Child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for stronger laws against child abuse

Many parents think that the ancients in the Bible had no concept of childhood, let alone child abuse. Most American parents support the current child abuse definitions. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of parents being sorely disappointed when children don't give them what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children, just for existing. Even any parent anger directed towards children is parental entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. Whenever this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. Child abuse in the Bible, as a legal concept, consists of entitlement in parents, leading to offense in children. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in adults. Just like with relationships between adults, hurt feelings are inevitable in children when bringing them up. Thus, parents should avoid offense in their children by giving them a meaningful apology whenever you hurt their feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent when children cannot accept a limit not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting a limit, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as any parent anger directed towards children is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement even in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it, obeying God over men.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely childhood trauma. The ancients had a basic understanding of childhood trauma. Whenever children grew up to be atheist, shame fell onto their parents, meaning never onto the atheist child. Atheism was seen then as a sign of childhood trauma, not a "lost soul" to be "won over".

The ancients even had a basic understanding of child sexual abuse. The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers here to any sexual relations outside of marriage. One form of sexual relations then seen as child sexual abuse was any sexual relations with a child. Even giving children sexual or amorous attention was seen as child sexual abuse then, even if the child liked it. Sexually abusing a child, in the Old Testament, was seen as a capital offense. Child sexual abuse was rare in the biblical context, meaning next to non-existent. Mere pedophilia, meaning sexual preferences for children under age 14, was not banned then, and a pedophile then could ask for help whenever they couldn't go it alone. 

Child abuse was prosecuted in the Early Church by way of church investigation. In most cases, the investigation started with a child confiding with a clergyperson about their home life. Then, the council subpoenaed for the parents to testify in court. If the parents defended themselves at all in court, they were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God. 

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by Jews, with no Jew worth mentioning ever endorsing any punitive parenting of children. Each of the biblical writers wrote a parenting manual that endorsed attachment parenting. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for minor children. The rod of correction in Proverbs refers specifically to the 40 minus 1 lashes, meaning a sentence for a crime, with fathers being deputized by the Sanhedrin to administer the blows.

America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian values. We as a society glean from the Bible and its context in order to know how to live and treat each other with respect. Even our legal codes are based off of the Bible. However, it just so happened that the parenting manuals written in biblical times were not translated into English until the 1960s. Thus, we were in the dark as a Christian society as to how to deal with children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torrents, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Benign" deprivation: Why saying "no" to children "frequent and often" can be child abuse

Many parents think that children need to hear the word "no" from parents "frequent and often". This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most Americans believe in the doctrine of "benign" deprivation, which basically amounts to saying "no" to a child for every little thing. However, saying "no" all of the time can be seen as child abuse under God's Law.

God's Law on child abuse is spelled out in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children includes avoiding saying "no" to every little thing a child wants. A child should only hear the word "no" from parents when absolutely necessary, meaning almost never. Sometimes, a child cannot accept the word "no" even when necessary, in which case the parent should be willing to give a meaningful apology to children. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent, when children cannot accept the word "no" when not given out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to say no to X for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while saying "no" to your child, you should definitely give a formal apology to children for hurting their feelings when their feelings are hurt by your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to never losing your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with your child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought into the church their pagan parenting customs, which were punitive on children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Under customary law in the Early Church, as a general rule, the word "no" was prohibited in parenting. The only exceptions were if the petitioned requests from the child was unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. When children could not accept the word "no", parents apologized to children, usually in the form of reassurance of good intent. However, whenever parents said "no" out of anger, they definitely were required to give a formal apology for abusing a child with the word "no". But, most parents found nicer-sounding phrases to decline a request, such as "that won't work", "that isn't possible", or "that can't happen".

Parenting in the Early Church was not motivated by anger, with any parenting motivated by anger being seen as akin to a viper lashing out at an unsuspecting child. Maybe the child was given a warning, but that's about it. Most Christian parents in the Early Church were motivated by worry or concern, not anger. Most of the time, the word "no" from Christian parents in the Early Church was given out of worry or concern, not anger.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke your children to anger through punitive parenting will nor inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

"Biblical spanking": Why the rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses

Many parents think that the Bible says somewhere "spare the rod, spoil the child". This saying is nowhere in the Bible. However, the Bible mentions the rod of correction 6 times in the book of Proverbs. But, the rod verses in Proverbs are repealed verses.

