Many parents and other adults believe that help is a good thing in parenting. Children, in our culture, are subjugated as help beings, and that's their only worth - ability and willingness to be "helped". Think being shoved in a corner by the jackboot of adult oppression. However, children are autonomous human beings, with perceptions of their own.
Most all child abuse is well-meaning, and is motivated by the adult as "helping" the child, in some way, in the adult's eyes, but never in the child's eyes. I am of no "help" to a child. God helps those who help themselves, meaning I prefer children figure things out on their own, and learn to do things for themselves on their own, and not be reminded.
I am not even proud of my own help towards children, or at least enough to defend it to them or away from them. "Help" entitlement is pride, and pride is sin. I am simply their help object, meaning I am there for them, not the other way around. They drag me to get them a glass of milk, drag me down the lane for a walk, or drag me to the store to get them a new phone. Anything, for my child, but only when they ask for it. Otherwise, I must assume that they want/need nothing apart from what they indicate.
The Tenth Commandment forbids all entitlement, including "help" entitlement, and such is denoted in the New Testament by the Greek root word πλεονέκτης (Latin: pleonektés) and refers to wanting to help a child to the point of seeking to enforce said item onto them, instead of offering it only when necessary, leading to theft/abuse.
When a child is in need of my attention and care, I set it up so that they come to me, by default, unless they present an imminent need that they aren't aware of, such as with younger children. They may need a coat, and so I go to them to remind them that "it is 20 degrees out, so get on your heavy jacket, please" with "please" indicating lack of entitlement in my request, whereas saying "Get your coat on, NOW, because I know what's best for you, so you don't get frostbite" is antisocial "help", and thus "help" abuse.
Children don't need my help, at all. I sometimes get in the habit that I need theirs, meaning they are best pals to co-sleep with when scared or lonely or afraid. The parents who help their children without their consent commit the moral crime of antisocial "help" leading to "help" abuse. YOU SHALL BURN!
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