Crying: Why crying is not bad behavior in children

Many parents have been there - a child crying out loud in the store, in a restaurant, or even at home. Parents these days believe that crying is a good reason to punish a child. Most American parents cite the Bible as an excuse to punish a child. However, the fact of the matter is that crying is not bad behavior. Crying is simply a means of a child self-advocating a need.

Tending to a crying child is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where children are to serve children selflessly, just as they would God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to; the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parening, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

All children cry at some point during their childhood. This is common knowledge amongst American parents. Whenever children growing up in the Early Church cried, mothers cooed at their child before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting it. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it.

Cooing is a primal vocalization intended to put children at ease. When mothers cooed at their children, the cries of children were put at ease, before the child was picked up. From there, children who could speak were able to identify for themselves what they needed. After the need was diagnosed in the child, mom diagnosed the need before meeting it. Most of the time, all the child needed was time with mom.

Crying is the primary means of communication posited by children. Children under age 6 cried frequently and often, and usually, all they needed was time with mom, perhaps even suckling the teat of mother if the child was milk-hungry. Children older than age 6 usually communicated needs by way of whining. Whining is actually a sign of maturity in a child. Eye-rolling in teenagers is also a sign of maturity, meaning they grew out of whining.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of\God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pedophilia awareness month: Why pedophilia is not the same as child sexual abuse

Many parents' worst fear is their child being sexually abused, usually while calling would-be perpetrators "pedophiles". However, what if it was your child being a pedophile. Most parents say they would oppose that sort of disorder in their children. What if your child developed the clinical disorder of pedophilia.

What is pedophilia? Pedophilia is not a form of narcissism, but instead is a form of autism that specializes in child smarts. Most individuals are generalizers in terms of knowledge, but an individual pedophile has a form of autism that specializes in knowledge about children. Ultimately, pedophilia is an immature parent in parallel format. If you see an adult man being kind and courteous to children, think pedophile. I myself fit the category of clinical pedophilia to a T, when pedophiles and pedophilia were understood in their original understanding. 

The Bible is silent on the concept of pedophilia. There was a term for "child saviors" in the early Greek and Aramaic, but those words are not found in the Bible. The Bible does deal with lust as a sin. However, the Greek root word denoting lust is έπιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement. It is one thing to look the look, and think the think later. But, there is a big difference between thinking the think and doing the deed. If you find yourself doing the deed with a woman or a child, you shouldn't have even approached her. Even if the sexual target is right there, it is the intent that counts as the approach.

The hatred of pedophiles, contrary to popular legend, did not start in the children's rights movement. The children's rights movement was looking to bring opposition, but the right kind. Most pedophiles are anti-spanking, and can relate to a child on their level. Most pedophiles have no anger at a child, and thus cannot fathom pro-spanking religious doctrine. 

How can you tell if a child is safe around a pedophile? Look at where the child is running to. If they run to you as the parent, and away from the pedophile, that means that the pedophile is unsafe. Pedophiles, when they are safe, are child magnets, and the children just run to them. 

I myself get mixed messages from children. They don't all run to me, but they don't hide from me either. I have a religious belief against speaking to children. The only way around that is if a child comes to me and wants to play. My religious opposition to speaking to children amounts to an infraction, but if the child treats me as a "creep", I know that I have done wrong. If I did play with a child, I would be a human ragdoll, being dragged into a game - such as hopscotch - I have to go with the child. However, if she did approach me for sexual reasons, I would be morally obligated to turn her down.

Most child sexual abuse is not committed as a career offense. Most of the time, sexual abuse of children is an opportunistic offense that has little to do with pedophiles. Most people who are aware of this nuance are trauma survivors. They were on the receiving end of the abuse, and so if they can seen nuance in their situation, I support them. The fact of the matter is that their abuse  was a normal desire for children that \is repressed, and with that desire coming out sideways, like a ton of bricks.

I myself like to point out that not every one of us as pedophiles has a squeaky clean record. I myself am non-deserving of appearances, and thus I answer to the court whenever being accused of being a pedophile. I myself also don't hide my gaze, and intentionally avoid acknowledging the parent when I look the look at their child. I am not allowed to hide my pedophilia from public visage, except to masturbate righteously. I also budget my words, and remain silent and shamefaced in my public demeanor. I am not afraid of the parents, as much as feel righteous terror in relation to children, and when they call me a "creep", I am caught in a silent stupor. I myself have a sexual harassment problem in relation to children, meaning I approached children sexually in order to flirt with a child. There is an investigation into my advances towards children, and I plan to fully cooperate with the authorities, thus opening my life up to the public. I was accused of rape, but what I did amounted merely to sexual harassment. I understand sexual harassment as a form of sexual assault involving unwanted sexual advances. Most pedophiles operate on the surface. Think the creepy dude who hides his face around  children. 

