The Fifth Commandment: Understanding the nature of child surrender (secure attachment)

Most parents in America spank and punish children, and the secular law excuses it. Most cite the Bible in some way as justification for their acts of child abuse. The Fifth Commandment is often the command cited. Most parents don't understand what child surrender is, or else they wouldn't be spanking and punishing.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honour thy father and mother, for this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition is the Lord.

The Greek root word translates "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure rest and trust in parents, leading to surrender later in life to parents, willingly and out of vulnerable trust, as a best friend, but with parents being the more responsible friend looking after their child, with children owing absolutely nothing in return to parents. The Greek phrase "in the Lord" is ἑν Κυρίῳ (Latin: en Kyriō) refers to the fact that children are not to listen to parents just because parents tell them to do something, but because they are convicted in the Lord to listen to a parent, to the degree that a parent deserves listening to. I am convicted to pay the tab every time, as a goal, so that my mother dines free when we go out to eat, and I was just convicted of such in the Lord to respect my mother in that way. She earned it, so why not? 

Surrender first meant surrender into mother's arms. Child nudity was accepted in ancient Israel and adjoining churches as a means to get close to your child, meaning Hebrew mothers used skin-to-skin contact as a means of bonding with their children, alongside co-sleeping and swaddling infants up to age 3 to her bosom or side, with older children staying either right next to her, or within her line of sight while playing freely. Children's nudity was seen as vulnerable, and not something to be disturbed. Fathers who may have had sexual entitlement towards a naked child resting with his/her naked mother just had to deal with it, or else face the music at another place, at another time. Basically, child surrender is forming a bond with your child, that will lead to cooperation later.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to discipline, meaning of the parent, and not the child. This word refers to the chastening of the Lord, meaning parents being a good example and role model for children, meaning restraining oneself in the child's upset, listening to and validating the upset of children instead of reacting punitively to a child's tears. It is a certain form of discipline where you are charred by all options to lash out at a child, struck with God's reverent fear and terror, leading to being driven by the Holy Spirit to listen to a child's upset instead of prey on it with punishment, working against one's entitled parent nature that wants the child to behave. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to God's loving lecture, couple with God's loving grace, meaning setting a limit or boundary with a child, either by compromise or denial, with denial being the last option on the fire extinguisher checklist, with neither coupled with punishment in any way. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and literally translates to "bitter anger" and refers to the moral count of provocation to anger towards one's neighbor, with children being counted as neighbors. Paul would add, as extras to the Epistle, parenting pamphlets promoting attachment parenting in the traditional Hebrew way, which included no spanking and no punishment of any kind, as well as mother-child closeness. The booklets saw pedophilic sexual connotations as a normal part of parenting for a father, and how to dispose of such drives properly, meaning away from the child and not towards a child as a form of entitlement.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger and do not form a bond with their child will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the bottomless pit that is the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death, which is Satan's final resting place! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!