Pro-social rejoice, pro-social run aground: Proper biblical parenting

Many parents try to run their children aground in terms of "defeating behaviors" or "breaking their will". In actual biblical parenting, someone is run aground, but it is none of the children getting run down - it is the parents. 

Parents in biblical times rejoiced in being run aground by their child. The doctrine of mutual surrender in parenting is stated in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to rest and trust in the love and grace of parents, just as adult believers rest and trust in Lord Jesus Christ. Replace "obey" and "trust" and you get a gist of the Fifth Commandment, but there's more to it than that. It is trust to the point of onslant in terms of emotional expression towards parents. Surrender to parents was showing your every emotion to parents, sharing emotions with them with parents as confidants, with even intense emotion being hurled on parents, with parents listening and validating, being a wastebasket for the negative and upset emotion of children. Parents were run aground with their duties towards children, being complete devotees to their children, putting children first and parents last. Parents were run aground, and rejoiced in their servitude, loving their children unconditionally, in the Agape sense, denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao). See Matt. 22:35-40.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers literally to "stirring up" upset and resentment in children, as in the Jewish idiom "stirring the pot" in regards to a child's emotional welfare. This refers to provocations to anger under the Law imposed upon children, with this referring to all offenses against children, as defined by the slightest of offense perceived by a child, including any form of punishment or control of or over children, regardless. The Apostle Paul was rebuking Greek Christian parents on their tradition of spanking children, brought into the church from greater Greco-Roman society. Parenting in Jesus' and Paul's Jewish culture was attachment based, with the Apostle Paul handing out attachment parenting manuals, instructing exemplary instruction, with parents being the Living Example of Christ, only since they are not Christ, they should focus on self-discipline. Parents are to render themselves entitled to nothing, but grateful for the every joy their children bring them, and then model that attitude to children.

Being able to model discipline to children means allowing them enough freedom to run you aground. Parents in the Early Christian context believed in a principle known as pro-social self-crucifixion, meaning taking up the cross for their children, sacrificing everything for one's child, being awe-struck with reverent terror and fear at the mere vulnerability of the child, fearing their child's wrath, wanting to keep the child pleased and happy, with parents shaking and quaking at the child's every demand for their needs. Children were seen as an extension of God, based on the fact that vulnerable individuals were a sign of God in terms of their needs - you serve your child's needs, you serve God's needs (Matt. 25:31-46).

The depraved and entitled parents who punish and control their children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn and suffer in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death! The depraved and entitled parents will descend into everlasting Hell and torment! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!