Passing down the faith: How to teach children the Christian faith

Many parents think that passing down the faith means punishing a child in order to "beat the devil out of them". This is a common attitude amongst American parents. The fact of the matter is that religion in children is a human need. 

God's Word states in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law to a group of Greek Christians in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to a certain specific form of nurturing, namely nurturing of the teaching type. Christian parents in the Early Church caught their children being good, and then praised and encouraged good behavior in children. Christian parents then set a good Christian example for their children, but backed it up by praise and encouragement, not punishment or force. Children have a human need for religion, and they can come to their own religious conclusions. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to self-directed religious instruction. The role of parents in a child's religious education is to encourage children when they take up religion. Maybe it isn't your choice of religion, but at least they have values.

Children have a human need for religion, meaning that they will eventually find religion on their own. The idea is to leave out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children growing up in the Early Church were caught in the act of reading the Bible, they were given lavish praise and encouragement. 

It is a myth that children need to have their will broken in order to accept Christ. Children are perfectly capable of forming their own religious conclusions. When children start to form an interest in religion, encourage them to explore the Bible. Religion is a human need for children and adults alike, meaning that children may be born atheist, but they eventually find religion on their own. The way of parents having a say in the child's religious education is to impart a good Christian example for your child. When they heed your example, lavishly praise and encourage them to keep headed down the straight path. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child discipline: How to discipline your child (without punishment or force)

Many parents think that discipline means punishment. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, there is a right way and a wrong way to discipline your child. The idea is to catch children in the act of being good.

God's Word states in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to a certain specific form of nurturing children, namely a teaching way of nurturing. In the Early Church, this nurturing came in the form of catching children being good, and then praising them for more of the same in terms of behavior. Parents modeled good behavior to their children, with this Christian example being backed up by praise and encouragement, as opposed to punishments or force. Children were also praised for following their religious beliefs. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and refers to encouraging the religious development of children, with religion being a human need for children and adults alike. Whenever children were caught following their religious beliefs, they were given lavish praise and encouragement.

Catching children being good is a tradition in Jewish parenting, and was even a tradition back in the days of the biblical context. The role of fathers was to praise and encourage the good behavior in children, not punish bad behavior in children. The Early Church was an offshoot of Judaism, with no Jew worth mentioning ever endorsing punishing a child. 

It is a myth that fathers raped their children with "hand-me-down-the-slate" gaslighting in biblical times. Instead, mothers nurtured up close, and fathers nurtured from afar. The role of fathers in the Early Church was to discipline his children, but only through praise and encouragement. Other than that, the man of the house simply offered moral support to the woman of the house in the course of parenting.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Temper tantrums: Why meltdowns in children are not bad behavior

Many parents punish their children simply for throwing a temper tantrum. This is a common motive for punishing children in America. Most parents think that when a child throws a temper tantrum, that they need punishment. However, the fact of the matter is that temper tantrums in children are not bad behavior.

Tending to temper tantrums is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for their children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refers to doing good things for children, meeting children's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46; 1Cor. 13:4-8.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to,  any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Temper tantrums happen a lot with children in modern American society. Most parents punish their children merely for having a meltdown. However, Christian parents in the Early Church knew more than parents today that children cry in order to petition a need from parents. Most children in biblical times did not throw a full-fledged, kicking and screaming temper tantrum. Instead, they cried when they needed something, without the kicking and screaming.

The most common reason for children in the Bible, under age 6, crying was separation anxiety. Children in the Early Church cried a deathly, screeching cry when mom as little as left the room, fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Mothers then picked up the child, and held the young child next to her bosom in mammary closeness. From there, she diagnosed the need, before meeting that need.

Children today are forced into silence by way of punishments imposed on them. Children in that context are afraid of being punished for crying. Thus, children instead hold in their big emotions, and keep holding it in, until they can no longer contain themselves, in which case they tantrum out of overwhelm. Christian parents in the Early Church instead allowed their children to cry, and then responded in order to meet the petitioned needs of children. 

Children were understood by customary law in the Early Church as having five basic categories of needs; food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - with the greatest of these needs being attachment! Christian parents in the Early Church first tested for attachment needs by co-snuggling their children in mammary closeness, possibly breastfeeding the child if they were milk-hungry. When the child continued crying, the mother scrambled to find out what the child needed, before fulfilling the child's need, whatever that need may be. Tiredness was counted as an attachment need, as children should sleep next to his/her mother when they go to bed. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

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Expanding child abuse definitions: Why the Bible calls for more laws protecting children

Many parents want the child abuse definitions to be the same as they are today. Most American parents hold onto the belief that the ancients had no concept of child abuse or childhood. The fact of the matter is that child abuse is a biblical concept, with child abuse being defined under the Law as whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of parents who are sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger being directed towards a child was deemed parental entitlement.  When this sense of entitlement on the part of parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christians who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term damages, namely trauma in this context. The ancients had a concept of trauma, meaning that when a child grew up to become an atheist, the atheism was seen as a sign of trauma, not simply a lost soul in need of saving.

