Why we are the enemy of children - working to be friends

Many parents think that children are their enemy, and that they need to force reconciliation by "breaking their will" to misbehave. Not all parents state this out loud in what they espouse in terms of disciplinary values. However, the reverse is true, if you understand the Bible...We as adults are the enemy of children.

Every single adult is guilty of their mere existence in relation to children, and must submit to the every need of children as their enemy, just as mankind submits to God as His enemy, paying due penance accordingly, with parents paying penance by their calling to be parents, in the form of bondservice towards children, expecting absolutely nothing in return, as denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao).

What does this mean in practice? A righteous struggle that all parents are commanded to undergo, meaning reconciliation from a divide created by adult-kind and child-kind by millennia of child abuse, usually sexual in nature. This abuse and oppression, in the last few centuries, has grown increasingly more severe, with more tyranny and hegemony against children. Adults need to reconcile with children, usually in parent-child order, meaning parents repent in front of God through their child for their sins and abuse against children, with the child being the extension of God receiving a formal apology with non-verbal backup.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) is secure, vulnerable rest in the care, support, and protection of parents, owing absolutely nothing in return. This is what being the enemy of children is. Adults are in a high position in society, towering over children like the entitled beings that they are, making themselves the enemy of children merely by existing in relation to them. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up" and refers to the offenses, meaning the damages imposed by entitlement. The Greek root word denoting entitlement in the New Testament is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers not merely to wanting things from children, but wanting things to the point of seeking to impose said want on a child, leading to an offense against a child when said child victim perceives offense, alarm, upset, or other psychological or physical damages.

In the biblical context, in ancient Hebrew culture, including in the Early Church, all interpersonal relationships were highly individualized - think a crowd of people, but everyone spread out - in an adversarial way. This didn't usually mean gaslighting your neighbor, but perhaps it did at least some of the time. This meant, in friendship, "I don't understand you as a person, and never will fully". This is how parents in the Bible actually approached even their own children, meaning fathers and mothers admitted to themselves that they were flawed and sinful, and used that conviction in the form of allowing their child to tell them their needs, with mothers in particular being close to their children. Co-sleeping was a way for mothers to gain a secure attachment with their children, thus respect from them. Proper biblical respect for parents is resting in safety of your parents' arms, knowing parents won't punish you or hurt you in any way. 

Parenting in ancient Jewish culture was attachment-based in nature, with punishment only acceptable within a judicial context or church discipline, and corporal punishment was not a part of church discipline in the Early Church. No child under the age of majority could be charged with a crime of any sort, meaning culpability fell on their parents. Even touching a child without their consent, or a co-parent's consent, was seen as battery, a legal damage involving touching any child without consent in any way. Mothers were physically close because the touch was loving and age-appropriate, and thus the children gave implied consent. Thus, punishing a child at all was illegal then, and this Law was transported to Westernized society by Christ's death and resurrection.

True biblical parenting is about admitting that you hate your child, like all adults due at some level, and learning to earn friendship while being their enemy. This doesn't mean children are the enemy, but the reverse - we've made ourselves their enemy for how we've wronged them, and we should approach them like that, with that sort of reverence.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Punitive parenting shall not exist within the borders of the United States, and if you defend your sick habits of punishing children, you shall not exist, but since the death penalty is also immoral, you shall only exist within a prison cell, beat up by the other inmates. Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!