Why pro-spanking parents don't love their children

 Most parents think they love their children. But, do they really love their children? Most parents misunderstand what love is, and assume it is some warm emotion they feel for their child. In fact, love is an action towards a child, not an emotion or sentimental feeling, and it has to benefit the child or else it is not love.

It says in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 KJV:

Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in inequity, but rejoiceth in the truth; beareth all things, hopeth all things, believeth all things, endureth all things, Charity never faileth: but whether they be prophesies, they shall fail; but where they be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.

"Thinketh no evil" refers to no vengeful planning against your neighbor, namely your children. The Greek root word translated "charity" denotes Christian love, and is denoted by the Greek root word αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) and refers to submission to the needs and rights of children to the capacity depicted in this passage. It is a humble, sacrificial submission to the needs and interests of children. It is a parent sacrificing for their child's needs and rights, just as Christ sacrificed for His children, taking up the cross for your child as a form of pro-social self-crucifixion. Parents are to submit to a level even lower than their children. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things, as is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to surrender and rest in the love and grace of parents, in the form of providing custody. This means receiving care and support from a parent, and not owing anything in return. It is secure attachment, meaning "attached to the hip" of parents. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stir up" and refers to damages, meaning the slightest of personal slights perceived by the child, imposed willfully or recklessly. 

Parenting in ancient Hebrew society was attachment-based, meaning parents didn't punish children, but instead modeled good attitudes and behavior to a child within a securely attached parent-child bond. Co-sleeping was acceptable for even older children in that culture, whereas older children usually ranged beside their mother. Corporal punishment only existed in the Bible in the form of judicial corporal punishment, with the rod of correction being a switch being used against an individual convicted of a capital offense, which could include spanking of a child.

If you want to control and punish your child, you don't love them, and you never did. You just feel affection for them, like they are a cherished pet. How about submitting to God through your child, and becoming a gentle parent? Being and remaining a gentle, non-violent, non-entitled parent is a command from God...The moment I harm a child, even momentarily, I don't love them, but the moment I make up and make amends with them, the moment I always loved them from the very beginning.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through child abuse will not inherit the Kingdom of God, and will languish in eternal Hell-fire! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!