Righteous pampering: Why God wants you to pamper and baby your children

Many parents think that pampering a child is the same as spoiling them. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents don't even want to be seen as pampering their children. However, the Bible calls for parents to pamper and baby their children. 

The Bible commands a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. See Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: as this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and is better translated as "trust", as in "trust your parent in all things", with this commandment being written to the parents of a dependent child. This commandment refers to rest in the Agape love of parents. This commandment ultimately refers to a secure attachment between parent and child in the family home. The biblical context, when used as a guidepost, tells us how to form a secure bond with your child. 

Righteous pampering does not refer to any old pampering of a child. It instead refers to a specific method of pampering and babying children, found in the Hebraic context of the Bible. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning wherever mom went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children were in constant closeness to mothers, seemingly attached to mom's hip, not allowing mom out of their line of sight, morbidly fearing that mom would "go away and never come back". Whenever a child cried, mothers cooed before picking up the child, and from there, she diagnosed the need before meeting that need. Maybe the child was tired. Maybe the child was hungry. Maybe the child needed mom's milk. Maybe the child needed mom, period. Whatever the child needed, they got it. Whenever mothers were out and about in public with children under age 6, children were wrapped up next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets, with the swaddling blankets - and the child with them - being tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress that resembled an apron. Children went naked wherever they went, with mothers also going naked within the context of a family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin contact between mother and child, with children experiencing the rays of skin-on-skin sustaining warmth. 

When children turned age 6, they played freely outside, naked. Children growing up in the Early Church ventured farther and farther from home, exploring the terrain, engaging in wet and messy play such as mud battles along the way. Children then, by night, were still close to parents, alternating between closeness and apartness in relation to parents. But, before children could go play, they had to check in with mom and tell her where they were going.

Young children under age 6 were very much protected, in a sheltered sort of way. Children under age 6 could not appreciate the dangers that existed outdoors. These dangers included venomous snakes and scorpions, with there being no antivenom. Today, there also exists hazards for children, namely busy streets and would-be kidnappers. Children were held close for the first 6 years, and were protected even in public, being covered up in swaddling blankets next to the bosom of mothers.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Child discipline: How to discipline your child without punitive measures

Many parents want their children to have discipline. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. However, most American parents think that discipline should come in the form of punishments or other punitive treatment of children. However, there is a proper way to discipline a child - catch them being good.

God's Law on child discipline is stated in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

This first stanza here clarifies for the second that discipline should not hurt. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. A parent ideally should avoid offense in their child, meaning that parents should be willing to meaningfully apologize whenever they hurt their children's feelings. It is especially imperative that parents give a formal apology when they lose their cool with their child, as any parent anger directed towards a child is entitlement. However, even refusing to apologize for upsetting your child is entitlement. This stanza of the commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents in the parish at Ephesus who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The second stanza of this commandment spells out what discipline is acceptable, with the first stanza ruling out anything punitive with a child. The Greek root word translated "nurture" is παιδεία (Latin: paideia) and refers here to a specific type of nurturing, namely of the teaching type. Children were left to form their own discipline, and when they showed discipline, they were lavishly praised and encouraged to keep up the good work. Christian parents in the Early Church set a good example for their children, but backed it up with praise and encouragement, as opposed to punishment and force. Children also need religious instruction, as religion is a human need for children and adults alike. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and is translated in more modern translations more aptly as "instruction". Religious instruction started at age 6, with fathers leaving out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When fathers caught their children in the act of studying the Bible, he encouraged the religious development of his child, saying to his child something along the lines of "you can ask me anything about that book". From there, religious instruction came in question and answer format, with children being eager to learn about Scripture, with fathers giving pointers on the context. This nurture and instruction of the Lord was clearly understood then as the Hebraic tradition of positive reinforcement, with children being caught in the act of behaviors that their parents favored in their children, with the child then receiving praise and encouragement for showing favored behaviors. 

Sometimes, children need a little nudge to go the right way in terms of discipline. However, even a tiny nudge for children can hurt a child's feelings. Whenever a child is upset by a set limit, a parent should duly apologize to their child. However, a parent should not set limits out of anger, and if parents do lose their cool in this regard, they should both apologize and commit to never losing their cool with their child ever again. 

