Parent anger: How to eliminate parent anger once and for all

Many parents think that they have the right to get angry with a child. This is a common belief and attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents feel that they have the right to get angry with their child, usually by demanding respect. Most parenting decisions in America are motivated by anger. The fact of the matter is that most parenting decisions in Ancient Israel, as well as the Early Church, were motrivated by reverent anxiety, not anger. 

It says in Matthew 5:21-22 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said of them of old time, Thou shalt not kill, and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment: But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire. 

The phrase "without a cause" refers to righteous judgment. Christ is saying that any fits of anger outside of righteous judgment are akin to murder. This meant to the Ancient Jews that one should never get angry at children, as children were seen as sacrosanct in the biblical context. Children, in biblical times, were seen as doing no wrong. Thus, parents in biblical times knew not to get to angry at children, and, in fact, they were emotionally incapable of becoming angry at even the worst of childhood misdeeds. Righteous judgment, for parents, was instead to protect children from interlopers. Parents in biblical times instead worried when children were acting up or not getting along with each other, in the form of righteous anxiety. Parents, when struck by a child, cried in order to model to the child to cry instead of hit to get what they want.

The Greek root word denoting entitlement, including parental entitlement, and cross-referencing the Tenth Commandment, is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, this refers to wanting anything from children, period. It is good not to want anything in life, including from children. But, since we all want things from children as depraved and decadent adults, it is good to ask politely and appropriately for what we want from children, accepting when children cannot or will not give us what we want. Most all entitlement, including most all parental entitlement, comes from a deserving place in one's sin nature, where you feel that you are deserving of things in life. However, YOU, as a parent, are a depraved and decadent sinner, who is deserving of absolutely nothing in life, including in relation to children. 

How do you kick the parent anger habit, and eliminate all parent anger for good? First, declare yourself a depraved and decadent sinner, and know that you are deserving of absolutely nothing in life, not even from your children. When you know that you are deserving of absolutely nothing in life, you don't get angry because you feel you, for example, deserved better treatment from your children. The idea is to tell yourself and remind yourself that you are deserving of absolutely nothing from your children. You may find that you then demand less from your children, to the point of not demanding at all.

Declaring yourself a depraved and decadent sinner in relation to children, and knowing that you are deserving of absolutely nothing in relation to your child, turns the parent anger inward-facing, where it can be controlled easily, and only brought out when appropriate, which is never in instructing your child, which is always in protecting your child from interlopers. That entitled anger then percolates in your center, in order to dissolve to nothing. 

The more you take your parental entitlement seriously, the more you will take every level of your entitlement seriously. Parental entitlement is the lowest level of entitlement in our entitlements, and thus if you don't have that one in check, it is as if you don't have any of the others in check according to God's Law. It is good to stop wanting things from children, if you want to meet the good goal of not wanting anything in life..

Other ways to boost your parental non-entitlement is to budget your words. I myself do not speak in public, or at least try to abstain from it, except when absolutely necessary. The more you abstain from speaking to others, the more you center your parental entitlement, as both are intertwined in the brain. Parental entitlement is a spoken entitlement that demands things from children, with physical and sexual components. It is not a good thing to follow willy-nilly. The idea is to center that entitlement, and make choices based on valid child development research and psychohistorical research into the biblical context.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be forever cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!