3 out of 4 pedophiles have not sexually abused a child by the North American research. I myself could have been kept away from my erotic target with stranger danger alone. However, 95% of child victims of sexual abuse know their attacker. But, when it is a stranger, think pedophile of the wrong kind. I myself have to do what is called the "bay of fundy" treatment, and that is because I have a clinical history of mania and impulsivity alongside a self-diagnosis of being a pedophile. I do not perceive this "bay of fundy" treatment as degrading at all. I deserve absolutely nothing in relation to children, and being convicted as a pedophilic adult alone centers my countenance. Maybe I needed a therapist to unload baggage, but most of the work I did myself. I identify strongly ss a pedophile who chooses the straight path in relation to children, meaning I know more than anyone how much of an actual choice it is to sexually abuse a child. It isn't in the cards, or predestined fate. It is simply a choice to avoid a child sexually, as I myself am capable of that choice under the right/wrong conditions.

I myself am a pedophile, and am out to the whole world as of late. I myself have my mother as my accountability partner. She is the type of mother to be easy to talk to about anything. She acknowledges that I am a pedophile, but knows of my choice not to sexually abuse a child. My mother probably feels more worried than she is willing to admit, and I welcome people to worry about me, as I am deserving of absolutely nothing but punishment in relation to children. I just ask that my right to be made known not be usurped. I want people to know what they are dealing with. I actually want people to worry about me concerning my pedophilia, and I'm simply there to listen and validate. I am people smart as a pedophile with autism, meaning in order to be child smart, you need to have some people skills on tab. The bay of fundy will come back, but only if a child wants me as a playmate. I literally did not understand the boundaries around children. Even if a child wants to play, it better be something like hopscotch, or else I will literally turn her down if she wants sexual favors.

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape or sexually assault children will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Honor parents: Understanding the Fifth Commandment in context

Many parents feel entitled to being honored. This is a common entitlement on the part of parents. Most parents feel deserving of being honored. However, the fact of the matter is that parents are not entitled to anything from children just for existing.

God's Law states in Exodus 20:12 KJV:

Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee.

Many Christian parents interpret this passage as a command not to even speak against parents. However, all this commandment means, in context, is that children should care for their parents as they age. Ultimately, it refers to giving back to patents, if you can. Some parents are completely dishonorable due to being abusive towards their children. No abused child has to honor their parents, as even then, honor from parents is earned.

Honoring parents correctly is a form of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV::

Children, obey your children in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey"is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to serve children selflessly, just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above. expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:25-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement  This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards childreen. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Honoring parents is a positive consequence of parenting done right. For the first years of childhood, children were first held close for the first 2 years. During the last years of childhood, children play freely, in terms of wet and messy play. However, the young adult years should be the dearest to parents - when children give back to their parents knowingly and willfully, just to be kind to their aging parents. But, such loving-kindness like that has to come from somewhere.

Punitive parents were discovered by way of Christian law, even in biblical times. When abused children grew up, they shunned their entitled parents. Some parents even were put before the council, where a panel of 3 elders decided the fate of the parents. Gentle parenting was illegal under Roman law, and so Christian parents then disobeyed Rome and obeyed God in parenting. Much of the abusive parenting in biblical times was lawful in nature, with young boys and girls getting a hand-over-knee spanking. The Early Christians shunned this practice, deeming the punitive parents as scofflaw parents within the church community. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torrment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of .Heaven is at hand!

How to pacify a crying child in public

Many parents want to know how to pacify a child in public. This is a common want on the part of parents. Most children cry in public at some point. There is a quick and simple way to pacify a child that is enjoyable for the two of you, namely swaddling blankets for the little one.

Using swaddling blankets with children is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your children in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word refers to a secure attachment between parents and children in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to selflessly serve their children, just as they would God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral stature prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in their secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon. 

Parents in biblical times pacified their children by way of wrapping up their child in swaddling blankets. These swaddling blankets were tied from the left breast, and then across the dot to the right leg, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. From there, the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Whenever a child cried, mothers cooed before holding the child closer to her bosom, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting those needs. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which was grown throughout the Ancient Middle East.

Crying, in biblical times, was pacified immediately in children when they were held close to the bosom of mother. Children then found ease and comfort while being wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers. Children felt nice and cozy in the warmth of mothers. Children also enjoyed the view.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants parents to pamper and baby their children

Many parents think that pampering and babying children is the irresponsible choice. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that God wants children to be pampered and babied by parents. 

