Why adult authority does not exist

Many parents and adults think that they have authority over children, meaning they can tell children what to do, punish them, and so forth. This is often justified by citing the Bible out of context. Adult authority does not exist, as objective morality can only come from God's Law, the Bible.

Every single parent and adult is guilty in relation to children, and is deserving of DEATH and DESTRUCTION merely for existing in relation to children, being obligated to be meek and shamefaced in relation to children, being shut up in the Lord. Parents especially are to esteem their child above all else, putting children first, and parents last, leading to dutiful and selfless submission to children and their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from children or others, with children resting in the safety and security of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents. It is not surrendering out of fear, but surrendering out of safety and security to the loving arms of parents. It is a form of respect that doesn't involve fearful compliance, but restful trust and security in parents, with children telling parents absolutely anything and everything under the sun. Attachment parenting was the norm in biblical times. Think a Christian mother holding pales of water, wrapping up a young child in swaddling clothes next to her bosom, with another child tied to her back in a papoose bag. 

The Greek root word translated "parents" is γονεύς (Latin: goneus) and refers not to a place of authority, but a caregiver, as understood in context. Parents in ancient Israel and adjoining cultures were not lawgivers, but caregivers. Parents were attendant to their children's needs like waitstaff in a restaurant, doting on the individual needs of the child, providing for the every need of the child. These principles apply to teachers and educators as well, as parents held a teaching position in terms of religious education, and so teachers act in place of parents under Christian law as well.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or abuse, including child abuse. This means the slightest of personal offense perceived by the child, including the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by the child, coming from entitlement. Here, the Apostle Paul is lifting up the Law on punishing children to Greek Christians who were in the habit of being punitive parents. Punishing a child, at all, carried severe penalties under the Law, with the moral crime incurring bloodlust in both the Old and New Testaments, with punitive parents being put to death in the Old Testament. Any controlling attitudes towards children, including punishment, was seen as grand theft/kidnapping and thus punishable by bloodletting (hanging up parents like poultry) in the Old Testament. The seven verses in Proverbs that depict the rod of correction are repealed verses, meaning they are only relevant to the context given. This is because the verses refer to a specific form of judicial corporal punishment closely associated with the death penalty in ancient Israel - the 40 minus 1 lashes with the rod of correction, as a final warning for an ADULT child who went astray and violated the law repeatedly. Minor children could not be charged with a criminal act due to legal incompetence, and that meant no child could legally be whipped in ancient Israel. The Early Christian churches, apart from mutual accountability between spouses on rare occasions, did not utilize corporal punishment, and participating in Roman executions or whippings was banned under Christian law.

This means parents should not be sturdy and "stood up", but should be on the level of their children. Parents should be caregivers, not lawgivers or lawmakers for children. Parents shouldn't rule over children or have dominion over them, but should simply serve their every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return from parents/adults. 

Similarly charged adults in school settings should also not act as an authority, but as a friend to children. Here in Pennsylvania, we do not have a hands-free law for schools, meaning any teacher or other school personnel can accept a hug or embrace from a student, and adults working in schools can put their arm around the child, as long as it is done appropriately and not while causing pain to the student. It is a myth in Pennsylvania that you can't put your hand on a student, period. Teachers should be caregivers too instead of lawgivers, allowing children to go on the computer after handing in their work, in order to play games or surf the Internet. Children should also be allowed to seek comfort with teachers when parents aren't there to soothe them, such as with hugs or embrace. Most states, to varying degrees, allow for hugging, holding, or embracing a student to reassure or comfort the student. Teachers and students should have a special bond, with students not being policed like inmates in a prison. I do recommend homeschooling due to my former child's experience with the public school system - a police state for children. Unschooling is actually one of the best ways to homeschool your child, but know that many states, including here in Pennsylvania, prohibit unschooling. A shame, given fathers in the Bible taught their children by peeking their natural curiosity.

The ultimate goal of any parent isn't having authority over children, or being the boss of them. The goal of parenting is a parent-child bond that lasts a lifetime, and fosters independence and self-reliance over the long run. Parents and children should be able to be bonded and securely attached to each other, melded at the hip. The love of a parent should be the Christian type that provides and submits to children, surrendering to their every demand, giving in and giving up to orders given to parents by children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!