Many parents want their children to respect them. The Bible does say to respect your parents. However, respect for parents is earned in parenting. The fact of the matter is that respect for parents comes in the form of closeness to parents, not fear of parents.
Children. obey your children in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.
The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and is better translated as "trust" as in "trust in your parents in all things". This commandment refers to children surrendering into the loving arms of parents, and into the Agape love of parents. Ultimately, this commandment refers to a secure attachment between parent and child. The context, when used as a guidepost, tells us how to form a secure bond with your child.
Respect for parents was a thing in biblical times. However, this respect came in the form of closeness to parents, not fear of parents. For the first 6 years of childhood, children were in constant closeness to mothers, meaning that wherever mom went, so did her child. For the first 2 years of childhood, children were constantly held by mothers, either in her loving arms, or else on mom's back in a papoose bag when her hands were full. Between ages 2-6, children ranged next to mothers, with children seemingly attached to the hip of mothers, not allowing mothers out of their line of sight, with children morbidly fearing that mothers will "go away and never come back". Whenever a child cried, mothers cooed before responding to the child's cries, and then she diagnosed the need before meeting that need. The five basic categories of needs in children consist of food, water, shelter, transportation, and attachment - with the greatest of these needs being attachment! Maybe the child was tired, but that was lumped in with attachment needs, as co-sleeping was the norm in the Early Church. Whenever young children under age 6 were out and about with mom, mothers wrapped the child up in swaddling blankets next to her bosom, then tucking the swaddling blankets underneath her loose-fitting dress that resembled an apron. Christian parents in the Early Church did what was known then as birth nudity when at home, where children went naked wherever they went, and with mothers also going naked within the context of the family home. This birth nudity setup helped facilitate easy skin-on-skin contact, with this skin-on-skin closeness happening even when a child was merely picked up.
Christian fathers in the Early Church did not rape their children. Instead, fathers masturbated to sexual thoughts of their children. This helped them imprint on their children, and feel closer to their children. Fathers then nurtured their children, but in a teaching way. Fathers encouraged religious learning in children, and left out a Bible for children to discover and explore.
Respect is earned in life, meaning that respect is not bestowed on a silver platter. This means that if you want respect from your child, you have to earn it. As a parent, you are deserving of absolutely no respect. Nothing. Nada. Zilch. Parenting should be a thankless job, meaning you are not deserving of thanks just for existing as a parent. A parent is a simple custodian, in the many meanings of that word.
The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!
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