Mother's Day and understanding the Fifth Commandment

Many parents think they have the right to impose their entitlement for children to "listen and obey" onto them. Most parents are like this, in fact, with 94% of parents punishing and using force on their children using means of physical battery. You do not have to honor an abusive mother. I honor mine simply because she is one of us. Ultimately, Mother's Day and Father's Day are religious holidays that keep the Fifth Commandment, and honor parents.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-3 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, as this is right. Honor thy father and thy mother; which is the first commandment with promise; That is may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

One word can change everything. The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) refers to a form of surrender stemming from parental surrender to the needs of children. Love, in parenting, is submission to the child's every vulnerable need as their enemy, admitting that one knows nothing anymore about what it is is like to be a child, knowing that one is capable of harm or evil as an adult, just as all adults are in relation to children. "Obey" ultimately refers to secure attachment, meaning a close bond with a parent where you can tell them everything, and expect no punishment. It is a feeling of security and rest in relation to a parent, meaning you feel safe in their presence, and listen to parents automatically for most things, knowing instinctively that they have your best interest in mind, and know what is best. When they think they know, but are mistaken, they are open to criticism, sometimes even harsh criticism...Think like being a file folder for your parents, and feeling safe in such a role, meaning warm and safe. In today's day and age, that means disclosing something low-level to a parent. I became closer to my mother after disclosing a self-diagnosis of pedophilic disorder to her in 2012.

The Greek root word denoting "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the rod of correction, in figurative format, which is pro-social fork judgment of a child, in non-binding format, with the longer prong of the thread of judgment being the rod of pleasantness, meaning encouragement and ample praise for desired actions, as well as attending to attachment needs such as going places such as hiking or out to eat. The rod of severity simply involves setting limits and boundaries with a child, hopefully rare, namely the word "no" and its various variants. It, however, could not lead to damages, meaning the slightest of personal slights, with the language concerning provocation to anger being denoted by Greek root word παροργίζο (Latin: parogizo) and is referring specifically to spanking children, which was a common problem in churches with a dominating Greco-Roman following of parishioners. The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to taking up an attitude of self-discipline and self-control in an exemplary manner in relation to one's child. Instead of using behaviorism on your child, use it on yourself. Instead of punishing a child for behavior you don't like, punish yourself and cease that behavior yourself, before your child copies it. Punish yourself for that anger or screaming before your child picks up on that, and copies that.

Ancient Hebrew society was attachment-based in terms of parenting, and the Law upheld those methods of parenting by exempting minor children from punishment under the law, with all other punishment outside of a courtroom setting being unlawful. Parenting measures in terms of nurturing and child comfort such as co-sleeping were the norm, as children remained close to their mother especially.

You do not need to honor a mother who did abuse you. I do honor mine, but only because she earned it. True biblical obedience is nothing like the pro-spanking pastors say it is. It is bliss, in a way that you actually would submit to negative consequences as an adult for bad behavior, if you feel enough remorse. This would mean submitting to accountability such as porn blocker or remote monitoring of Internet activity. I'm okay with my mother monitoring anything, but she doesn't, because she trusts me. I don't do anything wrong or illegal online because that would betray trust. Compliance is all about trust, and nothing about fear. Fear of parents leads to rebellion...I have to honor my mother, and that's because she's earned it, not because she beat it into me. If it isn't like I describe, you never loved those parents anyway.

Let the depraved and entitled parents be cast into the ever-burning lake of Hell-fire! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!