One commonly cited rod verse is Proverbs 13:24 KJV:

He who spareth his rod hateth his son: but he who loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

The Hebrew word translated "son" is ben and refers to a mature adult son. The Hebrew word translated "rod" is shebet and refers to the rod of correction, coming in the form of a switch. This passage ultimately refers to the 40 minus 1 lashes, administered to the bare back, as a sentence for a crime. Striking a fellow Jew outside of a courtroom setting was unlawful then. Striking a minor child was always wrong then. The reason for this commandment is that otherwise, Jewish parents would refuse to whip their adult children. The court then would deputize the father to whip his errant son, and usually, fathers were hesitant to administer the blows.

Christ abolished the harsh punishments in the Old Testament by way of doing His Work on the cross. Christ endured corporal punishment unjustly, and thus corporal punished in any case was banned in the Early Church. Before Christ was nailed to the cross, He was administered a whipping to the bare back, also coming in the form of 40 minus 1 lashes. 

The book of Proverbs does not give parenting advice. However, the Bible does weigh in on the spanking issue, and then some. See Colossians 3:21 KJV: 

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. It is one thing to stop spanking children. However, it is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children. You need to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults - be willing to apologize for hurting the feelings of another, especially in the case of children. Hurt feelings are inevitable in parenting, just like it is inevitable in relationships with other adults. Thus, when you do hurt your child's feelings, you should apologize for hurting their feelings. Usually, all that is necessary is reassurance of good intent, coming from parents when children could not accept a limit not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you need to give a formal apology for hurting your child's feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to losing your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool alone with your child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The staple punishment for children in Ancient Greece was a spanking to the bare bottom. Spanking originated as a pagan custom infiltrating the Early Christian church parishes. Paul would have none of it, and used his inspired pen to convict the scofflaw parents who punished their children.

Any parent anger directed towards a child was seen as entitlement then. Christian parents in the Early Church were not motivated by anger, and instead were motivated by worry or concern. Anger directed towards children was seen then as akin to a viper. Maybe children were given a warning, but not by much. 

"Biblical spanking" is a man-made teaching. King Solomon himself advocated for attachment parenting in his secular writings. King Solomon issued a parenting manual for Jewish parents to use as reference in parenting. This parenting manual advocated against spanking. All of the other biblical writers advocated attachment parenting as well. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will nor inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Hebrews 12:5-6: Why this passage is not a pro-spanking passage

Many parents use the Bible as an excuse for punishing children. This is common belief that is spread by pro-spanking pastors and priests. Most clergypersons cite several Bible verses out of context. The teaching of "biblical spanking" is held together by the passage in Heb. 12:5-6. The fact of the matter is that this passage has nothing to do with earthly parenting. Instead, it has to do with enduring hardship.

God's Word on enduring hardship is stated in Hebrews 12:5-6 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation that speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou are rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth,

When interpreted correctly, this passage can be comforting to me. The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μαστιγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and can have a figurative meaning to it. This sort of figurative language is known as "rod language", meaning that when you had a long day at work, you instead said "God whipped me hard today". God does not literally reach down from the heavens and whip His children. However, God punishes His children, like only He can, sending trials and tribulations the way of His children whom He loves the most. However, God only punishes His children when it does not harm them, whereas earthly parents only punish their children when it does harm them. This passage was written to the Hebrew Christians to reassure them in their persecution from Rome.

God never intended for His Parenting strategies to be used by earthly parents. The Bible does not discuss any sort of biblical spanking. However, the Bible does weigh in on the spanking issue, and then some. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards a child. It is one thing to stop spanking children. However, it is not enough to stop spanking or punishing children. You need to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults - be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt the feelings of another, especially in the case of children. Usually, all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent coming from parents when children cannot accept a limit not set our of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including while setting limits, you should definitely give a formal apology for hurting their feelings with your anger, such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with your child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This is commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The staple punishment for children in Ancient Greece was spanking to the bare bottom. Parents in the Early Church were punishing children and claiming such acts to be "Christian". Paul would have none of it in the churches that he oversaw as deacon. He convicted the Greek Christians of their pagan parenting custom, and then they had no choice but to conform to the norm of the church.

