Oppositional-defiant disorder: Why children with ODD need less limits (not more)

Some parents have to deal with it. A child that is oppositional and defiant in terms of having a mental health disorder. Most parents think that such a child needs more limits. However, the fact of the matter is that children with ODD need attachment parenting just like any other child does. This means less limits than conventional parenting.

God's Law on child abuse can be applied to children with ODD today. See Colossians 3:21 KJV: 

Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and refers here to offenses or damages, namely the slightest of personal offense perceived by a child, including, but not limited to, the slightest of offensive touch or speech perceived by a child, stemming from entitlement. It is not enough to avoid spanking or punishing a child with ODD. Instead, parents need to avoid offense in their child with ODD, meaning that any upset in a child requires an apology, including even back talk. ODD features children not accepting the word "no", and so a parent should apologize whenever a child cannot accept a set limit. It is especially imperative to apologize to your child formally whenever you lose your cool with your child, as any parent anger directed towards a child constitutes entitlement. This commandment cross-references the Eighth and the Tenth Commandments, with the Apostle Paul here convicting a group of Greek Christians who brought into the church their pagan custom of patrias potestas, which is a Latin phrase roughly, translating to "power to the parent", including the power to impose punitive sanctions on children, such as spanking or other forms of punishment. Paul, contrary to popular legend, was anti-spanking, and opposed any and all punitive parenting in his secular writings. Attachment parenting was banned under Roman law, but the Early Christians did it anyway, obeying God over men. The advice in this commandment applies to all children today, but especially when a child has ODD. 

ODD in a child is not a reason to punish them. Most ODD can be treated using psychotropic medication. ODD is usually a co-morbid disorder to autism, ADHD, and/or bipolar disorder. The key is to find the right medication for the child, based on what primary diagnosis that they have. Until then, it is good to keep your child safe. Once the right medication is found, you shouldn't have any more problems. 

Part of avoiding offense in a child is to avoid nay controlling demeanor in yourself as a parent. Children have what is called a counterwill, but especially children with ODD. The idea is give up the fight, and give into the demands of children. You may find that children aren't asking for much. In most cases, all they need is YOU. 

Convetional parenting can "work" with ordinary children. But, children with ODD need even more leniency, and can only thrive when in an attachment parenting setup. The idea is to not try and control your child, but instead to give into their demands.

The depraved and entitled parents who provoke their children to anger through punitive parenting will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them be cast forever into the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices! Let them descend into the abyss which is the ever-burning Hell of fire and torment, suffering God's Wrath day and night forever and ever! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!