Public meltdowns: What parents should do about public meltdowns

Many parents think public meltdowns are bad behavior. This is a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents punish or reprimand their children when they engage in unruly behavior in public. However, the fact of the matter is that there is no need to reprimand your child in public for unruly behavior. Just swaddle them up in swaddling blankets when out and about.

Swaddling a child is a pictorial statement, as well as literal one, that represents the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not to your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents, This secure rest came in the form of secure attachment, with this secure attachment being commanded by God. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents submit to the good graces of their children, from beneath yet from above.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refer to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may well have not gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers whipped their children with the scourge of cords, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were hated largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Public meltdowns were not that common in biblical times, compared to today, or at least they weren't as ferocious as they are today. When out and about in public, mothers swaddled their young children - under age 6 - to her bosom in swaddling blankets. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which was grown throughout the Ancient Middle East. Children were tucked underneath the loose-fitting, revealing dress of mothers, in swaddling blankets. These swaddling blankets were tied to the left breast of mothers, and then, from across the dot, to the right leg of the mother, vice versa, or both in the case of twins. Milk-dependent children were breastfed to sleep whenever they cried. Older children were simply picked up and cradled in the arms of mothers, in mammary closeness. When swaddled children were upset, they cried soft tears, and were held closer to the mother's bosom, and breastfed when milk-dependent.

The way this can be applied today is by way of following the abovementioned context to the degree allowed under the law of the land. When children are older, they should be taken to the ladies' room and then be tucked under the blouse of the mother, in skin-on-skin comfort and sustenance. With children under age 6, you can follow the ancient instructions on how to swaddle your child in the abovementioned context. Most people can't find velvet, but they can find something to comfort their child. Comfort should be constant when out an about in public, and swaddling your child can ensure constant comfort for your child. Most gentle parenting advice calls for the parent to kneel to the child, whereas the biblical understanding of dealing with public meltdowns is to pick up the child, and swaddle young children in her bosom in swaddling blankets.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents punish their children when they cry. This reflects a common attitude amongst American parents. Most American parents believe that children deserve punishment when they cry at the wrong time. The fact of the matter is thar children need a time-in with mothers, in the form of mammary closeness.

Time-in through mammary closeness is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word refers to secure attachment, meaning a secure attachment between parents and children is commanded by God. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, where parents submit to their children from beneath yet from above.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were hated largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Time-in can come in many forms. One of the most popular ways is to invite your child to go to their room if they are feeling out of sorts. However, this is not how it was done in biblical times. When children cried in biblical times, mothers cooed at their children, before picking them up and holding them in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. The common gentle parenting advice is to kneel down to the level of the child. However, mothers in the Early Church instead picked up their children when they were crying. 

Cooing is a primal way to listen to and validate upset in children. When you as a parent coo at your child, that puts them at ease, and alone demonstrates that the mother cared about the child's feelings. In biblical times, whenever a child cried, mothers cooed in response, and that alone calmed down the child. The child was then held to the bosom of mothers, in skin-on-skin mammary closeness.

Children who cried, no matter the reason, were held in biblical times, much like a baby was held. Even older children, when they had their moments, were cradled in the bosom of mothers. Children who were milk-dependent were breastfed to sleep, sometimes in public while being swaddled in swaddling blankets. Older children who weren't breastfed were simply cradled, with mothers cooing at the child to reassure the child of her presence.

Today, this can be applied within the context of birth nudity. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were quartered next to each other in the nude in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Mothers held children close to their bare bosom when in the house, when they were crying. When out and about in public, mothers swaddled children next to the bosom of mothers, in swaddling blankets. When children were inside, children up until age 3 were held constantly, or else placed in a papoose bag when mothers were busy with chores. Children aged 3-6 ranged next to mothers. When in public in the modern day, mothers should take their older children into the ladies' room, and tuck their older children underneath their shirt in mammary closeness, when the child cries. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them forever be cast into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

 

Santa Claus: Why not to threaten your child with a bucket of coal for Christmas

Many parents are guilty of entitlement in this regard. Most parents have made threats that Santa Claus "would bring coal for Christmas", worse, hand parents a whip in order to "keep children in line". The fact of the matter is that Santa Claus, if used at all, should not be used in order to facilitate behavioral modification.

Threatening children with Santa is a moral offense under God's Law. See Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and was understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law is the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords as a means of punishing their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were hated largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Santa Claus has been enlisted by parents to threaten punishment of various sorts for "bad" behavior. The threat I got that came with Santa Claus was "coal for Christmas". I feared throughout the year that I would get just coal for Christmas, and no presents. Did that change my rebellion as a child? Not one bit. Coal for Christmas was a feigned threat growing up, but I was never told that until later. Thus, it was a form of behavioral modification.

