I am a survivor of authoritative parenting. My parents, thankfully, apologized, but the harm stays. Most parents in this country believe in an abusive way to set limits. Authoritative parenting is about misuse of biblical righteous judgment to "wash down" abuse, which still is such under Divine Jurisprudence.
It says in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 KJV:
Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not, charity vaunteth not, is not puffed up. Doth not behave itself unseemly, thinketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; rejoiceth not in inequity, but rejoiceth in the truth, beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth: but wherever there be prophesies, they shall fail; whether they be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.
The Greek root word denoting "charity" is αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to a form of submission to a child, with the validation being counted as love, and these are the criteria. "Puffed up" means pride in being a parent or responsible adult to a child, especially when expressed outwardly, in a charismatic way.
The New International Version (NIV) keeps the hidden translation λογίζεται τό κακόν which means records of wrongs. Parents are not to keep a record of wrongs concerning their children. What that means is warning your child several times before a separation of attachment of some sort, or infliction of attachment injury. We are talking not gentle parent, where even our parents need to set verbal warning sometimes. We are talking a more legalistic authoritative home, where children are given strikes, or, in school settings, given a traffic light and then ends up being sent right down to red for a behavior they cannot help, such as squirming in a desk too much, because they are a child. What do you expect?
"Record of wrong" also means suspecting children of being capable of harm, particularly towards adults. I do believe in the doctrine of original sin, but I don't project that view onto children because I am to blindly trust that they mean well, no matter what, presuming innocence in terms of action of wrongdoing, beyond a reasonable doubt, but total exemption in terms of culpability. Healthy suspicion is not keeping a record of wrong, but punishing a child is.
We oppose authoritative parenting here at anti-parental rights. We are gentle parents, and the two are different. I was raised in an abusive, authoritative home. Gentle parenting is no comparison.
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