Why co-sleeping is crucial for the secure parent-child bond

Co-sleeping is sleeping next to your child as they go to sleep. Many parents believe that co-sleeping is the irresponsible choice to make as a parent. This is a common opinion among American parents. Most American parents oppose co-sleeping as a means of forming a secure parent-child bond. However, co-sleeping fosters that secure bond between parent and child, and has not been shown in legitimate scientific study to lead to any harm. In fact, co-sleeping saves lives, and prevents abuse such as child sexual abuse from occurring in the home.

Attachment parenting is the way of the ancients, and is enshrined in the Bible. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, with children resting as the Godhead in the family home. Parents are the enemy of children, just as mankind is the enemy of God, and are to be subservient to children just as they are to God, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punishment and controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen then as holding a child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul here was lifting up this legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child. Paul, here, was educating Greek and Roman newcomers to the Christian Church of the proper Jewish parenting traditions of the church, which were attachment parenting in nature.

It is common knowledge that many 2-6 year old children refuse to go to sleep on their own at night. Many parents think that children are just being defiant for the sake of being defiant when they do that. The fact of the matter is that children under a certain age have a primal fear of being isolated in a room away from their mother. This is due to the threat of predation that existed in biblical times, stemming from both human and non-human sources. One form of such predation that exists today is child sexual abuse. Most child sexual abuse occurs within a family home environment, when a child is isolated in a room or crib within a room. Fathers in biblical times had parent attraction to their children, due to the egalitarian nature of the parenting, and so mothers kept children safe by sleeping next to them. The mother was right there with the child, and so nothing could happen to them. Today, mothers can sleep next to their children, not only to make children feel safe, but also to ensure the safety of their children from child sexual predators. Child sexual abuse is usually committed by a parent or parent figure in the home, not by a stranger on the street, and it is usually a father or father figure. If mothers co-slept next to their children, none of that abuse that did occur could have occurred...The context contained herein is applicable today just as it was in biblical times.

Many medical and mental health professionals that serve children do not recommend co-sleeping, due to "sleep dependence". Sleep dependence is a myth perpetuated by medical and mental health professionals serving children, based on scant and limited research into parenting. Psychohistory tells a different story on co-sleeping. Children in biblical times who slept next to their mothers generally did so for the first 6 years of their lives, and after that, shook off the nighttime closeness of their mothers, and sought to sleep on their own, as part of a start in proving their independence to their parents. Children want to grow up on their own, but only at their own pace. You cannot expect a 3-year-old to want to sleep in their own bed, on their own. It just isn't realistic, as 3-year-olds are going to act like 3-year-olds no matter how much you try to control them and motivate them to sleep on their own...The context contained herein is applicable today just as it was in biblical times.

Children, in biblical times, wore no clothing, at all, until adulthood. Women only wore clothing when outside the home, and otherwise, went in the nude in order to serve both their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of providing nourishment and sustenance, namely breastfeeding (until age 3) and skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. The central focus of Christian attachment parenting is skin-on-skin co-sleeping. Mothers and children rested next to each other by night, snuggling in their homes, going to sleep in skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy with each other. Co-sleeping was the core way parents and children bonded with each other. Therefore, co-sleeping is crucial for the secure bond between parent and child...The context contained herein is applicable today just as it was in biblical times, albeit perhaps with some tweaking.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!