In the Early Church, mothers nurtured from up close, and fathers nurtured from afar. It is a myth that fathers in the Early Church sexually corrected their children. Instead, fathers masturbated righteously, meaning to sexual thoughts of daughters as opposed to pornography. Righteous masturbation is, masturbation in order to stay out of trouble, meaning for health reasons. From there, the father imprinted on his children, with his connotational attraction to his children helping him supervise his children more attentively.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Hebrews 12:5-6: Why this passage is not a pro-spanking passage

Many parents think that the Bible allows, or even commands, a parent to spank or punish their children. The core argument for the false doctrine of "biblical spanking" is in Heb. 12:5-6. However, the fact of the matter is that Heb. 12:5-6 is not about earthly parenting.

God's Word states in Hebrews 12:5-6 KJV:

And ye have forgotten the exhortation that speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not the chastening of the Lord, not faint when thou art rebuked of him: For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.

This passage, when understood correctly, is comforting to me. The Greek root word translated "scourgeth" is μασιγόω (Latin: mastigoó) and refers here to a figurative whipping from God. This mention of whipping is a form of ancient metaphor known as rod language. Instead of saying "I had a long day at work" in the Early Church, you said "God whipped me hard today". God does not literally reach down from the Heavens and whip His children. But, God does punish His children, like only He can. But, God only punishes His children when it doesn't harm them. Earthly parents only punish their children when it does harm them. This passage ultimately refers to trials and tribulations\that God sends to those He loves the most, with this passage being intended to comfort the Hebrew Christians in their persecution from Rome.

God never intended for His parenting methods to be used by earthly parents. Heb. 12:5-6 does not touch on earthly parenting. However, God does weigh in on the spanking issue. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to stop spanking or punishing your children - you need to avoid offense in your child. The only way to avoid offense in children is to be willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt your child's feelings. You especially need to apologize to a child when you lose your cool with your child, as parent anger directed towards children, in and of itself, is entitlement. However, even refusing to apologize to a child that you upset is entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment. The most common punishment imposed on children in Ancient Greece was spanking to the bare bottom. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Spanking, in the Early Church, was seen as a pagan custom infiltrating their churches. Most Christian parents in the Early Church were not pro-spanking, and instead were anti-spanking. The Early Church, as a whole, shunned any form of punishment of a child, deeming such treatment of children to be of this world. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Why the Bible calls for expanding child abuse definitions

Many parents think that the ancients in the Bible had no concept of childhood, let alone child abuse. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents support the present-day definitions of child abuse. However, the Bible has its own definition of child abuse - whatever the child victim perceives as abusive.

The Greek root word denoting parental entitlement is πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and is defined as, officially speaking, wanting things from children, to the point of imposition. Unofficially speaking, parental entitlement consists of a parent who is sorely disappointed when they don't get what they feel that they deserve from children. Parents are deserving of absolutely nothing from children just for existing. In fact, any parent anger directed towards a child was seen in the Early Church as parental entitlement, and was roundly condemned as such. When this sense of entitlement in parents was perceived by a child as offensive or damaging, it was deemed child abuse. See also Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. Child abuse, as defined in the in the Bible, consists of entitlement in parents, leading to offense in children. The key is to avoid offense in your child, with you as a parent being willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you cause hurt feelings in your child. A parent definitely needs to apologize to their children when they offend their child by losing their cool with them, as losing your cool with a child, in and of itself, is entitlement. But, even refusing to apologize to your children when they cannot accept the word "no" alone is entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

The Greek root word translated "they be discouraged" is αθυμέω (Latin: athumeo) and refers here to long-term damages, namely trauma. The ancients in the Bible had a basic understanding of childhood trauma. When a child grew up to be atheist, the ancients knew something had to have happened in order to cause that child to abandon the faith. Atheism then was seen as a sign of trauma, not simply a "lost soul". 

Child sexual abuse was also a concept of the ancients. The Greek root word translated "fornication" is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers to here as a sexual interaction between adult and child, namely when a child perceives sexual advances from a child, including child rape. Child sexual abuse was rare in both the Old and the New Testaments.

Child abuse was prosecuted by the church authorities in the Early Church. Usually, church investigations started with a child confiding into a church elder or deacon about being abused by a parent. The parents were called before the council, where a panel of 3 elders decided the fate of the parents. If the parents defended themselves in any way, they were immediately excommunicated from the Early Christian Churches of God.

The Bible is an anti-spanking document. All 88 books of the Bible - from Genesis to Revelation - were written by Jews. Even in biblical times, no Jew worth mentioning ever endorsed punitive parenting of children. Even King Solomon recommended attachment parenting for the little ones, with the rod in the book of Proverbs referring to the 40 minus 1 lashes, meaning a sentence for a crime imposed on an adult son. 