Prosecution of child abuse offenders was done in the Early Church by way of pro-social rumor. The rumor started when a child shunned their parents, with the adult children turning atheist. Word spread far and wide that a child was abused. Once the rumor reached the council, a panel of 3 elders decided the fate of the parents. If the court came to a guilty verdict, the child was given a choice - go with pedophiles or go with parents. Usually, the pedophile took in the child as a foster parent for the child. If the child instead wanted to go with parents, suspicion fell onto the pedophile, with the pedophile being charged with sexual abuse of a child. "Child saviors" then were not allowed to rape their child charges.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document, with all 88 books of the Bible being written by Jews, and no Jew worth mentioning has ever endorsed anything punitive towards a child. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones. The rod of correction in the Bible was directed towards adult children as a form of judicial corporal punishment, meaning the 40 minus 1 lashes, being administered only in a courtroom setting. Christ put an end to capital and corporal punishment in the Old Testament by doing His Work on the cross. Christ Himself endorsed attachment parenting off the cuff, as a rabbi giving a sermon. 

America is a Christian nation, with the Bible being a founding document of this country, even above the Constitution itself. Most of our legal statutes come from the Bible, with our society gleaning how to live from the Bible and its context. But, the "reasonable chastisement" defense is based in false biblical teaching, and thus has got to go. We can base our new child abuse definitions off of what the Bible already says, meaning whatever the child victim perceives as abuse.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pedophilic children: How to bring up your pedophilic child

Many parents have a fear of their child meeting a pedophile. This is a common fear amongst parents. However, nothing prepares parents for when their child is a pedophile. Children can be pedophiles. and they are the most oppressed of all children. 

What is pedophilia? A pedophile is not an anger packet attached to a dirty old man. A pedophile instead has a form of immature autism where the individual with autism specializes in children and children's issues. Autism means "one with". Pedophilia is a form of autism that is "one with" children, meaning that pedophilia is an affinity attraction to children. Most pedophiles have child smarts, meaning usually that they are rule-oriented individuals with autism, but somehow think the rules don't apply to children. 

Most pedophiles become aware of their pedophilia in the teenage years, and sometimes even earlier. The diagnostic criteria for pedophilic disorder requires the mental health client to be at least 16 before being officially diagnosed with pedophilia. 

Pedophilia is simply a sexual curiosity about the child form, meaning a pedophilic child is sexually curious about much younger children. Most pedophilic offenses simply involve wanting to see things, thus undressing a child in order to sneak a peek as to what the child is covering up with their clothing. There exist children's books educating children about body parts as a form of sex education. A pedophilic child definitely can use such a book to understand fully what children's body parts look like. 

Most pedophiles can go without getting what they want fully. The Greek root word denoting lust is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers here not to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is okay to look the look, and think the think later, but if you find yourself doing the deed, then you shouldn't have even approached the child. "Approach" here refers to taking the first steps towards the sexual abuse of a child. Most pedophiles approach a child by way of zig-zag grooming, meaning they phish for personal information from a child in a way that evades the parents. I myself approached a much younger child and asked for her name and number, and all that was needed to stop me was a child who knew to not give personal information to strangers. 

Most pedophiles are the last people to abuse a child in any way. Most child sexual abuse is not committed by a pedophile, but by an adult who is a sexually entitled opportunist. Most sexual abusers of children are confronted with a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to sexually abuse a child. The reason why they abuse children sexually is that they repress their secondary sexual desires towards children, with the desires then coming out sideways onto a child, like a ton of bricks. Usually, the child is suspecting, but nobody believes the child until it is too late.

When your child discloses pedophilia to you, hold them close, and reassure them of your presence. Let them get that burden unloaded onto you, like unloading baggage, with parents being the baggage carousel. Listening to a pedophile is like listening to a child's heartbeat. The antisocial way of disclosing pedophilia isn't a tearful disclosure, but an impulsive disclosure. Some of us as pedophiles have a history of bipolar mania, and we need to tone down that royalty high. Many cases of pedophilia are associated with mood disorders, usually major depression. Most pedophiles who are found out are mostly a danger to themselves, not children. 

