Discipline: What does it mean, biblically speaking?

 Many pro-spanking gurus talk a lot about discipline, and how it is imparted, and what it is. Many anti-spanking progressive Christians, including my mother, say that it is to "disciple" or teach. The Bible, in fact, is speaking about about a specific type of discipline - a self-controlled, centered type.

The Greek root word translated "chastening" or "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia), and is a value attributed to adults and not children in ancient Jewish culture. It is most aptly described in Hebrews 12:11 KJV:

Now no chastening in the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous; nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.

This is used as a rod verse by pro-spanking parents to justify their abuse, but the Greek root word λυπέ (Latin: lupe) which refers to a specific type of pain, one that comes from hardship, either from logical or natural consequences. It is an attitude that one is entitled to nothing, and thus grateful for everything in a parent, caregiver.

How are these values modeled? It says in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is translated by the Greek root word παιδεία as well, and refers to the self-discipline and self-control of the parent handed down to the child in exemplary format. This also refers to homeschools then, which involved Socratic reasoning. Christian parents kept their children home, but at the same time allowed for their children to question everything in a gentle, non-violent environment, and a traditional one, where they most surely sided with their Christian parents. There was no punishment at all to "keep in" the instruction, and most teaching involved the Christ-like, sacrificial example of a parent. 

Parents then practiced pro-social pedophilia, meaning they listened to their child's upset, and thus earned the appointment of being a safe person to talk to by the child. Pro-social pedophilia is not at all the same as pedophilia, and any sexual abuse would in fact sever such a bond. It is guiding the child's rambunctious behavior into a jurisdictional peacekeeper, where children know they can be themselves to the fullest degree around parents. It is a relationship where you hide nothing from parents, and nothing is embarrassing for them to find out. This is how parenting was in ancient Jewish culture.

Discipline is centeredness and self-control. I control nobody but myself, and am entitled to nobody, but especially a child, anything whatsoever. I have to earn respect in terms of interpersonal relationships, including with a child, and if she hates me, I must deal with it. Let the depraved and entitled parents who provoke children to anger BURN! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!