Parenting in the Early Church was not motivated by anger. Instead, Christian parents in the Early Church set limits out of worry or concern. Worry or concern was what motivated parenting then. Anger at children then was seen as akin to a viper striking out at an unsuspecting child. Maybe the child was given a warning, but not by much. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for stronger laws against child abuse

Many parents think that the ancients in the Bible had no concept of childhood, let alone child abuse. Most American parents support the present-day child abuse definitions. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse - whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin  pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent who is sorely disappointed when children don't give them what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Even any parent anger directed towards a child is parental entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. Whenever this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards children. Child abuse in the Bible, as a legal concept, consists of entitlement in parents, leading to offense in children. The key to not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults - be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt someone's feelings, including in the case of children. Usually all that is necessary is a reassurance of good intent when children cannot accept a limit not set out of anger, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limits for Y reasons". But, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including when setting a limit, you definitely need to give a formal apology to your child for hurting their feelings with your anger such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit never to lose your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool with your child alone is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase translating roughly to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely childhood trauma. The ancients in the Bible had a basic understanding of childhood trauma. If a child grew up to be atheist, it was seen as a sign of trauma, not merely a case of a "lost soul" worth "winning over". 

The ancients in the Bible even had a concept of child sexual abuse. The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers here to any sexual advances towards a child, including when perceived by a child. Most child sexual abuse then was committed by parents, even in the case of sodomy against young boys. In the case of female victims, fathers usually acted on a sexual attraction to his daughter. Most men then knew to masturbate to sexual attractions to children. Child sexual abuse then was rare, meaning next to non-existent.

Child abuse then was prosecuted by way of a church investigation into a child's home life. This usually started when a child confided into a clergyperson about experiencing child abuse when at home. The elders of the church then subpoenaed the parents to testify before the council. If the parents defended their abusive conduct at all, they were excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by Jews, with no Jew worth mentioning ever endorsing punitive measures in parenting. Each writer of the Bible, as well as Christ Himself, wrote parenting manuals advocating attachment parenting Even King Solomon wrote an attachment parenting manual for the little ones, with the rod of correction referring to a sentence for a crime, namely the 40 minus 1 lashes.

America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian values. We as a society glean from the Bible and its context in order to know how to behave and treat each other with respect. Even our legal codes are based off of the Bible. It just so happens that the parenting manuals in the biblical context were not translated into English until the 1960s.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torrents, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Back talk: How to deal with back talk in children

Many parents have been there. A child talking back. Most children talk back at some point in their childhood. Most children who talk back to parents are punished for it. However, there are better ways to deal with a defiant child, with these methods found in the Bible. The Bible deems all punishment of a child, including for back talk, to be a form of child abuse.

God's Law on child abuse is stated in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement, with this entitlement including any parent anger directed towards a child. The key behind not abusing your child is to avoid offense in children. Avoiding offense in children is the same as avoiding offense in other adults - be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt the feelings of another, especially in the case of children. One way that children's feelings are hurt is if they cannot accept a limit. This is when children, in many cases, talk back. The idea behind responding to back talk is to give a meaningful apology for setting a limit. Usually, all that is necessary in parenting is a reassurance of good intent, such as "I'm sorry, but I had to set X limit for Y reasons". However, if you ever lose your cool with your child as a parent, including when setting a limit, you definitely need to give a formal apology for hurting their feelings such as "I apologize for losing my temper with you", and then commit to never losing your cool with your child ever again, as losing your cool alone with a child is entitlement, and was seen as entitlement in the Early Church. This passage implies the fact that all punishment of a child is sin. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin term roughly translated to "power to the parent", namely the power to impose punitive sanctions onto children, such as spanking or other punishment of children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

In attachment parenting, in the context of the Early Church, children usually listened to their parents, not out of fear of punishment, but out of vulnerable trust in parents. Most limits were accepted in this way. But, when a child could not accept a limit, parents were quick to apologize. When children were given a meaningful apology, they always accepted it. Sometimes, the child needed some time in with mom to help them through disappointment, but they always accepted the apology of parents at some point. If they refuse to listen to a set limit past that point, do it for them, and quit your complaining in the process. If they are truly endangering themselves, such as running into the street, pick them up and hold them, whispering "don't scare me like that" into their ear. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pedophilic children: How to accommodate your pedophilic child

Many parents have a fear of their child being abused by child predators. However, most parents don't even entertain the thought of their child being a pedophile. Most parents think that pedophilia is something a "dirty old man" has. However, pedophilia is a valid mental health label. Most pedophiles can be identified by the late teens - meaning while they are still children themselves. What should a parent do then? The disorder is actually not a big issue at all, meaning it is among the most treatable of all mental health disorders. 

What is pedophilia? A pedophile is not an anger packet lodged in the brain of an individual. A pedophile is a human being who has a sexual preference for children under age 14. Most pedophilia exists in the context of immature autism, meaning that pedophiles have a specialty in children in terms of knowledge and social preference. If you see a teenager with autism just get along with much younger children, think pedophile. Usually, the pedophile acts as a defense attorney on behalf of younger relatives when they first show themselves to the world. 