Most pedophiles have a history of being abused by parents, meaning their own parents. Most pedophiles were given a sexual shaming trauma. Parents usually can tell that their child is a pedophile by where the child's eyes go. Most parents shun the topic, and punish their children for sexual fantasies about much younger children. Anything that offends the child is child abuse under biblical law, including if the child is attracted to much younger children. Pedophiles have a collective parent trauma of the sexual shaming sort. I myself was accepted by a parent, namely my mother, and now she is my accountability partner. I can talk to my mother about anything, including my pedophilia. Now I have the disorder, but it is in remission, meaning I am no longer grooming young girls in a zig-zag fashion. Pedophilia is only a disorder if it interferes with your daily functioning, or else is acted upon - and I acted on it through zig-zag grooming. Most pedophiles simply have situational depression that can't otherwise be classified, and so we call it pedophilic disorder. Once the desires are both tamed and accepted, the pedophilic disorder goes into remission.

Some pedophiles are antisocial in the presentation of their disorder. Some of us seeming were born as proud as can be, meaning we had bipolar mania. Pedophilia, when co-morbid with bipolar mania, can manifest itself as a "love" addiction. I was in "love" with "love", not knowing what love is. I needed religion badly, while being afraid of being led down a pro-spanking path with religion. I did most of the Twelve Steps to keep my pedophilia at bay, meaning I first admitted that I was powerless over a co-morbid parent trauma, and then turned myself into God and His Laws, which also helped me with my pedophilia. With my pedophilia, I took a fearless moral inventory, and made amends whenever possible. You can work the Twelve Steps while only being in individual therapy, with therapy simply being a listening environment where you find your own answers. Take what you need from the Twelve Steps, and leave the rest. I myself also take mood stabilizers, and that alone brought me to a place where I could face my pedophilic desires head on. I was infatuated with child after child after child, like train cars, with everyone around me hoping for the caboose. A mentally disabled abuser like I was is the hardest of all offenders to rehabilitate, as their whole identity revolves around a specific child, meaning an autistic fixation surrounding a specific child. They want to get to know the child, but don't know the boundaries. Some pedophiles are career rapists, but they are rare. He may be a pedophile, but is he a rapist? That question is the new children's rights standard. 

Most pedophilic children are pro-social in the presentation of their disorder, meaning they are the last people to sexually abuse a child. Most pedophiles are depressed about the realization that they are a pedophile, in the most anguished of ways. Usually, pedophilic disorder involves low self-esteem, meaning they are on the depressive end of the mental health spectrum. The key for most pedophiles is self-acceptance. Self-acceptance simply means liking one thing about yourself. I myself like my sexual fantasies about children, and so should any pedophile. I just can't insist on others liking me. People are free to dislike pedophiles, but only after they hear us out as to who we really are. I personally wish that no newborn baby grow up to be a pedophile. 

The best way to accept pedophilia in your child is to listen and validate when they disclose their pedophilia, and give them a lengthy sex education based off of the abstinence model. Most people who accept a pedophile see them as a kid, in a way that involves sorrow and mourning for the child who becomes a pedophile. It is okay to pity a pedophile, but one should know that the pedophile might see the issue differently, especially when they come to an accepting place about themselves. Most trauma survivors are accepting of me being a pedophile, and they see me as a kid attracted to younger children, all the while pitying me at the same time. 

The depraved and entitled parents who punish their pedophilic child for their desires will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

The word "no": Why children need to hear the word "no" seldom (meaning almost never)

Many parents say "no" frequent and often. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents think that children need to hear the word "no" frequent and often. However, the fact of the matter is that children need your "yes" far more than your "no". The word "no" should be used seldom, meaning almost never.

The word "yes", when used frequently, is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to perform good works for children, with children resting securely in the good works of parents. Good works here refer to doing good things for children, meeting children's every vulnerable need, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40; 25:31-46; 1Cor. 13:4-8.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were initially charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your children hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul. contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as deacon.

Christian parents in the Early Church were required under the Law, as well as customary law, to, by default, never say "no" to a child, lest it offend the child. The only time parents were allowed to say "no" was when children petitioned for something unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Even when parents said "no", they were required to issue reassurance and an explanation as to why they had to say "no". If you are willing to give a Hebraic apology to your child, you are not entitled as a parent. A full apology is required when parents were angry at their children and/or approached their children by taking the first steps to sexually abusing a child, which is parental entitlement.

Even when parents had to decline a request, Christian parents in the Early Church used nicer-sounding phrases. These phrases included, but were not limited to, statements such as "that won't work", "that can't happen", or "that isn't possible". These phrases helped cushion the blow when a rare petitioned request was declined. 

Most Christian parents in the Early Church said "yes" or similar statements a lot, and that is because most unharmful wants count as attachment needs. When you deny your child what they want unnecessarily, you create a rift in the attachment with children. You also unnecessarily offend a child when you say "no" all of the time, and if you defend it as a right, it counted as an actual offense coming from entitlement.

The only way to say "no" to a child, morally legally speaking, is seldom, meaning almost never. If the parent had to say "no", they were to be apologetic in denying the child a want, and only deny a want when absolutely necessary. The right thing to say to reassure an upset child is "sorry I had to say 'no', but..." and then state the reason for the word "no". Or else, you can say it nicer and say things such as "that can't happen" calmly and apologetically.

