Why to show good Christian manners to children

Most parents in the United States abuse children, with 94% of parents using physical battery to punish their children, and most all parents punishing children at some point. Many parents feel the need to order children around. Nope, show good Christian manners to them.

It says in Exodus 20:17 KJV:

Thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's house, thou shalt not covet thy neighbour's wife, nor his manservant, nor his maidservant, nor his ox, nor his ass, nor anything that is thy neighbour's.

The Hebrew word translated "covet" is למחוד (Latin: lachmod) and refers not only wanting from a child, but wanting to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, leading to theft/abuse. Entitlement is the action, and abuse is the damages imposed upon the child.

Damages were the core aspect of the Law of Moses, and are included in the Christian faith implicitly in the New Testament. Summed up, damages in cases of child abuse involve the slightest of personal slight perceived by the child, meaning, at the lowest level, any demeaning or degrading treatment. Anything that would offend the child is abuse. Entitlement is repeated in the New Testament by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is translated by the word "covetous" and analogous language.

Entitlement, in parenting, is demanding things from children, controlling them, punishing them, and/or spousifying them. It is a demanding, begging attitude that seeks to get its own way in terms of children and their behavior. I don't want anything from children, as I am deserving of nothing from them...Attachment parenting was the norm, meaning children, with fathers in particular, were a source of motivation for non-entitlement, with many struggling with the same kind of issues I do. "Struggling", however, is the key word.

Any other adult has times when they can't get what they want from children. 

Don't say: "Get over here, and stop running!"

Say: "Would you please stop running. I have your shoes here"

Don't say: "Don't talk back to me"

Say: "I don't really appreciate those unkind words"

In the last one, and arguments like it, avoid telling the child how to phrase their words, and also avoid getting offended by harsh words by your child, period. Don't be such a snowflake. You are not entitled to children speaking to you with grace. YOU speak to them with such love and grace to model that attitude to them. Children do not love parents, as that burdens them given their young development. Love is service to your fellow man, and submission to such. Parents should love children, unconditionally, as Christ loves His children, sacrificing for their children in the spirit that Christ did, as an enemy to the child, knowing nothing anymore about what childhood is like, knowing one is evil for their mere capacity to harm their child, leading to conviction to serve the every need of a child like an attendant bondservant, and then to good works for the child. It is a humility that equalizes parent-child bonds by the parent making amends with their child for their sinful existence in relation to children...Every single adult is to blame for our child abuse epidemic. Very few take responsibility.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Many will be called to parenting, but few are chosen by their actions towards conversion to non-violent and non-entitled parenting. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!