America is a Christian nation, founded on Judeo-Christian family values. We as a nation glean from the Bible and its context as to how to live and treat each other with respect. Even our legal codes are based off of Judeo-Christian values. It just so happens that the Bible was poorly translated at the Latinate level, in order to keep a pagan tradition going. But, the Bible is clear about one thing - avoid offense in children, as per Col. 3:21.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Oppositional-defiant disorder: Why children with ODD need less limits (not more)

Some parents have to deal with it. A child that is oppositional and defiant in terms of having a mental health disorder. Most parents think that such a child needs more limits. However, the fact of the matter is that children with ODD need attachment parenting just like any other child does. This means less limits than conventional parenting.

God's Law on child abuse can be applied to children with ODD today. See Colossians 3:21 KJV: 

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to avoid spanking or punishing a child with ODD. Instead, parents need to avoid offense in their child with ODD, meaning that any upset in a child, when caused by parents, requires a meaningful apology, including even back talk. ODD features children not accepting the word "no", and so a parent should apologize to children whenever a child cannot accept a set limit. It is especially imperative to apologize to your child formally whenever you lose your cool with your child, as any parent anger directed towards a child constitutes entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men. The advice in this commandment applies to all children today, but especially when a child has ODD. 

ODD in a child is not a reason to punish them. Most ODD can be treated using psychotropic medication. ODD is usually a co-morbid disorder to autism, ADHD, and/or bipolar disorder. The key is to find the right medication for the child, based on what primary diagnosis that they have. Until then, it is good to keep your child safe. Once the right medication is found, you shouldn't have any more problems. 

Part of avoiding offense in a child is to avoid nay controlling demeanor in yourself as a parent. Children have what is called a counterwill, but especially children with ODD. The idea is give up the fight, and give into the demands of children. You may find that children aren't asking for much. In most cases, all they need is YOU. 

Convetional parenting can "work" with ordinary children. But, children with ODD need even more leniency, and can only thrive when in an attachment parenting setup. The idea is to not try and control your child, but instead to give into their demands.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pedophile salvation: Why the impossible standard for pedophiles isn't so impossible

Many parents worry about their children being sexually abused by a pedophile. This is a common fear in parents. However, some parents have very real fears concerning a pedophilic child in the house. A common fear a pedophile parent might have is whether their child will be saved in Christ. Most of the hysteria does not come from children's rights advocates, but rather from Evangelicals who assert that pedophiles need to meet an impossible standard in order to be saved in Christ. I myself, however, conaider myself saved, meaning wherever I look, I see no sinful habits, even in the context of masturbation/

Most pedophiles who sexually abuse children do so for holding themselves to a higher standard that is too high for them, meaning no sexual attraction to children at all. No human being can live without some sort of sexual stimulation. But, there is no such thing as an impossible standard, as pedophiles can simply masturbate to sexual thoughts of children.

The Bible is silent on the concept of pedophilia itself. The Greek root word denoting fornication is πορνεία (Latin: porneia) and refers here to anything seen in the biblical context as sexually amoral. Pedophilic attraction alone is not sin, and the pedophile in the Early Church had a squeaky clean record, they were appointed "child saviors" as a deacon or an elder. Ultimately, pedophiles in the Early Church were foster parents for children when nobody else would care for the child.

There is no impossible standard for pedophiles. All the pedophile has to do to be saved is to masturbate to thoughts of children, as opposed to depictions of pornography. It is really that simple - masturbate righteously, meaning without pornography. Most men can exit that pornography habit - just masturbate to the first mental image that comes to mind. There really is no excuse.

I myself do not have a pornography habit or addiction to speak of. I hate pornography, as God hates it as well. Most pornography involves the sexploitation of women, and even when it is writings or cartoons, there must be a kernel of truth to the story, meaning a woman or child is being promoted. 

Most pedophiles masturbate to sexual fantasies of children, while simply being curious about the child body. I myself am a curious pedophile, meaning I usually undress young girls with my imagination, and base a whole fantasy off of that mental image. I don't need pornography in order to give me a "pick up". 

Most churches ban masturbation not because of pedophiles, but because most men masturbate with pornography, which isn't the way to go. But, men are capable of masturbating righteously, meaning without pornography, as a way to stay out of trouble. 

