What are damages? What is abuse?

 Many people do not understand my use of the word "damages". I add the word "legal" to the front of it to discern what damages are. This is a very valid biblical concept that was tarred by antisocial pedophiles who infiltrated this movement. Damages are not about the value of any specific person, meaning survivors of child sexual abuse in particular are not "damaged goods". The damage is the trauma itself, meaning brain damage.

The Eighth Commandment states in Exodus 20:15 KJV:

Thou shalt not steal.

This can refer to two things,

1.  Removal of items from a person's holding of ownership without their consent.
2. Legal damages and torts

These laws were very complex in the Old Testament, but went by way of "eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth". If a parent struck you, you actually had the right to strike a parent, and the authorities simply dropped the parent protection law against striking a parent. All of it was in the form of a trial, with assault and battery being torts under Jewish law referencing the Eighth Commandment.

However, the damages system led to constant back and forth vengeance, which Christ stopped. The damage system, in the New Testament, is hidden, yet made visible by a few words. For example, it says in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to the slightest of personal slights perceived by a child. The New Testament sums up the system of complex legal damages and torts under the Mosaic Law. In that culture, they used sensory gaslighting to perceive moral crimes, which could be anything that the individual found to be a slight to their honor or reputation. However, one has no obligation to act on every damage committed, and a righteous judge has flexibility in judging personal slights. Christ, in Matthew 5:38-39 KJV:

Ye have said that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth. But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.

This basically means that if someone is insulting you, just walk away. That's what I do. You could, by rights, claim damages, which is the same as saying "you are abusing me" but in more antiquated language, but in life, a lot of people are going to say things that you perceive are hurtful, including your children. The more you perceive hurt, and act on it by lashing out at your oppressor instead of showing grace to the one who is mean to you, the more oversensitive and easily offended you get. So, let things go, and stop being a snowflake. Don't let every little nasty word hurt you. This goes especially regarding back talk from your children. Don't respond at all to back talk from your children, except with kindness and concern, as verbal disrespect always has roots in unmet needs somewhere else. Perhaps mom and dad are disrespectful like that to the child, and then it gets thrown back.

Basically, damages can be used to center oneself, meaning the more you avoid offense from a child's antics, or everyone else's antics, the more centered and silent you become in terms of personality. When started with holding back entitled reactions to children, you become centered on every level, and end up with immense self-control. It feels like an hourglass, meaning I felt restrained and punished by God until I found my way, then I felt good about myself privately for my progress, but am not one currently to say good things about myself, allowing others to point out my good traits.

The damage system defines what abuse is. "Abuse" is a modernized way to say, biblically, that damages were imposed on you, or imposed on a child, meaning harm based on sensory gaslighting, perhaps emotional harm. Whatever the victim perceives is objective, and if the victim even perceives din of discomfort coming from entitlement. The most objective evidence of damages, meaning abuse, is brain activity, particularly in the fight-of-flight sections of the brain, or the sexual arousal centers in the case of "benign" and "trivial" adult-child sexual contact, in which case sex with children is immoral regardless of whether the child like it or not. 

See you in court, dear pro-spanking parents - Divine Court.