Behavioral modification, using Santa Claus, is a form of entitlement, and when it leads to offense perceived by a child, it is child abuse. I myself was scared of getting only coal for Christmas. Even if it is a feigned threat, the child won't know the difference. In my home, growing up, coal for Christmas was a feigned threat, but it sure seemed likely, as I knew at some level that my behavior was erratic and due to some mental disorder.

Most "problematic" behaviors in children are developmentally appropriate given the child's age and development. Children outgrow most disruptive and unruly behaviors. In the mean time, children are going to cry. Children are going to pout. Santa Claus should still give them presents, with his unconditional love.

I myself, however, might recommend against Santa Claus altogether. He is the direct replicate of the Norse god Odin, I can listen to Christmas tunes featuring Santa Claus, bur I can't believe in Santa Claus or encourage him with my children.

Sometimes, parents return presents to the store after children "didn't play with them right". This is an offense to any child, and thus is child abuse. Let children play with presents any way or no way at all. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Pedophilic children: How to bring up a pedophilic child

Many parents' worst fear is their child being abused by a pedophile. But, what if the pedophile is your own son or daughter? Most parents don't know what to do about such a revelation from a child. Most parents associate pedophiles with the scum who rape or sexually assault children. However, pedophiles are the core victims of lawful child abuse, including especially sexual shaming abuse.

What is pedophilia? A pedophile is often used as a euphemism for something hidden. However, the fact of the matter is that a pedophile is a person, not a package that is hidden in the brain. Pedophilia, in most cases, is where the age-oriented sexual preferences of an individual with autism that correspond with the individual's developmental immaturity. Most pedophilia is a form of sexual immaturity, with most pedophilia being connotational instead of a driven attraction. Most pedophiles have an autistic specialty in children, where the whole center of the pedophile's worldview is children. Pedophilia is an understory of child-centered autism. I myself am a pedophile - most of my world revolves around children, in a selfless and humanizing way towards the child. Pedophilia, to me, is a humanizing attraction. Most pedophiles have "exist" autism, meaning most autistic pedophiles are capable of empathy, but may be more distant from you if you are not a child. I have that form of autism, and I prefer to be alone, or else with children, though I can read people and empathize if I have to. I only want friends with children, but I wait for the child to come to me.

I am fortunate compared to most pedophiles. Most pedophiles were sexually shamed by parents just for being a pedophile. I myself got the right treatment and sensitivity for being a pedophile when I was young. My parents and therapist listened and validated my attraction to children. My therapist was cautious about applying the label, due to the stigma attached to that label.

It is a myth that a pedophile requires praise. Most pedophiles are not narcissists, but are depressed or angry victims. Most pedophiles are ultimate victims, meaning they have a mental disability such as autism or ADHD. Pedophile sensitivity is a listening sensitivity, not a praising sensitivity. The only praise us pedophiles ask for is acknowledgment that we exist.

It is a myth that the Bible prohibits masturbation. The Greek root word denoting lust in the New Testament is επιθυμέω (Latin: epithumeo) and refers not to ordinary sexual desire, but to sexual entitlement. Sexual entitlement is defined as, officially speaking, sexual want, to the point of sexually motivated approach. The sin line for Christians is to take the first steps at approaching an attraction figure for sexual or flirtatious reasons.

The core of the stigma against pedophiles is the false and abusive "Christian" teaching against masturbation and sexual fantasy. Most Christian churches teach against masturbation, despite much masturbation recorded in the context as a way out of sexual sin. There are two reasons that a pedophile masturbates - to discharge or to plan. Planning occurs during a "relationship" with a child, whereas discharging a fantasy is what a pedophile should strive for in masturbation, and involves purging unrequited lusts. 

The whole hysteria against pedophiles, for the pedophile, feels like not being allowed to masturbate. Most pedophiles first internalize the mental health stigma against pedophilia from their parents. That is why many pedophiles hate parents - they were sexually shamed in the name of religion just for being a pedophile. Most pedophiles aren't Christian like I am, as a great many pedophiles are atheists or agnostics. Most pedophiles are anti-religious, but with a skeptical, rule-oriented personality. Even I am a Christian of the skeptical type, meaning I have heard out all the evidence, and find much proof for the Otherworldly (the Resurrection has over 10,000 witnesses). Pedophiles often learn rules of evidence to filter out bad ideas that cause spiritual pain. 

