Pro-social policing, pro-social friendship: How children should relate to parents

Many parents believe in being a law officer for their children, coming from a concept that a man is allowed to enforce law within his own home, and should "do so frequently". The fact of the matter is that children are the law officer in the family home, over their own needs.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, warm rest and trust in the love and grace of parents, just as adult believers rest and trust in Lord Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior. Respect for parents is intense closeness to the level of sustenance, leading to fondness and admiration, then to honor and homage. Parents were best friends with children then, meaning children could tell them anything and everything under the sun, and parents would be there to listen, not punishing or judging children. Children in ancient Israel and adjoining churches related to parents by way of policing attachment, meaning children issued lawful and binding orders by way of their cries and petitions for help and redress of grievances, with parents being convicted of reverent terror and fear of their child, thereby surrendering to their child. Children demand, then parents supply said demands, then children rest in the loving arms of parents, satisfied of what they received from children. Children were securely attached to parents, with children constantly in the nude so that they could have skin-to-skin closeness with parents, and to show their vulnerability in order to expose sexual threats in adults. Children up until age 3 were seen as infants behaviorally, and breastfed as such.

A parent's worst fear was provoking their child to anger, incurring wrath and condemnation from their child, with parents scrambling to please the cries and petitions of children. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers literally to "stirring up" upset and resentment in children, as in the Jewish idiom "stirring the pot" regarding your child's emotional welfare. This refers to "stirring up" offense in a child, referring to offenses against children, with the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, coming from parental entitlement, being child abuse. This commandment, by intent of the inspired pen of the Apostle Paul, prohibits any sort of physical or other form of punishment, or else any entitled treatment as perceived by the child, with the Apostle rebuking Greek Christian parents who punished their children as part of Greco-Roman tradition and law. Roman law had a legal defense for use of force for fathers to "reasonably chastise" their wives and children, whereas Christian law carried no defense for children to be punished at all, and striking a wife was frowned upon severely despite it being allowed by way of marital contract - a man who had to resort to violence with his family was seen as weak and out of control, not "in control".

Jewish and Christian parents alike then revered their children, with reverent fear and terror, with their children's cries and petitions striking reverent terror into them, shaking and quaking them, with children being seen as extensions of God, meaning signs of God, meaning children were respected as holy in ancient Judeo-Christian culture, meaning anyone who harmed them was deserving of death, even to the point of raising a hand of aggression to them, even if Christ abolished the death penalty by enduring it on the cross. Parents were fully accepting of their children in ancient Judeo-Christian culture, and parents who see children on this equal plane tend to see children in reverent terms, meaning children usually got their way with parents in the biblical context, and almost rarely heard the word "no" except when they were endangering themselves or others, perhaps with foul play or sexual play (the latter which wasn't allowed), and children were never punished for anything. Children were seen as extensions of God, and parents might even relocate if one part of the parcel or house was too spooky or scary for them, for some odd reason that the child couldn't explain. I myself totally accept children, coming from total submission to them, and that is how it was done in biblical times, so that's how it should be done today. I myself have reverent fear for unnecessarily upsetting or offending a child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the fiery pit of Hell and torment, with God avenging His Wrath on the scum of the earth who punish and control their children! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Children were viewed with reverence