Parenting without control: Why control in parenting is sin and abuse

Most parents see themselves as "in control" in some way, and endorse this as a form of abusive parent. I myself might be accused by some here of wanting to be a controlling parent to the community here at children's rights. Controlling anyone is sin, and defending a controlling, domineering attitude is sin. I am not to control another human being for my own purposes even within a court of law, but can feign control.

It says in Matthew 5:38-39 KJV:

Ye heard that it hath been said, an eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth. But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever smiteth on thy right cheek, turn the other also. 

What this refers to a new stipulation, leading to freedom from having to count everyone as an adversary, as was the old Law, which was systematic in nature. Now, the Law is in one's own hands, and so one must show clear discretion in their judgment, presuming innocence strongly in terms of personal slights. I myself let go of a lot, and brush it off. Many warnings. But, if you wear me out until the end of that wick, that's the last you'll hear from me, because you'd be shunned. Then apologize. Back and forth? You're gone for good, unless you can show an immediate turn around. This, too, is applied with some flexibility, but much predictability, for trauma-sensitive reasons...Parents are to take this attitude towards their children, meaning when a child says or does something wrong or inappropriate.

Control, itself, is always sin without the child's informed consent, and then it isn't control, but instead is feigned control, especially with older children. Control is a key form of entitlement, and is denoted by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to wanting something from a child to the point of seeking to impose said item on a child, leading to theft/kidnapping. "Abuse" is the theft or kidnapping imposed, and "impose" is the control involved.

Many conversations could be considered controlling, but are you willing to apologize for appearing controlling? In an exchange, many times, if you don't apologize, YOU are the one who is entitled. Control can be understood as a form of intent, meaning wanting something from someone while expecting it handed to you, as determined by a massive temper tantrum, even of perhaps a minor sort, when the children don't do what you want them to do. 

But, it isn't a controlling conversation with a child, but an entitled attitude as a parent/caregiver that carries into real life. It is a whiny, hasty attitude in parents that rebels against their children, tries to form them into their image, and is otherwise an entitled spoog in need of a good whipping of 40 lashes by pedophiles, meaning their core anti-spanking victims.

I have no control in life. I'm quite content with that. Entitled to nothing, grateful for anything. Anything else I can work for, including trust in my enemies (most of the time by giving them their space). I don't like being controlled, at all. So, you can leave when I'm angry and shouting and scream.