Most pedophiles are autistic, but in a way where they know a lot about children, and memorize facts about children. I myself have a child-centered autistic personality, meaning all of my special interests as a pedophilic autistic revolve around children. My interest in children's rights started at puberty. Whenever you see someone with autism be good with children, think pedophile, as most individuals with autism are easily annoyed by children. 

If your child tells you that they are a pedophile, hear them out, and listen to them. Chances are, they would be in tears. A vulnerable confession such as that is not manipulation, but instead is a cry for help. Most pedophiles disclose because they are asking for help, not in order to excuse child abuse. When a disclosure is tone-deaf, and the child lacks boundaries with much younger children, then they are what we call an obvious abuser.

The most oppressed of all pedophiles are still children themselves. Being a child alone can be tough in our society. However, children who happen to be pedophiles have two strikes against them. If you have a family history of autism, know that pedophilia is a disorder closely associated with autism in terms of genetics. Most parents do figure out that their children are pedophiles, and usually stomp all over their attempts to masturbate. 

Children can be diagnosed as having pedophilia starting at age 16, and can be detected much earlier than that. Most pedophiles find themselves attracted to children starting at age 16, when they come to the conclusion that they are growing up, but their attractions are not. This horrifies the pedophile, who then wants the desires to go away. Only, the desires are not going away, and so pedophiles need to accept that they have the disorder, meaning come to terms with the fact that they are attracted to children. If a pedophilic child sounds chipper and upbeat in their self-diagnosis of pedophilia, that is not a normal disclosure - I disclosed that way, and so I had to go the opposite way and find reasons why my attractions are pathological. Most pedophiles, if they did disclose fully, are tearful and anguished about it, and those same tears are seen as manipulation and used against them. I myself made other pedophilic children look bad by being an obvious abuser, and so I have to atone for being a pedophile in relation to children. I myself did commit sexual harassment as a child as an adult, and atone for making pedophiles look bad, as well as offending children. I did most all of the Twelve Steps in order to humble my pride in relation to children, as I struggled with infatuations that drove me to be an antisocial "flirt". I didn't see anything wrong with approaching young girls for flirtatious reasons. 

The enemy of all pedophiles is not the survivor, but the abuser. "Pedophile" is a common projectory excuse for adults who rape or sexually assault children, even in the vast majority of cases where pedophiles are not the abuser, and when the pedophile is the victim, the abuser takes advantage of the pedophile stigma. The word "pedophile" is not a medical excuse for abuse of any kind, and when you use that word as an excuse for abuse, you make it that much harder for actual pedophiles to seek the mental health services that they need. Most sexual abusers of children are not pedophiles, but instead are opportunistic narcissists who stumble upon a once-and-a-lifetime opportunity to abuse a child.

The depraved and decadent, defiled child rapists and sexual assailants will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into torrents of Hell-fire! Repent!

Birth nudity: Why birth nudity is a Christian tradition

Many parents think that children should keep the clothes on, and even punish children for dress immodesty. However, the core aspect of Christian attachment parenting is birth nudity, which occurred during the first 6 years of life.

Birth nudity is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word refers to a secure attachment between parents and children, meaning a secure attachment is commandment from God. This secure attachment came from parent submission.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were hated largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Birth nudity was the main parenting practice for young children under age 6. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mothers and children were quartered in the nude next to each other, in the family home, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Children up until age 3 were constantly held or else wrapped up in a papoose bag, with both mother and child in the nude. When children were aged 3-6, they ranged next to mothers, hand in hand. When mothers and children did go out and about, the children were swaddled next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets. Children in biblical times earned their clothing when they were baptized.

The modern application of birth nudity is where mothers take off from work, and tend to their babies and young children for the first 6 years of a child's life. The idea is instead of children earning their clothing, the clothing is left out on a hanger, within reach of the child. Until the child chooses their clothing, they are allowed to run around naked in the household. At some point, the child tries on the clothing on their own, in most cases out of wearing clothing being modeled to them. Until then, mothers are to pamper their children with intense closeness and intimacy. Skin-on-skin closeness continues in co-sleeping format, until children shake themselves free from that, in most cases at the onset of puberty.

When children were given birth nudity for the first 6 years of their life, the gave parents the respect that they earned. Respect was earned in biblical times for children, not handed out for free on a silver platter. The respect that was earned of children, when children were older, stemmed from the close birth nudity between mother and child. From there, children instinctively listened to their parents. However, the choice to listen to parents is a decision between a child and God, not something enforced on children.

