Many people think that a child that asks for "too much" is a "burden" and "pest". That is actually not true. The opposite, in fact. Most people do not understand Christian love in parenting, which is giving selflessly, *without asking in return*.
Love is denoted by the Greek root word translated αγαπαο (Latin: agapao) refers to a form of surrender to the child's every vulnerable need, knowing how one is evil in relation, thus unworthy of promotion due to one's sin nature, and expecting nothing in return, therefore being grateful merely that you have a child. Most parents take their child, until perhaps someone abducts them. That has happened, and many times our anti-spanking values were misused in the process...The hope is that children reciprocate with trust and affection, ranging by their parents, leading to a friendship with a child.
What happens is that I give, and expect nothing in return, meaning demand nothing in return. If they say "thank you", that is because I earned their gratitude, but if I am not helpful, they have the right to call me out on it, and I must heed the command of the child as to what they really need.
Gratitude is more about how you give to others, and feeling good about it while it being a thankless job, and saying "you're welcome" at the proudest for doing good for someone else. With children, I likely might deny it.
A child doesn't even need to thank me. They can take the McDonald's I bought them and just eat it, without thanking me. But, at the same time, they usually do thank their parents if their parents are in the habit of saying "please" and "thank you" elsewhere...I earn that "thank you", and that heartfelt hug. I earn that trust to say whatever is on her mind. I don't demand such self-interests. I earn them.
Another form of ingratitude is completely blowing off the person being charitable towards you. However, stating "I don't want/need your 'help'" is not ingratitude. This form of ingratitude goes a step further, and dismisses and blatantly denies the existence of any help whatsoever, when perhaps the parent does like certain quirks that their child had...before killing themselves to spite their parents..."Thank you" ingratitude is common in children, and should be ideally let go, and or given a reminder in some cases, with some children, particularly those with autism.
Let the ungrateful parents BURN! Let them SUFFER! Let them LANGUISH in DESTRUCTION! Repent, for the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand!
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