Most pedophiles become aware of their desires by the time they are in their late teens, meaning around age 16. Thus, pedophilia counts as one of many childhood mental health disorders, and should be understood by mental health professionals just as disorders such as autism or ADHD are understood. A pedophile can be spotted even before the disorder develops in a child - just look for a child with autism acting as a defense attorney when a little sibling or cousin is being reprimanded. When you see that, lay out a nest for the pedophile to come to and safely disclose. Your child can be saved if they remain a Christian, as masturbation is only banned by churches due to what it is often coupled with.

Many pedophiles think that their desires for children alone are sinful. That is false. If they have urges, maybe they should masturbate to their imagination alone, but merely thinking sexually about children is harmless. The idea is for an adult to not repress sexual desires for children, lest it come out sideways onto an innocent child, like a ton of bricks. Most pedophiles try to hide their desires, which comes out as urges when they are fought against. When a pedophile thinks they are cured, they are in denial, and pose a risk to any child that crosses their path. The idea is for pedophiles, both child and adult, to not hold themselves to the impossible standard that society holds them to. 

I never repressed my pedophilic desires towards children, and am always aware that I am a pedophile. I, however, committed a form of child sexual abuse that only a pedophile could commit - infatuation grooming. A pedophile is perfectly capable of having a crush on a child, in which case they should have a parent and/or a therapist to talk themselves through their crush. I now know that if I develop a crush on a child, I can talk it through with my mother and my therapist. The idea behind avoiding crushes in children is to char and tar the possibility of sexual relations with a child, meaning see no possibility for sex with a child at all. 

The depraved and decadent, defiled adults who rape children - especially out of lust - will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into torrents of Hell-fire prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!

Passing down the faith: How to instruct your child in the Lord without punishment or force

Many parents think that children need religious instruction. However, most parents equate religious instruction with punishment. It is a common belief amongst Christian parents in particular that children have a broken will before surrendering to Christ. However, there is a better way of passing down the faith to children - catch them studying the Bible, and then praise them.

God's Law on child discipline is spelled out in Ephesians 6:4 KJV:

And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. 

This first stanza clarifies for the second that religious instruction should not hurt. The Greek root word translated  "provoke...to wrath" is παροργίζο (Latin: parorgizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. Not only do children lack a will to be broken, but parents instead have the moral obligation to avoid offense in children, especially in the course of their religious instruction. The key to avoiding offense in children is being willing to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt their feelings. It is especially imperative to apologize for offending your child when you lose your cool, as losing your cool alone as a parent constitutes entitlement. But, even refusing to apologize to a child for upsetting them alone is entitlement, in and of itself. Christian parents in the Early Church did not force their religious beliefs onto children, as that alone is entitlement, but especially so when it led to offense in a child. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul, in this stanza, convicting a group of Greek Christian who brought into the parish at Ephesus their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translating to "power to the parent", including the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, including spanking and other forms of punishment towards children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Religious instruction should be fun, not painful, with the first stanza of this commandment ruling out any religious instruction that hurts or is painful. The Greek root word translated "admonition" is νουθεσία (Latin: nouthesia) and is better translated as "instruction" (see more modern translations such as the English Standard Version). This word ultimately refers to religious instruction, as was done then. When children turned age 6, fathers left out a Bible for children to discover and explore. When children were caught in the act of studying the Bible, they were lavishly praised and encouraged, with fathers interjecting "you can ask me anything you want about that book" From there, religious instruction came in the form of question and answer, with children being eager to learn about Scripture, with fathers giving pointers on the context. This form of religious instruction is part of the Jewish tradition of catching children being good, in the form of positive reinforcement. This Hebraic tradition dated millennia before the time of Christ.

Many Christian parents rush their children's religious development. Most Christian parents want their children to have values, and that's all that most Christian parents want. One example of parents jumping the gun is forcing children into grateful postures. Children naturally find the grateful postures as their religious beliefs develop. I myself am a Christian, and I tie my hands behind my back whenever I go out and about, in order to remind my neighbor that they are in the presence of the elect. Your child will get there - just give them time. If your child ends up comfortable in grateful postures, you have done good as a Christian parent. If you force them to show grateful postures, they will learn to hate those postures, hindering their religious development.

Christian parents should not break the will of their child. Children do not have a will to be broken. Yet, most Christian parents insist on breaking the will of their children. However, the fact of the matter is that religious instruction should not be painful. The idea is to catch children in their curiosity about the Bible, and then encouraging Bible study in children. When children had questions about what they were reading. they asked dad for clarification, with fathers giving pointers as to the context. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to wrath through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burnng sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!