The Christian tradition of birth nudity is a biblical tradition that predates Christianity itself. The Bible and its context are what we glean from as a society. The Bible is a founding document in this country, even above the Constitution itself. The Bible commands a secure attachment between parents and children, when understood in its context. Part of that secure attachment was birth nudity, and that wamth and closeness won over children, and gained good graces with children.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous respect: Why respect in parenting is earned (not handed out for free by children)

Many parents, if not most, want their children to respect them. Most American parents feel deserving of respect, and make demands based on that entitled worldview. Righteous respect, however, means that parents need to earn the respect of children.

Righteous respect is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV: 

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word refers to secure attachment, meaning God commands a secure attachment in all cases in parenting. This secure attachment comes from parent submission, meaning parents are to submit to children.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but nor limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in several orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords in order to punish a child, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were hated largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Respect for children was a thing in biblical times. However, respect was understood differently then. Biblical respect for children came from closeness. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were quartered next to each other in the family home, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Whenever children cried, mothers responded by cooing at the child, and then picked up children, holding the child in her arms next to her bosom. When out and about in public, children were swaddled next to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets. Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers, in skin-on-skin format. Co-sleeping ended at the onset of puberty, when children wanted their own place to sleep. This closeness with mothers set the stage for parents earning their respect.

Parents bear the burden of proof in a mutual submission relationship with their children. Parents are not deserving of respect. The only exception is when children deliver that deservance. Thus, parents should take an undeserving attitude towards their children. Most parents these days, in the modern context, need to have an attitude adjustment. That means lose the parental entitlement, and be convicted of your entitled existence as a parent, at all levels, including the bottom one. The abovementioned context is how you win your child over.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!

Righteous pampering: Why God wants children to be pampered

Many parents believe that pampering children is the irresponsible choice. Most parents avoid even the appearance of pampering their children. This is a common attitude amongst American children. The fact of the matter is that not only is it acceptable to pamper your children, but, in fact, they need it. 

Righteous pampering is part of the Christian doctrine of mutual submission. See Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to secure, vulnerable rest in the love and submission of parents. This word refers, ultimately, to secure attachment, meaning secure attachment is a commandment from God. Secure attachment comes from parent submission, meaning parents are to submit to their children.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers to damages or offenses, namely the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. This commandment was intended by the Apostle Paul, and understood in its original context, as a moral statute prohibiting all forms of punitive parenting, including, but not limited to, any punishments, reprimands, or other controlling demeanor towards children. In the Old Testament, punitive parents were put to death by way of bloodletting, after punishing their children one last time. Parents who punished their children were charged with kidnapping, with "kidnapping" being defined under the Law as the slightest of damages or offenses stemming from hostage-taking  - child punishment was seen in biblical times as holding your child hostage merely for things that they did wrong, thereby treating your child as a quartered slave. Paul here was lifting up the Law in order to convict a group of Greek Christian parents who brought their pagan custom of spanking and punishing children into the church. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed to any and all punishment of a child in his secular writings. Paul may not have gotten along with the women of the church, but he sure loved children, and even took in a few orphaned children in his time. Indeed, Greco-Roman fathers used the scourge of cords to punish their children, but NOT the Christians among them - the Early Christians were hated largely for being "too soft" on their children.

Righteous pampering means that not only is it acceptable for children to be pampered, but, in fact, they need it. Righteous pampering also denotes that children be pampered in a specific manner stated in the context. For the first 6 years of a child's life, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever the mother went, so did the child. The Early Christians practiced birth nudity, where mother and child were quartered next to each other in the nude, in the family home, in skin-on-skin closeness and intimacy. Whenever children cried, mothers cooed before picking them up, then holding the child next to their bosom in skin-on-skin mammary closeness.

When out and about in public, young children - under age 6 - were swaddled to the bosom of mothers in swaddling blankets. The swaddling blankets were made of velvet, which was grown throughout the Ancient Middle East. The swaddling blankets were tied to the left breast of the mother, then across the dot to the right leg of the mother, or vice versa, or both in the case of twins. When children cried in public, it was silent tears, and children were then held closer to the bosom of mothers, perhaps being breastfed right there and then.

Come nightfall, children co-slept next to mothers in skin-on-skin format. Children who were milk-dependent were breastfed to sleep before sleeping next to mothers. Breastfeeding usually ended at around age 3 - when the child pushed away the nipple - but sometimes, the breastfeeding lasted until age 6. Children shook off the nighttime closeness of parents, in most cases, at the onset of puberty. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!