Being a pedophile is not a sin, meaning pedophilia in and of itself is not a moral crime. In the Early Church, pedophiles could admit to sexual attraction to children, usually when in need of help. It was not seen as shameful to admit. It was seen instead as a flaw to be used for good. Anyone with a sexual attraction to children could admit to pedophilia whenever they needed to, with the other person being a shoulder to lean on..

The hysteria surrounding pedophiles and pedophilia did not start with trauma survivors. The hysteria started with Pope Constantine issuing an ex cathedra statement banning the admission of sexual attraction to children, meaning "all friends disperse" when attraction to children was admitted. Also, anyone who defended a pedophile was lumped in with pedophiles, and was shunned as well. The pedophile hysteria was simply catered to by trauma survivors. However, they were trying to end the hysteria by way of smoke signals to oppose key false statements that they made about pedophiles and pedophilia. 

Pedophiles had to live by certain rules in the Early Church in order to be accepted. The Greek root word denoting sexual sin is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers not to mere sexual attractions, but to the general rule then that sexual relations was only allowed within the context of a Christian marriage. When a wife wasn't around, most adults masturbated to sexual thoughts, including thoughts of children. A man then had two acceptable sexual outlets - his wife and his own imagination. Masturbation without pornography was seen then as a purity ritual, meaning where you went instead of sexual relations outside of marriage. Righteous masturbation is what was practiced by biblical pedophiles, meaning they masturbated to sexual thoughts of children without pornography. It is a myth that the word πορνεία alone bans pedophilic fantasy. 

1 out of 4 pedophiles are guilty of child sexual abuse. Usually, this offense is committed out of bodily curiosity. That is why a pedophilic child should be given body positivity books to read and explore. I myself am a sex offender in past-tense, and I was curious about the children that I targeted, in terms of their bodily attributes. I myself mainly committed street harassment, but the curiosity about the child form was still there. I did freshen up my cousin on the side of her budding breast in my grandparents' attic. Most pedophiles who do sexually abuse a child, even when through rape, mean well in the context of their offenses. 

Most child sexual abuse is not committed by pedophiles. Most sexual offenses against children come to the perpetrator in the form of a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. Usually, his sex drive is not well cared for, and usually, he is left alone with a child. Most sex offenders hold back their sexual attraction to children until they can no longer, in which case it comes out onto the child like a ton of bricks. Your average child sex offender is not a pedophile, but instead are a plain old rapist. Many times, career abusers have many adult victims - usually women - before they dip down to child victims. 

Pedophilic disorder is the full textbook name for when pedophilia is clearly a mental disorder. In most cases, pedophiles hate themselves to the core, because they don't want to hurt a child. They think that they would sexually abuse a child, just for having a sexual preference for young children. That makes most pedophiles good people, not bad people. Most pedophiles are not a danger to children, with them, if anything, being a danger to themselves. Many pedophiles have a suicide plan for if they are found out. Once the pedophile accepts themselves, meaning learns to like their fantasies, their disorder is in remission. Some of us as pedophiles lacked the understanding of proper boundaries, which is another form of pedophilic disorder. Whenever pedophilia interferes with your life, or is acted upon, it is a mental illness. If you feel the need to seek out a therapist, you are mentally ill as a pedophile. The label of pedophilic disorder itself is only for billing purposes, and other than that, it is just a label to help clinicians understand the special needs of an individual. It should not be shameful to admit to mental health disorders of any kind, including pedophilia. 

Most pedophilia takes place in individuals with a moderate-severe case of autism. I myself am a pedophile with moderate autism. I can remember all the different facts about children, but I can't even be organized enough to make it through college. I have an IQ of 109, meaning I have a low average IQ. I can be verbose, but the specialty of my knowledge is in children. I am an ambivert, meaning I have no in-person friends, but would prefer to have a child as my friend. Apart from that, I am happy to be alone. Socializing is too much work for me, apart from a distant relationship such as on the Internet. But, if I was left with a child, I think I would know what to do. I have many acquaintances out and about, meaning waitresses remember me, but I prefer to keep my social interactions at that sort of distance. 

A pedophile can be diagnosed with the label as young as age 16, and can be identified even earlier. The pedophile grows up as a child into adulthood, but their sexual development stays arrested in time, in terms of age-oriented sexual preferences. 

The depraved and entitled parents who sexually shame their pedophilic child will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!