Why discipline is for parents, not children

What is discipline? What is parenting? Many believe that, in parenting, children are to be disciplined. However, what about parents? Biblical law stresses that parents be disciplined in parent-child relationships.

It says in Hebrews 12:11 KJV:

Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterwards it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.

The Greek root word translated "chastening" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to self-discipline and self-control, in the form of punishment or reward of oneself, punishing oneself for transgressing against their child. Basically, this refers to teaching moments as a parent, where you avoid any sort of abuse or harm towards your child, even to the level of speech, and parents center themselves around the core self-interest they must refrain from - aggression, either physical, verbal, or sexual in nature. The Greek root word translated "lupe" is λυπέ (Latin: lupe) and refers to the pain that comes from restraint, grieving that striking a child - what you want to do - is wrong, so don't do it.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, your obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor thy father and mother; for this is the first commandment with promise; That is may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and grace of parents, being able to talk to parents about anything, including things that most people wouldn't understand, owing nothing in return to parents, nonetheless being convicted to listen to parents out of trust and not punishment. The Fifth Commandment only applies if you have parents to respect, meaning non-abusive parents, as most Israelites did when the Ten Commandments were handed down, or else shortly afterwards when the law was laid down in that regard by the authorities. 

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is the same as in Heb. 12:11, παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and referring to a specific form of chastening of the Lord in parents, known as co-regulation, meaning parents centering themselves in relation so not to lash out verbally, physically, or sexually, and listening to the child's upset instead in a validating manner, like a sounding board, giving the child the necessary attachment supports to be a well-manner, controlled, and orderly member of society. Children learn discipline by trusting disciplined parents. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the admonition of the Lord, meaning in terms of encouragement or reproof, with encouragement being more dominant, and reproof, usually with the word "no" or its various variants, being more rare. Setting boundaries and limits should be a rare occurrence, as children either learn by example not to abuse children, or else many times are too immature to understand the boundaries being set. This is weighed by the Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" which is πραρογίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to the offenses, meaning torts and damages under the Mosaic Law, which included torts against assault and battery even including children, and summed up by the slightest of personal slights perceived by the child, viscerally and through sensory gaslighting, when said moral crime stems from entitlement. Entitlement is denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to not only wanting things from children, but wanting things to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child.

Attachment parenting was the norm then, with children staying very close to their mother, with co-sleeping being the norm, as is carrying the child in a papoose bag on her back or her front. Punishment was illegal except as a sentence for a crime, and only when an adult committed a crime. Children were seen as still learning, and thus were exempt from divine prosecution. Parents were expected to be in control by controlling themselves, not their child. Then, once parents were disciplined, then children could understand what discipline was, and apply it to themselves. Strictness was modeled, not enforced.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn, and let them be tormented in the lake of fire and brimstone, suffering the second death intended for Satan and his accomplices. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!