Why pedophilia is not a good thing (but isn't sin either)

 Many people believe that pedophilia is wrong to have, meaning being one is wrong. The mere existence of oneself as a pedophile is considered to be a moral crime by many Christian denominations. I do not hold this theology. I hold pedophile non-existence theology in word format...The Bible does not use the word "pedophile" once in any of the original Greek, Hebrew, and Aramaic. The Bible does not condemn pedophilia, at the core, either. It's okay to be a pedophile, as long as you work on it.

It says in 1 Corinthians 6:18 KJV

Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is outside the body, but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.

The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεια (Latin: porneia) and refers to a child perceiving sexually entitled intent from a parent or other adult, which colors the entitled intent of said adult, defiling the perpetrator parent or adult, rendering them unclean until the even. 

But, if you don't abuse a child, and are planning to and/or defend a right to, you are a sexually entitled adult, not a pedophile. The Greek root word translated πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers not merely wanting sex from children, but wanting it to the point of seeking to impose said want onto a child, leading theft/abuse. "Impose" can also refer to abuse situations where the child is willing. 

If you simply want sex with children, or see them naked or partially clothed, you are a pedophile, but not a sinner if you know this is an unhealthy want, and so you restrain that want. Restraining pedophiles are affirmed by God, as long as they continue to restrain their sexual desires towards children. It is a part of one's sin nature, but the same as an ordinary parent daydreaming of strangulating their children - we all have unfair thoughts, and sometimes we might even dwell in them to blow off steam. Thoughts like this are not sin. Think a street sign, telling the anger and/or lust in an adult where to go, and the adult goes in said direction, defending their "rights" to do so.

Pedophilia, however, is listed as a mental disorder for a reason - it is directed towards a target that cannot consent to pedophilic acts. It doesn't mean we should shame them as "sick", "diseased", and so forth - the opposite is true about mental health labeling. We all have something, meaning we all have mental health issues of some sort. Some of them impact our ability to otherwise be kind, loving caregivers. I just happen to be a pedophile. We all have struggles as adults in being safe around children, and not abusing them. We all can struggle together, in a community for children's rights survivors, pedophiles included (no, not all of us are).

Combatting pedophile stigma is about coming forward, and self-diagnosing as a pedophile before the mental health system in one's state, namely a therapist. Trauma-informed therapists seem to work with me, alongside anti-anxiety medication.

Just because it feels good, doesn't mean it is good, but at the same time, a not so good thing can be turned harmless when turned away from its target. Pedophilia is a mental disorder that targets children sexually. "Harmless" refers to neutral acceptance, meaning it is just there, and so focus on not harming children, and then reward yourself with a bit of "time-out", so to speak, meaning fantasy of a pro-social variety.