Pedophilia in parenting: Why to include non-offending pedophiles with other gentle parents

Many people hate pedophiles, and assume it is children's rights advocates that are keeping pedophiles down. Some of us actually have the disorder, and I am one of the more vocal ones in that regard. It isn't a narcissist, but a parent, and that's ultimately why I am suspicious of parents, alongside the fact that I was abused by parents. A pedophile is a special type of struggling parent.

3 out of 4 pedophiles are non-offending in terms of sexually abusing children, meaning they do not commit sexual offenses against children. All adults have abused children in some way, in some form, with pedophiles being less likely to abuse, but with offenses such as antisocial "rough-play" being perhaps the most common abuse a pedophile is guilty of. Most pedophiles support youth rights to a degree larger than most adults.

I myself have pedophilic disorder and was aware of it since age 16, and it was always treated by others as a sexualized parent, meaning my therapist worked with me as if I was a struggling parent. The idea was to shatter parental delusions about a child being in love with me. Therapy, alongside support groups such as the Virtuous Pedophiles support group, helped me become more centered in my adult sexual entitlement towards children. Adult sexual entitlement is the most serious part of having the disorder, hence why I don't consider myself virtuous, but simply non-offending. I myself am likely to commit the abusive act of sexual/behavioral neglect, meaning I am a permissive parent. I myself have committed abusive acts, including a case of antisocial "rough-play" that was investigated. 

Pedophilia itself has strengths to it, once it is centered and under control. Most adults do not like being around children, for various reasons. If you are a trauma survivor, you might only want to be around them seldom and for short periods because children remind them of what they lost while being the oppressed children that they were. Other adults are just entitled grouches around children, and I don't really get either standpoint, because I enjoy being around children, meaning sharing the same venue or establishment with them. It is not an issue like it was before because I am not entitled in that regard...Pedophiles can turn their aggressive instincts inward just like anyone else.

Is pedophilia a sin? No, not in and of itself. It is a mental disorder, and it is not a sin to be mentally ill. I draw the line at adult sexual entitlement, denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to wanting sexual relations with a child to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, leading to fornication (GRK: πορνεία, porneia) leading to self-defilement due to said sexual intent imposed upon a child, with the whole body soiled for leading a child astray. Simply wanting things from a child is not a moral crime, but when you are seeking it out, you are forming guilty intent, and that is just as bad as doing it to God. Fornication is any sexual act outside of marriage, as sexual acts sign the dotted line, so to speak, that is a marriage contract, and if a marriage contract isn't approved by the higher authorities and isn't age appropriate given the development of the child - thus harmful - the marriage is false.

Simply having sexual thoughts about your child isn't sin, but instead seeking to impose your sexual entitlement as an adult onto children. My thoughts are centered because I choose to have them, but only within a certain place, and otherwise, I let them go and they fly by. I avoid any appearance of opportunity to sin against a child, but at the same time don't stifle all sexual thought about children, channeling it elsewhere, towards sexual fantasy about children.

It is not a moral crime or sin to be mentally ill. We as pedophiles have earned our keep by choosing not to abuse children. I myself humbly might say I am proud of my choice not to impose entitlement on a child, thus avoiding abuse. Pedophiles can be gentle parents, if you give them the chance.