Child surrender - why this does not mean punishing children

Many parents want their children to submit to them, and often use punishment to enforce punishment. Most parents in this country do not know what it means for a child to surrender to parents, or else they would be attachment parents.

The Fifth Commandment, in full, is repeated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV. It says: 

Children, obey your parents in all things: for is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to providing custody, namely secure, vulnerable rest and trust in the love and grace of parents, with children having reverently rebelling against parents to demand needs, and parents supplying same said needs, with children being able to play their own way, or not at all, sharing with their parents everything under the sun, without fear of parental punishment or reprisal, with children owing absolutely nothing in return to parents, and parents giving without expecting anything in return for their generosity, yet nonetheless with children showing gratitude and thanksgiving for the charity and generosity of their parents by way of emulating the example and momentary instruction of parents. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stirring up" children, as in the Jewish adage of "stirring the pot" with your child's upset, angry, or volatile feelings, referring to the offenses under the Law, including assault and battery laws that protected children as well as adults, under the statutes of theft and kidnapping, with most punishment being kidnapping. Basically, the slightest of offenses perceived by children were deemed as an offense, and thus a provocation to anger.

Surrender to parents, in the biblical context, meant surrender due to fondness and affection for parents, not fear of punishment, with children running to parents, not away from punishment or controlling attitudes. Children up to age 3 were seen as infants, and were breastfed while swaddled to their mother's bosom, with older children playing freely, but never outside their mother's line of sight. Parents were allowed to yank a child away from a rattlesnake, but not punish them in any way afterwards. Children had the right to demand things from parents, with biblical children not taking orders from children, but giving them, with parents allowed to think for themselves within a certain framework handed down by father to child. Punitive parenting was banned under the Law, meaning any punishment.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn and rot in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!