Parent attraction: Healthy alternatives to "healthy pedophilia"

Attachment parenting has many upsides to it, and is the one form of parenting the Bible supports. However, attachment parenting usually comes with parent attraction. Many parents, namely fathers, believe "healthy pedophilia" is the way to go. No parent is without self-interest in relation to children, but no sexual contact with a child is acceptable.

It says in 1 Corinthians 7:1-2 KJV:

Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote to me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and every woman her own husband.

Yes, your sexual behavior is to be reserved for your wife, as is defined in the Greek root word πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers to the slightest of contact or touch for sexually entitled purposes. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages, meaning the slightest of offensive touch or contact perceived by the child, with all sexual contact towards a child under age 18 to be the moral crime of adult fornication, meaning child sexual abuse, without exception. Any time a child perceives sexual intent breathing down their neck, it is sexual abuse, to some degree.

The Early Church was no stranger to parent attraction. A great many fathers were sexually attracted to their young daughters. Mothers guarded their daughters from even their own fathers. Fathers were recommended by church elders to sexually fantasize about their own children, yet avoid all real life want for their own child, channeling sexual lusts into a box that could be only be accessed by solo masturbation. 

Adult sexual entitlement is denoted by the Greek root word επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers to sexual want to the point of the adult taking the first steps to have sexual relations with a child, with sexual abuse being when this sexual entitlement is perceived by the child, including overt sexual contact as a fraudulent marriage. Any time the child was offended or led astray by sexual entitlement, it was fornication. Fornication or sexual abuse, at the most everyday level, involves looking at a child in a way that embarrasses them or offends them, or else uses sexually objectifying or offensive speech that offends the child or could get back to the child leading to offense.

Any parent who was sexually attracted to their child, at any age, had to admit it upon questioning, and be honest about how they dealt with it, and how they planned to keep their child safe from their own self-interest. You literally had to admit to self-interest in relation to children, calmly and politely, in order for your answer to the court to be accepted as valid and not perjury. Any attempt to hide pedophilia was seen as a sign of an abuser. Acceptance of sexual attraction to children was on the nodding level, pretty much, or the admission level, since coarse jesting and filthy talk, including sexually objectifying and offensive speech about children, as determined by individuals around the discussion or in the discussion that were offended by the sexually scathing remarks about the child.

The primary prevention of child sexual abuse was largely something in the context that one can glean on to find meaning in the text about sexual abuse prevention. However, one verse illustrates how seriously it was taken. Parent attraction is mentioned in 1 Corinthians 7:36 KJV:

But if any man think he behaveth himself uncomely towards his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.

The Greek root word translated "flower of her age" is υπερακμος (Latin: huperakmos) and refers directly to the age of consent/marriage under Christian law, which was 13 then, and is 18 now. Sex was seen as something that was "grown up" and not for children, as a marital contract. Children couldn't sign contracts, so they couldn't marry. What this verse is saying is that if a man has a very strong parent attraction to their children, marry them off as soon as possible, and take the blame. "Take the blame" means that the father was dishonored for having to resort to giving away his daughter to avoid sexual entitlement. 

Most men then were not sexually entitled towards their own children, but simply had some self-interest, enough for a connotational attraction to their child that did not express itself to the child. It was mist in the atmosphere during a normal parent-child bond. Jewish and Christian fathers both were very warm and caring fathers, in a friendly, amicable, yet passive way towards children. Fathers were passive like a ragdoll usually in relation to their children, and that was because they were in heaven just being around their child. Pedophilia, as a disorder, is expressed in a healthy way when the pedophile simply enjoys the company of children, and the children feel safe around the pedophile.

I myself am a pedophile, yet I might not be entitled like I once was around them. I just like being around them, in a way oftentimes that they don't notice, or else notice and don't care. I am not entitled to a friendship with a child, at all. That is something to work for, and be cautious about. I, however, refuse to meet a child in their home, and prefer meeting in a neutral location such as a public place such as a public pool or park, or else a restaurant. Even with a parent right there, I might just get myself nabbed by the parents trying to antisocial "cling" to a young girl. Non-entitlement means being perfectly okay not going that route, and simply being around a child I like, and nothing more. Many children in the community, as unearthed by an investigation into an antisocial "rough-play" incident, trust me, and I am grateful for that, because I don't deserve trust from any child. I am entitled to nothing from a child, yet grateful to see children wherever I go. This was how most parent attraction went in biblical times - adult men usually acted like ragdolls around children, like they were stunned and in heaven while on earth.

The depraved and entitled parent fornicators who defile themselves next to their children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!