Time-in: Why mammary closeness is the biblical way of doing time-in

Many parents are looking for alternatives to spanking. Most parents think that time-out is the way to go. However, the right way to deal with a crying child is through time-in. Time-in comes in many forms, with some parents kneeling down to their child's level in order to comfort them, and others send their children to a calming corner. However, there is a biblical method of doing time-in - mammary closeness.

God's Law prescribes a secure attachment between parent and child. See Colossians 3:20 KJV:

Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and is better translated as "trust", as in "trust your parents in all things". This passage refers to secure rest, with children surrendering into the loving arms of parents, with parents showing Christian Agape love to their child. Ultimately, this passage refers to a secure attachment between parent and child. The context, when used as a guidepost, tells us how to form a secure bond with your child. One good way to start is time-in, namely in the form of mammary closeness.

Christian parents in the Early Church had a certain specific way of doing time-in, with this method being mammary closeness.  Whenever a child cried, mothers picked up the child, then holding the child close to her bosom in skin-on-skin mammary closeness. Children cry largely because they need something, with the most common of needs being attachment. Whenever a child cried, mothers first did mammary closeness, and if that didn't work, she tried through trial and error to figure out what the child needed. Maybe they were hungry. Maybe they were tired. Maybe they need mom's milk. But, usually, all your child needs is YOU. 

For the first 6 years of childhood, children growing up in the Early Church cried whenever they needed something, and it was up to mothers to figure out what the child needed. Most children past age 6 then were cooperative with parents, in a way that made the parents' day. However, this bliss can only happen if the child is well cared for in the formative years of their childhood. Children are born trusting in their parents for all things. Punishment and even mere parent anger only violates this trust in children. 

Mammary closeness and breastfeeding go hand and hand. This breastfeeding stopped when the child rejected the nipple. This usually happened around age 2. However, some of the time, children weren't ready for solid foods until age 6 or even above. Christian mothers in the Early Church breastfed their children whenever called to, including in public. 

Mammary closeness is the key to forming a secure bond with your child. As soon as you co-snuggle with your child in skin-on-skin mammary closeness, you will regret not doing so sooner. The traction between the bodies of mother and child helps form a secure parent-child bond.

The depraved and entitled parents who punish their children instead of use time-in will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them descend into the abyss, which is the lake of fire and burning sulfur prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Repent!