Altered wordages as form of irreligious abuse/secular (re-)indoctrination

 Many people here have trouble empathizing with my abuser. This is likely because much of the community is the same profile as my abuser - "worry" narcissist - but did not seek help here or with any trauma-informed professional. "Survivor" refers to a refined conditioning, and when that framework is entitled, the individual becomes a "worry" narcissist instead... It's not always a joke to keep to yourself. Actual authoritative parenting is very different from gentle parenting, and some setups can actually mimic parental sexual abuse in terms of recommended "parenting procedures".

Many think gentle, non-violent parenting intersects with authoritative parenting, and some here, when I say my parents were authoritative in nature, think I'm implicitly bashing gentle parenting. Absolutely not! I actually find the notion of hating gentle parents to be highly offensive. 

Authoritative parenting, also known as democratic parenting, was started by researchers that today remain pro-spanking. It was basically a "nicer" way of punishing children. The idea of spanking "out of love", known in their militant terminology as planned reprimand, is to take a few deep breaths, and then go up and spank. Doesn't work, because the child sees it as a death ritual, where I am sentenced to torture. That's even worse than just a spare swat out of anger that is quickly regretted.

They also have different origins, and different timespans of usage. Gentle parenting is shorthand for attachment parenting, and attachment parenting was the cultural norm in most every ancient culture going up to Constantine. The Early Christians were known for their pacifist ways, and that included no spanking or punishment, though many Greco-Roman fathers had to be reminded of this - see Col. 3:21, Eph. 6:4.

As for authoritative parenting? Completely man made, and fraudulent. It is based off of the faux-Christian biases of several researchers whose family values sure aren't mine. Their research is limited, and faulty at best due to how it was conducted, but the American public buys into authoritative parenting because it is an easy way to be "nice" to your child, and be your child's friend while not being a friend, and instead an authority figure. Children need stability and consistency, and of the warm, nourishing type of a friend in a parent.

Why does most child abuse happen in the United States? "Worries" of a parent, namely worries about grades, leading to "you got an F in math? I'm getting out the switch". In many cases of sexual abuse, the parent either meant to "purify" the child of "demonic possession", or else simply was an anxious adult about the safety of children, but with that worry being conflated with sexual aggression (the latter being the clinical understanding of a pedophile). Most abuse is well-meaning in this country, but should we sacrifice the victims of abuse because the abuser "meant well". The idea is that you don't mean well, even if you do, as an adult, just for holding that title. No adult truly means well in relation to children, as all were born in sin. Authoritative parenting is about parent pride, with a glamorous facade of "parents protect" which then is reversed to "protect parents" as a means of self-victimization for abusive behavior, which they all engage in and defend, and the ones that don't aren't really parents, but simply raise children and don't make excuses with a glorified title. I am not proud as an adult. I am ashamed, and convicted of my lowly status, for being so high and mighty, having the power to say "listen to me" gruffly whenever I want to - but I don't. I want them to tell me what to do, so I set it up so they simply tell me what they need, and I provide, or else let someone else provide (most likely the latter).

Authoritative parenting remains the most common way children are abused in this country, with me being a survivor of it. My father would, on occasion, spank me on the buttocks with about 8 swats, after "taking a breather". Most punishment was based on larceny of effects such as toys, and/or behavior plans that were manipulative in nature. Think the stoplight in schools - seen as brilliant to many school principals and educators, but is a form of abuse due to the negative end of positive reinforcement, meaning punishment perceived by not getting a prize. Actual positive discipline is separate from positive reinforcement, and involves positive encouragement in the form of a healthy friendship with a child, meaning where adults are more mature and responsible, and guide the child just like an adult friend who may have issues that hamper their independence, such as mental health issues.

It says in Colossians 3:20-21