How to teach Judeo-Christian family values - without spanking or punishment

Many parents want to teach children traditional Judeo-Christian family values. This is a common wish among American parents. Most American parents, however, think that teaching family values to children requires punishment or force. The fact of the matter is that the Bible commands attachment parenting. You can teach any values system using attachment parenting, as attachment parenting is the most time-honored and time-tested method of bringing up and instructing children.

The Greek root word that sums up Judeo-Christian family values denotes Christian love in the New Testament, and is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to prioritizing your neighbor first, and yourself last, in terms of priority of needs, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to your neighbor. True Love does not come from a place of pride or desire, but instead comes from a place of conviction, where you come to the knowledge that you are a depraved and decadent sinner deserving of absolutely nothing, leading to the sinner paying due penance by serving his/her neighbor selflessly and dutifully, expecting absolutely nothing in return. All Christian family values are hinged on this very concept. Mutual submission is the doctrine that a Christian society should live by, where man and woman submit to each other, and where adult and child submit to each other, with the greater one in the equation holding the burden of proof.

These sort of values should be modeled to a child. However, every good example needs to be backed up by something. Punitive parenting just doesn't do the trick, as it drives children away from good family values modeled to them, and alienates them from the parents who seek to teach such values. Christian attachment parenting is the only way. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. Children are to rest securely in the sacrifice of parents, just as parent believers rest in the Sacrifice of Jesus Christ. Parents are to be extensions of Christ in the family home, sacrificing for their children, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, serving children as the Godhead that they are, with children resting in said sacrifice of parents. Parents are the enemy of children, just as mankind is the enemy of God, with parents being subservient to them just as they are to Him, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, coming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including any punishment or controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children too many times. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding a child hostage merely for things they did wrong. Paul was lifting up this legal context to a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child. Paul, here, was lifting up the Law in order to educate Greek and Roman newcomers to the Christian Church about the attachment parenting traditions of the Christian Church, which was the Jewish norm then, with the Christian Church then being considered a sect of Judaism.

Attachment parenting was the established norm in Ancient Jewish culture, including the Early Christian church communities. The Early Christians, and their Jewish predecessors, practiced a specific form of attachment parenting that deified children. Children were worshipped and venerated as extensions of God, with children being pampered by the ancients as miniature gods and goddesses, being viewed as angelic and holy. It was fashionable for parents in the Early Church and elsewhere in Jewish society to be seen as spoiling and pampering their children. Children could issue lawful and binding orders, and parents were forced to comply with such orders, not being able to countersue due to the youthful inexperience of children as defined under the Law. Children could cast righteous judgment onto their parents for however they were treated or mistreated, with children having the ability to take parents to court, and by that time, it had already being decided in favor of the child, every single time.

Children, in biblical times, wore no clothing, at all, until they were adults. Women only wore clothing outside the home, and otherwise, went in the nude in order to serve both their husbands and their children, separately. Mothers served their children by way of providing nourishment and sustenance, namely breastmilk (until age 3) and skin-to-skin comfort and intimacy. The core aspect of Christian attachment parenting is skin-on-skin co-sleeping, where the child sleeps next to the mother in the nude, with the two situated in skin-to-skin closeness and intimacy. By day, children ranged next to mothers, occasionally clinging to mothers for shelter and refuge, and other times co-snuggling next to mothers for comfort and reassurance. Comforting any child was seen in biblical times as the same as how comforting an infant is seen today.

How does all this attachment parenting teach children Judeo-Christian family values. Christian attachment parenting wins over children to our values as a nation. It wins over children by making them want to be like parents, with parents being a role model imparting Judeo-Christian family values. Teaching children good values only works if there is a good rapport between parent and child, meaning children want to be like parents, and thus look up to parents for guidance and instruction. Most of this instruction is exemplary in nature, meaning parents should simply be a good role model for family values, and the rest should play out on its own.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!