Self-behaviorism: Why behaviorism should be self-directed in parenting (pro-social example)

Many parents, particularly of children with autism, believe in behavioral measures to deal with their child's behaviors, meaning measures coming from the behaviorist camp of psychology. I am not opposed to behaviorism as a child advocate, but see behaviorism as a personal struggle as an adult in relation to children, meaning a struggle to impart the best example to children. Instead of telling a child to sit on the floor with folded hands, YOU sit in a chair with folded hands, or walk around children with your hands behind your back. Then, dear parents, you are truly grateful for your child.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers officially to parental entitlement, or want from or of children to the point of imposition, and unofficially to wanting anything from a child, period. Ask, and you shall receive from your child, if they are ready developmentally. Demand, and you get nothing but resentment from your child. Parents and adults are entitled to nothing from children, and are to be grateful for everything, stifling want directed towards children in all settings and instances.

Christian love is the centerpiece of a Christian parenting relationship of the attached variety, and is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao), and refers to prioritizing children first, and yourself as a parent last, to the point of dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return, with children resting safely and securely in parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. This form of respect for parents does not come from fearful compliance, but instead restful trust in parents, with children telling parents anything and everything on their mind, including admissions of wrongdoing, expecting absolutely no punishment or reprisal in return. Children, from there, follow the example of their parents, seeking to be like a parent or parents. Parents in biblical times were attachment parents, meaning they didn't punish children one bit - they sought to encourage children in following the example of parents, as well as encouraging religious studies, which were largely self-directed.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, namely child abuse in this context. Child abuse, in biblical times, at minimum, was defined as the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. In this commandment, the Apostle Paul was lifting up the Law against punishment and controlling demeanor towards children, rebuking Greek Christian parents for bringing their pagan custom of spanking children into the church. Greek Christians were using the book of Proverbs as an excuse for abuse even since the 1st Century, when this passage was written. Paul was warning the parents that Proverbs is simply wisdom literature, not a book on parenting, and that such verses did not refer to parenting, but to a form of judicial corporal punishment practiced then, but not in the Early Church. Paul himself was against punishing a child for any reason, as was King Solomon.

Parents and adults are to show a non-entitled example to children at all times, being shut up and shamefaced in the Lord, dragged down by the child's thirst for attention and love, following the child's every vulnerable need and special interest, like a human ragdoll. Parents and adults are entitled to nothing from children, and grateful for the every joy that children bring them, having no pride in dealing with children, and only shame in dealing with children. Adults have enslaved children for far too long, so children now have the right to righteously enslave their parents and adults for their every vulnerable need, with children being treated as a deity to serve, not a peon or slave to order around.

I myself am a depraved and entitled adult in relation to children, and am deserving of absolutely nothing from a child that is good, and am deserving of everything that is hateful, for I do not deserve to even exist in the wake of children in the eyes of God, yet children trust me, and I am grateful, for I am undeserving of such trust and respect. I sit with folded hands at the restaurant, and I put my hands behind my back around a child. The hands behind the back show how shamefaced and apologetic of an adult I am. They let me exist? With me being the wretch that I am as an adult in relation to children? I am so beholden to children in terms of gratitude! Children look up to adults, and develop the same non-entitled habits, especially if I were to be their parent. 

How do you get into non-entitled habits as an adult role model? The parent has two compartments of entitlement - parent anger and parent attraction. Both should be denied. Parent attraction runs so low that it should be channeled elsewhere - behind closed doors, with the shades down, and nobody else in the room. Parent anger and attraction should be denied by want avoidance, meaning when you want to get angry with a child and/or sexually assault or rape a child, do the opposite of what the urge tells you to do, perhaps regarding it as part of a sinful nature. Remember that offending your child could cost you eternity in Hell. When you see yourself approaching a child to lash out at them out of anger or lust, STOP immediately, remind yourself of the otherworldly consequences of such an action, and turn away from sin. Turn yourself into an accountability partner if you need to, such as a co-parent, family member, close friend, or mental health professional. The more you avoid an entitled behavior, and char the possibility in your head, the more it will become a habit not to offend a child by way of entitlement, meaning parent anger or attraction.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast in to the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!