Pro-social chivalry, pro-social shyness: Why shy parents are the best

Many people here think I am some religious preacher in my personal life. That's not the case. I am actually a very shy and reserved person. I don't speak most of the time, meaning I am shut up by the Lord. I am not allowed to even speak to a child, and I am even convicted not to speak in public. I regard myself as the enemy of children, with them inviting me over to their side of life, learning about what it is like to be a child. Children are a mystery, meaning I don't know what it is like to be a child, so I learn from them.

The Greek root word denoting Christian love is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to being struck with reverent terror and fear of the child and her every vulnerable need, leading to being convicted to surrender to the every need and interest of a child, as their enemy, seeking to be their friend, just as mankind is the enemy of God, and thus parents have to pay due penance to their child, as to God.

Patience is ultimately the virtue at hand here, in a chivalrous way. Chivalry is deeming yourself the enemy of children, in this case, and working to be their friend, knowing you have wronged them merely for existing as an adult with power and control over them. It says in James 1:19-20 KJV:

Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.

This is basically an assertion to pro-social shyness, meaning shyness around children. The idea is to let all your defenses go down, and let your child guide you to what they need, with you diagnosing upsets along the way. Parents aren't authority figures, but leaders of their children, and are to lead their children down the right path, and be lead to what the child needs, like a ragdoll. 

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to closeness leading to respect, but in a policing way. Think a rowdy, demanding child and a shy parent, with the child giving the orders as to what they need. Children gave orders, but not all of them were honored as worded, with parents being the filter as to the lawful and binding orders, diagnosing an adjacent need if necessary. Children beg for something they want, and parents usually say "yes" but sometimes say "no" if it is unrealistic, unattainable, or immoral given their values, and if children don't understand, children are told "you'll understand when you are older". Children are demanding, and parents silent and shy.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the offenses, meaning the slightest of personal slights perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This was a command from God through the Apostle Paul banning corporal punishment and other forms of punishment or controlling attitudes in parenting. Paul handed out attachment parenting manuals charging parents to teach children through the Living Example of Christ, meaning in terms of sacrifice and selflessness. Christ put others before Himself, and paid the ultimate price for His children. So should other Christian parents be willing to lay down their life for their children, if necessary.

We are the enemy of children as adults, and so we need to show respect and love to children. We are deserving of DEATH and PUNISHMENT merely for existing in relation to children, so we must allow the children to cheer us up of our sin nature, and otherwise be shy and shamefaced around them, showing one's guilt in one's expressions in relation to children, having a pro-social guilty conscience in relation to children. Parents are to be shy and patient, and listen to their child's upset and anger, taking the brunt of their child's upset.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn and suffer forever in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!