when a man was without his wife present. Masturbation didn't carry a stigma like it does today.

Punishing a child for their sexuality was considered a moral crime against the child. It says in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any form of punishment or controlling demeanor towards a child. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding a child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul here was lifting up this legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child. Paul, here, was lifting up the Law in order to educate Greek and Roman parent newcomers to the Christian Church about proper Jewish parenting norms, which were attachment-based in nature. The Early Church was considered a sect of Judaism during the 1st Century.

Children in biblical times played freely, albeit with supervision. Many of the games played by children then were high-risk by today's standards. One such game was "marriage", where children pretend-played a Jewish wedding ceremony. Children went naked in biblical times, wherever they went. The final part of a wedding in biblical times was sexual intercourse. Most children role-played the final step by embracing each other. Sometimes, a boy penetrated the girl, in which case the two were separated. But, the parents did not shame the boy, but instead reassured him that "you'll get to do that, someday", encouraging delayed gratification by reassuring the child that they would get their chance at sexual relations when they were older.

Parents prevented sexual liaisons between children by closely supervising children, especially those of the opposite sex when playing amongst each other. Parents were always supervising children, no matter what, and a child never left the line of sight of parents until they were adults. When parents were present in supervising children, nothing could happen, and when it did happen, children were separated and redirected to masturbation. Usually, the sexual targets of children were parents of the opposite sex, or cousins.

Masturbation was a common behavior amongst children in biblical times. Children as young as age 3 started masturbating. Usually, the sexual thought was about parents of the opposite sex, and children usually "checked out" the parent of the opposite sex before indulging in sexual fantasy about the child. Sometimes, a child approached the parent of the opposite sex for sexual favors, and then they were redirected to masturbation by their parents. Children who had sexual contact with their parents had to atone for their sins later before the altar, before being baptized as adults. Usually, though, children just looked the look with their parents, and had a masturbatory fantasy about them later.

Christian parents in the 1st Century were among the most non-shaming parents in terms of teaching sexual purity. With boys, chastity was portrayed as a game that involved competition as to who could be the most chaste, and hold the most restraint in terms of their sexual drive. Girls were encouraged also to be chaste, by way of parents encouraging delayed gratification. Parents never punished a child at all for a sexual transgression, but instead redirected the child to masturbation.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!