Mutual submission: The proper setup of any home

Most parents in this country abuse children. 94% of parents physically batter their children, and 1 out of 3 might do so in a way that falls within state and federal child abuse definitions. Many parents think of themselves as the cop over their children, when in fact parents and children must submit to each other.

It says in Ephesians 6:1-4 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as this is right. Honor thy father and mother, for this is the first commandment with promise; That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live upon the earth. And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to rest and surrender in the care, support, and protection of parents, owing nothing in return. Every single parent and adult is guilty for their mere existence in relation to children, and must submit to the child's every vulnerable need, knowing nothing ever more about what it is like to be a child, and also knowing their capacity to harm a child, expecting absolutely nothing in return. 

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers to the chastening of the Lord, meaning in this case self-discipline and self-control in a behaviorist way, meaning self-behaviorism. This involves self-inflicted aversive punishment for wrong and abusive actions towards your child, and rewarding yourself once you "get it together" and are disciplined as a better parent. Parents are strict with themselves in an encouraging way that models children to also be strict with themselves, especially as they get older and are old enough to study Scripture with parents. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to the admonition of the Lord, meaning the word "no" or its various variants. Parents must set realistic limits and boundaries with children, in accordance with their emotional and cognitive development. However, the admonition of the Lord is weighed against punishment of any kind by parents. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is παροργιζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers to the offenses, meaning damages and torts under Jewish law, summed up in the New Testament as the slightest of personal slights perceived by a child. This is a simple understanding of a complex system of torts stemming from the Eighth Commandment that, in the biblical context, included assault and battery, even for children, without any legal defense for "reasonable chastisement". Punishing anyone was only legal as a result of a criminal conviction or church offense. In the Early Church, punishment insisted of putting offenders on trial in order to excommunicate them.

Parenting in ancient Hebrew culture was attachment based, and that parenting culture carried on into the Early Christian context in the New Testament in terms of church ordinance, meaning the Apostle Paul, in giving the commands quoted herein, was actually commanding fathers of Greek origin not to punish or be harsh with their children. In an epistle, it is written to "a few troublemakers" on the side of the context, and what troubles you have in the modern context, together in sync. There were likely usual offenders who battered their wives and children, and the Christian culture and ordinances then saw it as a man losing control, not "being in control". Control for a man was self-control and self-discipline, meaning the more violent you were, the weaker you were as a man, meaning you were a snowflake for even getting offended at all by a child crying all the time. Just tend to them, or help out the mother. If you are offended by a child "talking back", you are a snowflake, and you need to get a grip, because that child is smaller than you, and you are afraid of that child. Get a life, meaning live your life better, in a way that you aren't so butthurt about your child having feelings of their own. Parenting then was based on the biblical doctrine of mutual submission, meaning parents and children submit to each other, with the parent submitting to the child's needs/wants first, then the child listening to parents while trusting them in secure attachment and rest in the love and grace of their parents.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be tormented in the lake of fire and brimstone, suffering the second death for all eternity! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!