Righteous pampering was part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission, with the burden of proof falling squarely onto parents. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents are to serve their children selflessly, just as they would to God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages of offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

Righteous pampering does not refer to any old pampering of a child, but to parents pampering and babying their children in a certain specific way. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness with mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did her child.  For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held, either in mom's loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged beside mothers, following her from room to room, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever the child cried, mothers cooed at the child before picking them up, and from there, she diagnosed the need and then met that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it. Whenever children under age 6 were out and about with mothers, mom wrapped up the child next to her bosom in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress worn by mothers that resembled an apron. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format, with this skin-on-skin warmth happening every night, until the onset of puberty, which was when children usually wanted their own place to sleep. Children in biblical times went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the confines of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin sustaining warmth, with children experiencing the rays of skin-on-skin warmth even while being picked up. 

In biblical times, after children turned age 6, they played outside freely, naked. Children in biblical times engaged in wet and messy play. Children then travelled farther and farther from home, venturing the terrain. However, children had to check in with mothers before playing outside, to tell her where they were going. Come evening, children were called one by one, and were treated to a warm, homecooked meal cooked by mom, after being cleaned up by mom with a handrag.

Children under age 6 were protected, in a sheltered way. Children under age 6 rarely left the house, and that was largely due to environmental hazards that existed outside, with those hazards including venomous snakes and scorpions. Even today, there exist hazards outside, namely busy traffic and would-be kidnappers. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Redefining child abuse: Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the ancients had no concept of childhood, let along child abuse. This is a common belief amongst American parents. However, the fact of the matter is that the ancients did have a concept of child abuse, with child abuse being defined in the Early Church as the slightest of offenses or damages stemming from parental entitlement.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement is when parents are sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. Any parent anger directed towards children then was deemed parental entitlement. Whenever this sense of entitlement was perceived as offensive or damaging by a child, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. 

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in it original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishment, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" and is defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your children hostage merely for thing for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children his time as a deacon.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients did have a concept of trauma. Atheism was seen as evidence of child abuse. Whenever a child lost heart, and lost faith in God, they were seen as the victim of child abuse, not blasphemers rebelling against the church.

Punitive parenting was seen in biblical times as any parenting motivated by anger. Parent anger towards children was seen in the Early Church as akin to a viper lashing out at a child. Parents in the Early Church only got angry in order to lay claim onto their children, thereby voicing protective anger on behalf of the child.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke your children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Oppositional-defiant disorder: Why children with ODD need less limits (not more)

Many children each year are diagnosed with oppositional-defiant disorder (ODD). Most parents of children with ODD think that a child with that disorder need to learn hard lessons. However, the fact of the matter is that children who have ODD need LESS limits, meaning not more.

Dealing with the rebelliousness and pridefulness attitudes of children is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers here to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This highlighted word ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. This secure attachment ultimately comes from parent submission, where parents serve children selflessly, just as they would God, from beneath yet from above, expecting absolutely nothing in return. See also Matt. 22:35-40, 25:31-46.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimand, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. The parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children during his time as a deacon.

A key feature of ODD is the strong counterwill. Whenever you try to control anyone, expect them to fight back. Most children can be overpowered by an adult, but at what cost to the child? With children who have ODD, they can literally overpower their own parents. What can be done about this battle of wills? Give up. Give up the fight, and give into the demands of your child. You may find that your child isn't asking for much - meaning they usually just need YOU.

Children growing up in the Early Church usually settled down next to mom during the first 6 years of childhood. However, some children were ready for the world, before literally being ready. Christian parents in the Early Church had a label for such a child - a stand-beside-me child. Mother insisted that the child stand right by her side, but the child usually had a mind of their own. In most cases, children also demanded what they wanted when they wanted it. Stand-beside-me children were the most prized of children. Most children at some point gave up and settled in with mom and dad. Some children have a mind of their own, and they were the stand-beside-me child.

Most children can be controlled by punishment. A child with ODD fights back. ODD in children is usually secondary to another disorder, namely autism, ADHD, and/or bipolar disorder. In most cases, a change of medications will subdue the child's willfulness and rebellion. Some children simply have autism as the primary diagnosis, in which case parents have to put up with parent abuse. If it is just your child, who cares? Most of the time, children beat their parents because they needed something, but didn't have tears to cry out.

However, Christian parents in the Early Church rarely had to face a child beating them up. There are very few instances of a child striking out at their parents in the biblical context. This was because of the closeness between parent and child in Christian homes in the Early Church, where children were never punished for anything. Usually, parents who were abused experienced verbal abuse, meaning taunts and name-calling against mothers. Christian parents in the Early Church cried out loud when their children struck out at them, in the form of righteous wailing.

I myself as a child was never formally diagnosed with ODD, but I sure met the criteria to a T. Today, I find structure and grounding in my Christian faith, with a little help from psychotropic medication, namely lithium carbonate. Before then, I was a bull in a china shop, and could be combattive with adults as a child. I myself felt the heat of all of the adults around me trying to be controlling with me. However, some teachers were nice and kind, and I never saw them as abusive, and behaved well for them.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke your children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!