Many parents think that punishment is an acceptable thing for parents to do to their children. Most child abuse comes in the form of time-out, and then maybe the occasional spanking "out of love". However, the proper way to tend to a crying child is through time-in. There are many ways to do time-in. However, the biblical way of doing time-in is mammary closeness.
Mammary closeness is a part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely on the part of parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:
Children, obey your child in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.
The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission. Parents do good works for their child, with children resting in the good works of parents. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.
The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in is original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.
There are many ways to do time-in. Some parents send their children to a calming corner. Some parents are more hand-on in how they do time-in. However, there is only one biblical way to do time-in - mammary closeness. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before picking up the child, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting the need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whenever children were picked up, they were held close to the bosom of mothers, in mammary closeness.
Mammary closeness and breastfeeding go hand in hand. Whenever a milk-dependent child cried, the first thing Christian mothers did was allow for their child to suckle her teat. This breastfeeding warmth ended when the child pushed away the teat of the mother. This breastfeeding setup usually ended around age 2, but sometimes, children didn't refuse the teat of mothers until age 6 or even beyond.
When children under age 6 were out and about in public with mothers, mom wrapped up her child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets. These swaddling blankets were tied to the left breast, then across the dot to the right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. From there, the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Whenever children cried, they were held even closer to the bosom of mothers, in mammary closeness. These swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which was grown throughout the Ancient Middle East.
The bosom of mothers is not intended primarily for men to sexualize. Instead, that part of a woman's body was designed by God for nurturing children. Whenever children were picked up, they were held close to the bosom of mothers, in mammary closeness.
The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!