Why the word "make" does not belong in parenting

 Many parents think that they can make children do things. "Make" is a popular word in parenting in the United States. American parents think they can abuse their children by way of controlling them. However, seeking to make children do things is a form of child abuse.

"Make" is a controlling word, and a form of entitlement. Entitlement is prohibited in the Tenth Commandment, which is denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to the attitude of "I am the parent, and I have the right to make my child do anything" leading wanting children to do things, to the point of seeking to impose said want onto children, leading to theft/abuse. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is pleasing unto the Lord. Father, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to trust in parents, not fear, meaning secure, vulnerable rest and attachment to parents, feeling safe enough to tell parents anything, feeling safe to be oneself, owing absolutely nothing in return to children, yet nonetheless listening to parents not out of fear of punishment, but trust due to warm, respectful treatment of parents, rewarding such treatment. This is a form of Christian love, denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to submission to the every vulnerable need of children, sacrificing as Christ sacrificed for His children, rendering oneself beneath one's child, serving her every need as an indentured servant paying due penance for their existence as an entitled adult in relation to children. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stirring up" children, and ultimately refers to the offenses, meaning torts and damages, including to, assault and battery torts extended to protect children. This is summed up in the the New Testament as the slightest of personal slights perceived by a child, coming from entitled intent.

Children are offended when you try to make them do something. An arched up back type of counterwill response. The "counterwill" is a psychoanalytic term that enables children to be righteously defiant to any control imposed upon them, meaning any want by an adult imposed upon them. No control of any kind can really control a child. You shut them down in the moment, then they go right back up, and then try to control you.

Making any child do anything is sin, meaning you have to ask them instead, and brace yourself for a refusal, and be prepared to explain your motives to the court, meaning your child, as to why you ask them to carry on a task. If they don't understand, give up as a parent and just do the task for them. In order for entitlement to be ruled out in a parental request, one must say "please" and "thank you" when asking your child to do something or not to, in a friendly voice or a vulnerable voice.

Parents in ancient Jewish culture didn't make their children do anything. They simply asked their children, and they complied, with no need for punishment. Why? Children were comforted emotionally in the biblical context from early on by parents, with mothers holding children in swaddling bands, being selflessly devoted to their children and their every need. So, why have to make a child do something when they trust you already, in a warm and caring manner. Jesus was raised by his mother, Mary, in swaddling clothes. By tradition, he would have been in swaddling clothes until age 3. This is to give you an understanding of what true biblical parenting was like. They didn't make kids do anything then, because they already did what they were expected beforehand, just to please parents, and then as adults just to do the right thing...Parents today who claim to parent by way of Scripture should take this parenting advice.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them suffer in the lake of burning fire and sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!