Why "help" entitlement leads to abuse against children

Many parents get all gooey eyed about helping children. Do children need my help? No, by default. Yes, when they petition for help, or else a redress of grievances when I mess up. "Help" entitlement is a form of entitlement that motivates most child abuse in this country, namely in the form of antisocial "hover", which was the dynamic in my home growing up.

The Greek root word repeating the Tenth Commandment, and referring to entitlement, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to parental entitlement, and by extension, all entitlement, meaning here wanting to help a child to the point of seeking to impose help on said child without their consent, usually by projecting needs. As a Christian, I am not allowed to help anyone without their summonses, meaning unless a child or someone else asks me for help, by default I cannot help. I can offer, for sure, but once they turn me down clearly, I must stop offering, or else perhaps when they tell me to stop pestering them. They would have to be very close to me for me to offer help, or else I just would ignore them entirely and not even speak to them unless they asked for help. Help is something you ask for while saying "please".

Christ said on the Sermon on the Mount, in Matthew 6:4 KJV:

That thine alms may be in secret: and thy Father which seeth in secret Himself shall reward thee openly.

"Alms" then referred to the collective help of the New Testament context, meaning help then was consensual and not something to identify by with phrases such as "my help", meaning help was casual in nature, and perhaps doing a favor for a neighbor, while not advertising it or getting offended when a neighbor doesn't want that kind of assistance. Collective assumed help was in terms of mutual accountability, in terms of supervision and collective surveillance to each other. Think neighborhood watch.

"Help" entitlement is prohibited in the Ten Commandments, meaning also the Fifth Commandment when understood from both sides, with said commandment written to the parents. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stirring up" anger and upset in children, meaning "stirring the pot" in terms of their emotions, and was intended as a command against forced "help" such as punishment to "learn" good behavior, as well as any harsh treatment of a child, meaning the slightest of offense perceived by a child. This means any help that is unwelcome or without consent, coming from coercive entitlement or perceived as such, is an offense against a child due to being perceived by a child. The Greek root word translated "obey" refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of children. This refers to sacrifice for one's child, as Christ sacrificed for His children; taking up the cross, as Christ took up the cross for His children; martyring yourself for your children, just as Christ martyred Himself for His children...with children resting securely in the sacrifice and toil of parents. The Greek root word υπακουο and uplifts a biblical parenting context that is attachment-based in nature. Child nudity was legal everywhere in the biblical context, and that was so mothers could sleep next to their children (while also being unclothed while at home) and give them skin-to-skin contact, with young children up to age 3 being swaddled to their mother's bosom, breastfeeding them up until that age, with children co-sleeping next to mothers until adulthood. This was all to gain closeness to children, and then respect later from them. 

Helping any child without their consent, or in a way that is insulting or offensive to them, is child abuse, thus sin. Help is something to be slipped underneath the table, not held high like a trophy, meaning if you can't help someone, admit it and move on to things you can help. Let go and let God.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand! Let them burn in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!