"Benign deprivation": Why the frequent use of the word "no" is child abuse

Many parents buy into it. Most American parents support the concept of "benign deprivation", which ultimately amounts to parents saying "no" frequently and often. Most American parents think that children need to hear the word "no" frequent and often  However, the fact of the matter is that the Bible commands that the word "no" be used seldom, meaning almost never. The frequent use of the word "no" is child abuse, according to the Bible.

God's Law on child abuse is spelled out in Colossians 3:21 KJV:

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. Child abuse is understood in the Bible, as a legal concept, as entitlement in parents, leading to offense in children. The key is to avoid offense in your child. The idea behind avoiding offense in children is to give a meaningful apology whenever you hurt your child's feelings. One main thing that hurts children's feelings is being told the word "no". Whenever your child cannot accept the word "no", it is a good time to apologize to your child. However, whenever you say "no" to your child out of anger or haste, you definitely need to apologize for losing your cool with your child, as losing your cool as a parent, in and of itself, is entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christian parents who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly translated "power to the parent", including the power to impose punitive measures onto children. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was against anything harsh with a child, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men.

Under customary law in the Early Church, the word "no", as a general rule, was banned. The only exception was when the petitioned requests of children were unsafe, unworkable, and/or immoral. Whenever a child could not accept the word "no", they were given an informal apology in the form of reassurance and an explanation for the word "no". 

However, most of the time, parents did not say "no" directly, but instead used nicer-sounding language than the word "no". Such phrases included parents saying "that won't work", "that can't happen", or "that isn't possible". A firm word "no" was saved for when children committed purity offenses, including sexual promiscuity, in which case they had to own up to purity offenses at their baptism. However, if children died before being baptized, they immediately inherited the Kingdom of God, as the greatest in the Kingdom of God. 

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!