Mutual submission: Why parents and children are to submit to each other

Many parents demand respect from children in America, meaning most parents, in fact. Most parents want to be respected, and impose it on their children. There is a proper doctrine of parenting in the Bible - mutual submission.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and literally translates to "listen under" or "rest" and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, being oneself in relation to parents, being able to tell parents anything without punishment, rejection, or retribution, feeling safe next to parents, owing nothing in return to parents, yet nonetheless hearing their voice and listening under it, reassured and validated that parents wish no harm against you, and such is modeled in their actions, grateful for care and non-entitled, non-violent treatment from parents. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translated to "stirring up" anger in children, meaning "stirring the pot" in terms of your child's angry and/or upset emotions. This ultimately refers to the offenses under the Eighth Commandment, which in the New Testament, refer to the slightest of offense perceived by a child, including offenses such as the slightest of offensive touch or the slightest of offensive upbraid.

Parent submission consists of unconditional Christian love, meaning Agape love, denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to conviction to serve the every vulnerable need of children, based on reverent fear, denoted by the Greek root word ψοβός (Latin: phobos), leading to surrender to God through one's child, knowing that one has wronged children for their mere adult existence, knowing nothing about what it is like to be a child, sacrificing for one's child, taking up the cross just as Christ did, giving oneself up for one's child, rendering oneself beneath one's child, devaluing oneself as a caregiver or servant, leading to good works just for the sake of good works for children, being and feeling grateful for the benefits bestowed upon children, expecting absolutely nothing in return. True love for a child never ends, and never fails (1 Cor. 13:8). 

Parents are to be charitable and generous towards their children, meaning never punitive or controlling, as control and punishment demand things from children, and when you defend your right to demand things from children, you hate your child despite any affection towards your child. No loving parent punishes a child. Parents are also to show chivalry to children, especially fathers, with mothers instead nurturing with children up close. That was the setup in biblical times, with mothers carrying infants up to age 3 in their bosom, breastfeeding them, even in public. There is no Old Testament command against punishment of children because it was the norm then to be securely attached to your child, and see them as your best friend, to the point where no specific law was needed, until the Early Church, when newcomers didn't understand what Jewish law said. The Apostle Paul was anti-spanking, but likely in a very protective way, meaning he was likely fuming mad when he served that command to the Colossians, and also the Ephesians, for God.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn and languish in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death! Let them forever descent into fire and torment, with God giving up all home, not caring beyond that point! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!