Parent anger is the most common form of parental entitlement, and most parents who say "no" a lot have displeasure for their child that counts as entitlement. Most parents liken their child to a "gnat". The idea is to avoid parental entitlement at all costs, including any parent anger directed towards a child. The only time a parent should get angry is to take a protective stand for their child. Any time you lash out at your child, you are entitled, and need to atone for your parental entitlement by way of a full apology, promising the child never to abuse them again.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Children self-protect, adults abstain: Individual responsibility for adults attracted to children

Many parents think that pedophiles are the main threat to children. This is a common projectory excuse from parents and other adults charged with the duty of caring for children. However, the fact of the matter is that any old adult can sexually abuse a child, under the right/wrong conditions.

Every single adult is guilty just for the capacity to sexually abuse a child, meaning that adults are individually responsible for righteous avoidance in relation to children. The most necessary of all righteous avoidance is righteous masturbation. 

Children are perfectly capable of discerning whether an adult is sexually abusive or non-abusive. Children who perceive an adult as a threat have a special attraction to the adult that is repellant in nature, meaning instinct alone guides them away from harm. When children want to go with a stranger, think pedophile. Zig-zag groomers are the only abusers that evade the righteous judgment of children, and that is because they operate on the surface, without being guided by a narcissist.

The Greek root word denoting lust is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined under God's Law as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. It is okay to look the look, and then think the think later, but if you find yourself doing the deed with a child, you shouldn't have approached them. "Approach" refers to taking the first steps towards sexually abusing a child. 

I myself take the concept of adult abstinence seriously. I myself did commit an act of sexual abuse towards a child. I was a dating abuser, meaning I wanted a simple date with a child, and approached children in order to proposition them. Mentally disabled abusers such as how I was are the hardest of the abusers to rehabilitate. Mentally disabled abusers don't have a mere distant narcissist, but instead revolve their whole identity around a crush on a child.

A pedophile is not an anger packet directed at a child. Instead, a pedophile is an individual who has a sexual preference towards children under age 14. A pedophile has a form of immature autism that specializes in children in terms of intense interests. A pedophile is someone with autism who has child smarts, meaning the pedophilic individual is a walking and talking encyclopedia about children. Autism means "one with..." with pedophilia being a form of autism that is "one with" children. Usually, a pedophile is an ambivert, meaning they are extroverted around children, but otherwise introverted. Most pedophiles have moderate-severe autism, with a large part of the pedophile population having non-verbal autism. I myself have autism on the moderate end of the autism spectrum, meaning I have a passion for children's rights, and that I think a lot about children as a special interest.

Most adults who sexually abuse children are not pedophiles, but instead are ordinary adults being confronted with a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to rape or sexually assault a child. Most adults who sexually abuse children has a secondary sexual attraction to children that they repress, with the repressed desires coming out sideways onto the child, like a ton of bricks. The only way out of sexually abusing a child is in, meaning the masturbation basket.

The sexual dynamics in a family home come in the form of a criss-cross. Fathers and prepubescent daughters have a mutually unrequited attraction to each other. Boys have a dead end attraction to their mothers. Sexual abuse happens when parents repress their child attractions, with the repressed desires coming out onto the child, like a ton of bricks. The father-daughter dynamic here is called the "electra" complex. Sometimes, the mother sexually abuses her child, in which case we call that the "oedipus" complex.

All adults presumably have some attraction to children. Usually, the attraction is to teenagers, especially older teenagers who look like adults. Most men have a sexual attraction to teenage girls, and most women have a sexual attraction to teenage boys. 20% of men have a secondary attraction to prepubescent children. Most adults repress these attractions, in which case the repressed desires come out sideways, usually when the adult is left alone with a child. With righteous masturbation - meaning masturbation without pornography - the desire is quelled by the masturbatory orgasm, and an adult then can be alone with a child with no problem. I myself can handle being alone with a child, and that is because I know I can sexually fantasize about the girl later in my masturbatory fantasies.

It is the individual responsibility of all adults to abstain from child sexual abuse. It is not enough for others to stop a sexual predator, but instead, adults need to individually avoid anything that would lead them towards taking the first steps towards sexually abusing a child. We all as adults are capable of the worst forms of abuse towards children. I myself am a pedophile, and I choose not to sexually abuse a child. Part of choosing not to sexually abuse a child is masturbating righteously to sexual thoughts of children. When you discharge a fantasy about children, it quells the desires instantly, and brings you down to earth from a lust high. Righteous masturbation ends the struggle with lust, so that men in particular can be at ease with themselves. Masturbation was seen in the Early Church as a purification ritual, meaning if an individual wanted to flee fornication, they would masturbate to distract themselves from their sexual target. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire, prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!