Many parents oppose children's rights conditioning in adults with autism due to how "they would be distressed". I myself am conditioned as a children's rights Christian/conservative, of the true kind. We've had false ones here, in terms of conditioning. Now we have a true one, hopefully.
Conservative gentle parenting involves parenting against the word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to not simply wanting a child, but wanting to the point of seeking to impose said item onto a child, in the form of abuse/theft. It is rescinding and abdicating on all want mandated upon the child. If you want something from your child, simply ask, and earn that trust. Trust and respect, in life, is earned, not bestowed, and that includes respect from children towards parents or other responsible adults.
It is a calm feeling most of the time, and one where you aren't easily offended. The conditioning is known in sex-critical leftist circles as "Israelite men", meaning masculinity based not on power and control over others, but over power and control over one's own action, in a silent, shut up way that listens to other people around you, and quietly being a pro-social judge, in a patient, caring type of way that does not readily show effusive emotions.
I startle an abuser with a 100/0% ambush, striking reverent terror in the heart of the abuser and evildoer, in a takedown after collecting all the evidence beyond a reasonable doubt, with investigations being visible, with said menace warning the suspect that their last days on earth beside me are numbered if they do not collaborate.
I have a stern side, which I save for adults. A child in distress would get a different reaction from me - calm distemper and upset, hoping the child recovers from the mental health incident, and gets back on the road to recovery.
Usually, when I am angry, I ask a lot of interrogating questions. I usually do this to my mother, and interrogate even extended family instead with observation and avoidance. The questions are two-sided, and intended either to convict or exonerate, depending on the motives and past actions of the offender. It is simply an intense grilling. I just would give my mother the silent treatment, and refuse to eat with her, if she did something that was unforgivable, which is never. There is an acronym for me escaping, but it has never even gotten at all close to that - she's not a danger to me in the slightest, and is a good parent.
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