Why anger with your child is sin (and what to do instead)

Many parents think they have the right to be angry with a child, usually in terms of punishing children. Most parents use anger as a means to hold children morally accountable, being judge, jury, and executioner for their child. The cold hard truth is that anger is sin in relation to children.

It says in the Gospel according to Matthew, in vs. 5:21-22 KJV:

Ye have heard that it was said of old time, Thou shalt not kill, and whosoever shall kill shall be in danger of the judgment: But I says unto you, that whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.

"Whosoever is angry with his brother" means do not get angry "without a cause" means only get angry in court. Anger, in the biblical context, was seen as a function of the Law, meaning a means to interrogate your neighbor in a moral legal exchange. A defense of infancy existed under the Law, meaning children were seen as exempt from all moral legal judgment under both the Old Testament Law, and thus could not be judged under the Law. Thus, ANY anger towards a child is perjury by way of false judgment.

Child surrender, under biblical law, is different from how it is practiced in modern society. It says in Colossians 3:20-21 KJV:

Children, obey your children in all things: for this is well-pleasing unto the Lord. Fathers, provoke not your children to wrath, lest they become discouraged.

The Greek root word translated "obey" is υπακουο (Latin: hupakouo) and refers to providing custody, meaning secure, vulnerable rest and trust in the love and grace of parents, with children demanding their needs and benign wants from parents, with parents supplying, with children being able to share with and tell parents anything and everything under the sun, with children owing nothing in return to parents, and parents deserving nothing in return for their love and grace, giving without receiving, with children showing gratitude and thanksgiving for the generosity and charity of parents. The Greek root word translated "provoke...to anger" is ερεθιζο (Latin: erethizo) and literally translates to "stirring up" the anger and upset of children, referring to the Jewish idiom of "stirring the pot", referring literally literally to the offenses under the Law, meaning the torts and damages under the Eighth Commandment, including assault and battery laws that protected children from violent punishment, with the slightest of person offense perceived, including the slightest of unwanted touch. This prohibits all physical and mental punishment, as well as any and all conduct or courses of conduct that the child perceives to be degrading, harassing, menacing, or dishonoring. 

Anger dynamics in family homes in the biblical context were the reverse of today, and based on the concept of reverent rebellion, with violence and rebellion against parents being rationalized, with society rooting for the underdog, meaning the child. Children were expected to rebel, and rebellion was taken passively by Hebrew and Christian, meaning a petition of needs or a redress of grievances, and children were encouraged by their parents to stand up to them, as a means of pro-social pedophilia and siphon, meaning channeling all emotional rambunctiousness and rebellion to parents exclusively, with parents taking the brunt, and listening in a validating and forgiving manner, now matter how "rude" the child was to parents. Parents served as human ragdolls and punching bags for their children, giving without receiving. Mothers were especially close to children, with infants up to age 3 swaddled to the bosom of mothers, with children sleeping next to mothers into adulthood, with children playing freely in close range to their parents, meaning not out of their mother's line of sight, their way, or no way at all. Children were given complete freedom in the shelter of parents, and were usually silent and resourceful when leaving the nest, but open in terms of emotions to parents, with parents being safe people to confide any upset or struggle into, with parents then reflectively listening, using Socratic reasoning. Children were double-sided in biblical times, meaning in public they were quiet and shy while staying close to mother and in the shadow of father, while rebelling at home in an encouraged way, with fathers encouraging children to think for themselves, and question everything, including themselves as parents.

The depraved and entitled parents will not inherit the Kingdom of God! Let them burn and rot in the lake of fire and burning sulfur, which is the second death prepared for Satan and his accomplices, descending downwards into the abyss, being tormented for ever and ever for violating God's Law and Truth on parenting! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!