Assume entitlement: Avoiding assumption in parenting (pro-social ignorance)

Many parents assume what it is like to be a child. Adults have power and control over children, and age corrupts. No adult truly knows what it is like to be a child, as we are adults, and our day as adults have passed in terms of understanding children. We need to allow children to tell us what they need, not assume what they need based on our own experiences.

The Tenth Commandment reads in Exodus 20:17 KJV:

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor any thing that is thy neighbour's.

The Hebrew root word translated לחמוד (Latin: lachmod) and refers specifically to wanting to the point of imposition. The Tenth Commandment is repeated in the New Testament by the Greek root word translated πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés), which officially refers to wanting things from your neighbor to the point of imposition, but ultimately refers to any unattainable want. Deadly entitlement is when this want is imposed on people.

Assumptions are entitlement, meaning if you assume anything about anybody, you are projecting onto them what traits you want them to have in terms of identity, and this includes children, particularly if you are unwilling to correct yourself. 

The Hebraic equation for understanding information about people is false until proven otherwise, in the case of righteous judgment meaning the fact of guilt is false until proven otherwise in a moral court of law. However, "false until proven otherwise" also refers to facts about a child. How do you know that the child has said need? Have you tested or asked the child? You might be dead wrong about the child's needs, even as a parent. 

If you don't know anything about a child, only the child exists, and nothing attached to the child in terms of knowledge. As you interview and assess the child's situation, you learn more about the child, but even then, only what the child tells you. The child surely is there, as children do exist as a part of our society, but you don't know what the needs of the child are until you question or test them, and all you know from then is what you already know. Presuming to know is entitlement, and once it offends the child, it is a form of child abuse.

I assume nothing about anyone apart from what they tell me, instead using lines of evidence to learn about who a person is. I can make an educated guess, and if I am willing to be corrected, it is simply a guess. Only the evidence that exists tangibly, exists, meaning only what you see in front of you in terms of a person's physical presence, as observed or interviewed, is what exists. This makes you a very quiet, shamefaced person that keeps to themselves and minds their own business. I am that kind of person. 

I am one to avoid any offense whatsoever, and when you assume something about someone, that imposes on them, and that's not how I enjoy being treated, so I love my neighbor and don't provoke my neighbor to anger, staying as far away from the line of offense as possible. Anything that imposes on your neighbor is entitlement, and entitlement alone is sin.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them suffer and burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's tomb! Let them suffer in everlasting torment and Hell-fire, suffering God's Wrath for all eternity! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!